Iam a wanabe newbie in the DC metro area.Please read on to see why I use the descriptor "wanabe". I fully realize the need for discretion and care on the part of both provider and hobbyist. Prior to this time I thought that I was fortunate to be able to retire from an intense and fairly high stress profession in my 50's. I worked my ass off in order to be able to do so. As far as that all important first appointment and meeting with a provider of quality, being retired has it's drawbacks. Because I do not work (I don't have to!), I don't have a job and a work contact number. Because of this Date Check will not verify me to providers. Yes, many providers in the DC metro area will accept verification from one "well known" or two "not so well known" providers who know me, but therein lies my problem: I have been unable to make that all important first contact due to a lack of verification. I  will not take a job stuffing stocking shelves,stuffing envelopes or mopping floors just so I would have a work telephone number so Date Check might possibly be able to verify me. I mean no discourtesy to those who make their living with such jobs-but they're not for me) I'd rather start my own upstart business again if need be ... but I'd much rather play. I've already "paid my dues".  So,What to do? Any and all advice from both hobbyists and providers greatly appreciated.

Reiscretion And that all important first meeting

Going with an agency to start off with may make it easier to make that first contact. Some agencies are happy to provie referrences for you, which will help you get the ball rolling. Good luck to you.

In today’s age of technology and information, it is impossible to even conceive of the notion that a gentlemen who is successful and has any recognition in his field of expertise is impossible to clear.
 
There are so many avenues that an established provider can use to verify an individual’s identity it is unbelievable to me that anyone would even contemplate a thought of someone being “un-verifiable”……  having said that these are my thoughts for new hobbyists:

#1- (and most important !!!)  do your research and find a provider that you are confident in. –You have the tools at your disposal right here on this site to provide you with everything you could possibly need to know.
     A-Check her reviews- read what some of  
     the other gentleman have said about her.  
     In addition to using your little head to  
     savor the juicy details, be sure to pay
     attention to comments made about how she  
     screened, how she contacted him and what
     went into setting up the meeting. (*Allow  
     your big head to be as comforted and
     catered to as your little head*)

   B-Use the “reviewers screenname” to see
     which type of providers this gentleman
     usually uses. (*This is also a great way
     to shop for a provider*) If “JohnnyX” has
     posted reviews of 455 women and they are
     all over the scale in terms of discretion
     and services(*meaning he reviewed "SusieW"
     who advertises only on one site and has
     mostly 8’s & 9’s and he also has a review
     for “Baby Cakes fat lips” who is on C/L
     The Large Hound, Escorts are hot.Org, and
     in the back pages of every 25 cent flyer
     in the city...… (*Baby Cakes was offering
     BBBJ last week on the corner of 5th and
     Center Street for $15)…..-as opposed to-…..
    “ThomasX” reviewer who has 8 providers
     reviewed over a two year period and each
     provider has stated repeatedly that she    
     in UTR-(*Under the radar*) and has only a
     limited client base...… these are good
     indicators of the hobbyist interests and  
     discretion.
  C- Contact the hobbyist via his screen name
     by utilizing TER’s private mail system  
    (*this is referred to as PM or private
     message*) send him a note with specific
     questions and concerns that you might have
     about the provider (*be sure to tell
     him in the opening sentence that you are a
     newbie*) Express any concerns that are
     specific to you (*ie: discretion, drug use-      or lack of there of, etc*)
  D- Use the search tab on the discussion board
     that the provider alls home (*as well as
     your city if you are considering a
     traveling provider*) –This is the third  
     tab to the right top of the discussion
     board just under the disclaimer that
     has “search messages” on it...… Clock that
     box and then place the providers screen
     name in the box marked “author” you can
     also set the day range from 999 to 0
    (*then you will get more results) read what
     this provider has posted on the discussion
     boards.This will give you a hugimpression
     of what this provider is like. You should
     also have a general idea of what part of
     town she is located in, by reading the  
     reviews, what type of environment she
     meets friends in etc etc......…
#2- Once you are confident in a provider, compose an email with a basic introduction of yourself. Explain you are retired and you have a need for discretion. Give a general idea of what you are looking for (*no specifics*) and tell her to reply with the necessary info to continue in pursuing a meeting. The provider should take it from there.


I do have to warn you that most established providers have as much or more at stake than you do by agreeing to a meeting. So, her concerns might be as equally intense as yours. If you have sensitive information that you are uncomfortable in sharing then you will need to examine your own situation and find facts and tangible information that you feel would help her establish a level of comfort. Most established providers do have guidelines that they use to attain their level of comfort but most are also educated, intelligent women who also know more of the “not so commonly known” avenues that are just as reliable.

Best wishes in your search and good luck in your venture....…
Know your provider (*and her reputation*)  kisses ~Tori

a mini-textbook on what a newbie should do.  Very well done.  Your post may become as popular a reference as the abreviation list that sometimes appears here.

All the way from my self imposed isolation and hibernation LOL…  (*..going, going ....g-o-n-e*)

You're so beautiful Tori!

Sins hit a nail on the head. I suggest one way that you can make her suggestion work for you.

Use the TER Site Review feature to find reviews of escort agencies in the DC area. Look for one that high ratings and 5 or more hobbyists rating them. A score of 80% or better with five or more hobbyists are one that you should take a look at. Their website link is posted under their names. You can explain your reference problem to the receptionist, they may be able to help if their ladies return good reports on you and your conduct during sessions. Some top agencies will give references once you have established that you are trustworthy and respectful toward their ladies. You may decide not to venture into the hobby past a few good agencies that you come to trust.

In the words of the great british actor, David Niven, "GO SLOWLY, COME BACK QUICKLY."

Enjoy your time off, but please come back!!!

James

How nice of you to bid my travels well. (*I’m actually in your “neck of the woods” later in March*)...…just a friendly personal jump across, but I’m sure I‘ll enjoy it*)

It was great to see the hello and the kind words...……Kisses ~Tori