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Satisfying my fetish....being tied to the bed!!! Ladies chime in please!!
bancroft1957 5 Reviews 2218 reads
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I'm not a newbie to the hobby, but definitely one when it comes to exploring fetishes.  
I've made arrangements with a fantastic provider.  She is open to my fetish, if it can be called that, of being tied to the bed, and being used by her!
My concern being, do I tell her during our chit-chat what I would like...basically me pleasuring her orally while being tied down, then some mutual oral stimulation, followed by some good old fashioned f***ing, doggie and cowgirl style.
So do I lay all my cards on the table in the beginning?  If so, would you suggest any changes in  the batting order per se?
Thanks for any and all answers!!

freddybob441155 reads

I am not a provider but my question is why would you have to pay someone to let you orally please them it all sounds pretty cool to me.  

I think I must need some sex.

Heather

freddybob441140 reads

Oh wait I am not actually a guy I just put that male name since I didn't think it would let me have an account if I put my real name Heather.  Believe or not I am actually pretty attractive.  Oh but hopelessly clueless about what men seem to want.  Other than in bed.

Heather

I don't like any real specific conversation about any sex acts in the beginning

A fetish relationship is built on trust and is much harder to do than a regular session

It's easy to say make me please you, mutual pleasure is wonderful and by the time you get to this point go ahead and talk..She will not be worried about who you are so direct dirty conversation is all part of the moment.. Get on my cock and ride me...Let me look at that beautiful ass while i'm F... you. It's all in the mood

Have fun and let yourself go
Kisses Haley

If you know she is open to your particular fetish, then the difficult part is already over. Once you are "comfortable", you can drop a hint to have her take over with the restraint. Once you are tied down, you can ask for whatever you want, in whatever order you want it. Whether you get it is up to her, because she is clearly in the driver's seat then!

You obviously gotten past the verification and screening part.  Now it is time to live out the fantasy.  Now, while some may disagree with me .. I believe that in order for this encounter to be unforgettable (in a good way) the Lady should be aware of what your fantasy is.  Exactly.

There is no need to discuss this directly in Q&A fashion.  You may wish to present in in a way of erotic fiction  .. describing your fetish and desires.  You may not even have to write it yourself ... don't think anyone would bother with copyright infringement in this case :)

XoXo

Lina

Make sure she has some experience in bondage.

Never talk about sex before the first date. I would suggest a "regular" date for the first date, just to get to know each other and break the ice.

After that, you are free to discuss sex, but just keep it clean (not raunchy). At the end of the first meeting is a good time to discuss what you would like for a future date, and see if she seems accommodating.

bobbtch481418 reads

if you find a provider who is cool with being dominant she will make sure you get what you want. somehow dommes always read my mind when they are good! hard to find but a domme who also does dates is the best for this fetish.

YUM!

My mind reels at the thought....mmmm
My fetlife dotcom page has lot's of idea's for you.

Raquel Whips

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