For some offences like theft blacklisting is very appropriate. There are many blacklist sites put his name and number on them. You learned a major lesson that many in the hobby are not trustworthy on both sides of the envelope.

O'k!  So I am learning and I had a bad experience that will never ever happen again  It was totally my own fault because I put my guard down.

It was his third visit with me and I did not get the money up-front, so stupid!  After his experience (which he lasted 1 second!! ha!), he said he left his wallet in his car and will be right back!

Guess what happened next??

He got in his car and took off  The emotions that ran through me were unbelievable (stupid, violated, wronged, ripped:    I'm still in shock  

Then the "threatening" texts started...."don't tell or else....", etc.

Please don't respond back with "always get IT up front", I got it!

I do not want this to happen to another girl.  I have his name and cell number.  What should I do to prevent this from happening to another girl?

Thanx for reading

xoxo

in your area know about this low-life.  Use your back-channel methods to get his name and cell number to the other ladies.  

Most hobbyists are not like this.

It's happened to all of us even with years of experience!! It's happened with the agency I use to own too with repeat clients with very good references. It is true that not all hobbyist are like that. This happens rarely indeed but when it does oh boy you do feel extremely bad for a while.

These 2 scenarios are the most popular:

-a sealed envelope with a stash of one dollar bill or just papers is the most popular one
-a guy takes his envelop back and runs after the service (always hide the envelop)

Always be on your guards no matter how much info you have on the man and no matter how much credible references you have from him. Not that the providers are not honest in giving you a reference but some people just turn on someone for unknown reasons.

Contact me via pm and I will get you some sites where you can check for bad clients and post bad experience that you encounter. Also the provider only board is a good place to warn other girls.

Chin up and move on, you learned the lesson so don't dwell.

Stay safe!

Cleo

I am sorry that this happened to you.  Clearly scams work in both directions.  My Fav ladies do not pick up the donation right away, which helps with the illusion that is GFE.  I would hate for you to diminish the experience unnecessarily...  but you have to run your business your way.

I know many ladies have specific instructions on where & how to place the donation on their web site.  I hope you can back channel the creep because he gives all of us a bad name.
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That is terrible! After 2 meetings without him ripping you off he chose the third to do it...very odd! I generally trust a good client once they see me at least 2 times!

Black list that loser and make sure he never sees another sweet heart like you! I'm sure his threats will be empty but I would do some hardcore digging and find his personal information and let him know YOU have the cards...not him!

The one guy who ripped me off now is sorry. I spent months researching him and found him on facebook.(as well as where he lives,what is his job, and I even know his kid's name!) I ratted him out to his wife...so I can't imagine it went well with her...

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Thank you for all of your responsed, much appreciated.  I am new in this business and I am learning.  I am not sure how to get him blacklisted or how to let other girls know who he is!  This horrible experience did effect me in a negative way.  I feel raped  I would have never given that up to him

His name is Jxxxxx other personal information edited out

Re: - This is a very very bad suggestion

Sorry this happened to her. The hobby has bad circumstances for everyone at some moment.

But researching the offender and causing him harm outside the hobby can lead to retaliation for you TOO.  It's hard to let go of bad experiences and blacklisting is and communication with providers is appropriate - but what you say was your follow-up should NEVER be done and is NOT safe for you.

A person who would do soemthing like this in the first place has a problem. Creating issues in his personal and family life is just asking for really bad things to happen.

Please be safe and remember that hurt feellings and loss of money are not worth personal injury

Re: - This is a very very bad suggestion

I agree and have let it go.  I'm much safer and smarter now and it will never happen again.

Please instruct me how to "blacklist" to protect other ladies in my area.  In my eyes, he is a predator and I'm sure it wasn't his first time.  That may be HIS HOBBY!  Stealing from ladies, so wrong

Thank you so much for all your help  This forum has been an excellent resource for me to gain knowledge, I truly appreciate that  I am working on my website, it may take some time (learning curve)!!  Also, you can google my username and see more about me there.  I wish my reviews there could be applied here!  

I'm sure you will be seeing me in this forum often!  Thanks again xoxo