How do you know what girl is safe and which is not? Not d&D wise, I mean safe as in legal issues.

And TER is your source.  If you do your homework here, you'll minimize your risks.  Find a well established, well reviewed lady for your first time.  Be patient with her screening process.  Make sure you've read the newbie manual, and any pertinent information on her website. Then you are on the road to establishing yourself.

Well found my first lady, she had a good review on TER, but only 2 reviews... Her website was on a larger escort service website. It seems like the "2 Call process" everyone is talking about. What do you think? I've been looking the past 2 days and she logged on everyday.

Might I suggest, invest the $20 and go VIP, while you research, research, research. (great advice blackbelt) In this crazy financial market I will personally guarantee the return on your investment will be mind boggling!

Jim

You can read TER and look for providers with many reviews (some hobbyists say to look for as many as 40+ reviews).

You can monitor the news and look for spikes in LE activity, and avoid hobbying during those periods.

You can use Date-Check, and hopefully keep much of your information with a party (Date-Check) that is one step removed from the provider.

You can use your situational awareness when you approach the provider's location (assuming an incall).  Look for things out of the ordinary: somebody sitting in a car, cars with multiple antennae in the area, etc.

But when it comes down to it, there is no guaranty that the provider you chose (40+ reviews and all) didn't get busted two hours ago and is now assisting LE.  No guaranty that LE is not engaged in a long-term sting operation (e.g., Houston late last week).  No guaranty LE won't subpoena Date-Check's records.  No guaranty that LE's stakeout is not better than your situational awareness.

Us every source available.. Im sure she would have the same to ask about you. Try signing up to P411, Date-Check and here on T.E.R. You will find it fairly easy to make your decision on who is best for you as so we do too. (I personally do not want to meet with any convicts)lol....

Good Luck,
Ashley Stone

So true Suncatcher, and all of us need to be reminded about this from time to time. There is risk involved, and everyone needs to assess his/her situation, as to what they are willing to risk. Thanks for the reminder!

So is it okay to just not show up to an appointment even after I've booked it? Or should I be calling and cancelling...

C'mon.  We are a team with the providers.  Teammates look out for one another.

Of course you call.  That's basic courtesy.  How would you like it if you went to your incall and the provider wasn't there?

Failing to show without cancelling is just as rude.

Well that may be so, but I've called her 3 times in the past 4 hours and she hasn't picked up.

And on that note I left her a message cancelling.

No Call No Show, which will get you blacklisted by providers.  They report these things to each other through their own boards and you will find yourself unable to book with a lot of providers.

NCNS against a provider is a loss of business (she could have scheduled someone else) and just plain rude.

NCNS against a hobbyist is a waste of time, effort, and possibly limited hobby opportunities as well as just plain rude.

Don't do it.

To start off, you need to find someone more established, ie more reviews.  I think a well established, well reviewed independant lady that suits your tastes would be best.

Please don't ever NCNS.  There must be respect and consideration between both parties when it comes to this hobby. As our newbie moderator said, it's not only rude, but potentially could get you blacklisted. NCNS is unacceptable on both sides.

I truly wish you the best of luck, and hope in some small way this advice has helped, for what it's worth.

2 reviews is not a well reviewed provider, and the buisness of her not returning your calls is typical of an unreviewed or fly by night provider. Find someone with at least 2 pages of good reviews, reviewed by hobbyist that also have multiple reviews, then set up an appointment and see how easy it goes.

...otherwise you are a NCNS (no call no show).  Men who do that regularly make it hard on themselves to get an appt.