Hi,
Anyone know how I can get verified? I would like to see a provider but she will only see me with references. However, I need to see a provider to get references...
Any suggestions?

This topic is discussed just about every day. I'm not giving you a hard time, I'm giving you advice.
Also, read the self-help center.

Preferred411 is one and they will work with you to verify you.  DateCheck and RoomService2000 are the other main ones.  RS2K is popular in the midwest, whereas the other 2 are more nationwide.  Your situation is one that all of us have been in at the beginning.  On P411, providers can indicate if they are 'newbie friendly' which means their screening is somewhat lighter than others.  Look for these ladies in your area.

Swim

I am also looking to get verified, but it is impossible to join those other sites mentioned because I have no girlfriends who are providers and the guys who have gave me reviews in the past,  I have no idea how to contact them . UGH !

It may take a few times but eventually you will find one.  

Look on the websites such as DateCheck or P411 and start contacting providers until you find one that will see you.  When you finally find one, be a gentleman during the session and she will give a reference on a verification site.