I am going through an issue right now where I am somewhat nervous and unsure of myself when it comes to sex. Although I've tried having intercourse four times, i have been unable to perform due to anxiety and inexperience. I've been interested in seeking an escort to help me overcome this barrior. The problem is that I am 19 years old and from the posts that i've read, this endeaver may prove to be extemely difficult due to my young age. I am very good-looking, respectable, and mature, and am fully capable of paying for the services as well. I haven't actually tried yet, but I fear that I will not be able to find a high-class escort that will see me. I would appreciate any suggestions on what to do here.

At 19 ... your too young to be doing this in MHO ... You need a girlfriend that is as inexperienced or almost as you .. grow and teach each other.  I think your nervousness is the real issue here and seeing a provider is just going to increase your nervousness and anxiety .... If you are what you say you are than find yourself a girlfriend go slow relax and enjoy .. you have plenty of time to grow old and become a horney old bastard like myself .....

Dude-  You are of the age where being with people your own age would be the key to a future life of sex.  Go do Civvie girls.

If you want you might get an older mature lady to give you a spin first, but the real working girls who are only a little older than you will probably just fuck up your head.

Besides, you need to learn about real sex with real ladies- where you have to please them, not get to just get yours.  Learn why porn is totally NOT real sex.  Learn about disappoiontment, heartache etc.


Then make a ton of cash and come back to this board.  This is NOT real life!

yeah, but the problem is that my self-esteem is so defeated and i'm so nervous due to my sexual failure that i'm afraid to even pursue intercourse when i'm with a normal girl. Also, i don't have a girlfriend right now and most girls i meet aren't willing to just have sex so soon. I only wanted to do this to get myself over the fear so i'm able to function with normal women.

Check out the reviews for Dallas (I assume you live in Dallas or near from your handle).  Look for older providers who have high performance scores, they are the most likely to have the maturity, technique and more importantly, the patience that you need from a woman.  I suggest that you choose providers who are 27 or older, some will not see you because of your age but some will, you need to contact them to find out which ones will see you.
    One thing that you need to focus on is working the please the provider as much as you expect her to please you.  If you develop good ability in this area, you will find that you are more patient with women in general, this is a key to allowing attraction to develop between you and women - allow them to decide that they want you involved with them - do not in any way press for a relationship.
    When with a provider, do not be afraid to explain your problems to her.  If you have done a good job of choosing her, she will be able to offer a large amount of good advice to you.  Listen to that advice and ask followup questions if any come to mind.  Through such an exchange, you will develop ease with women that will help you when you are dealing with non-provider women.
    Good luck and practice safety.  Keep in mind that many young men have the problem that you have, so do not feel like you are abnormal.

I think i'm gonna give this a shot although i'm not going to rush into anything and i expect that i will be turned down by many. I wish there was a way i could find out which providers would take me up on the offer without having to feel rejected over and over.

Even though i'm a few years older.  so what you guys are saying is that providers are experienced in dealing with clients that aren't really "experienced", and [depending on who they are] are understanding?  so, what kind of things do you look for in a review that tells you that she will be?  how would you go about saying that to her?

OK Dallasguy, as one of the youngest men on this board, in my mid 20's,  I somehow feel like I must step in and reply to this one since I might offer a slightly different perspective.

First off, it's normal for many guys, so don't sweat it. If you are indeed determined that seeing a pro is the way to go and came to the right place to get help ... well, here's what I can offer.

Do your homework, read reviews of known, trusted ladies in your area and find the one right for you. Usually when I contact a provider to schedule an appointment, the subject of age never comes up. They never care about age as long as you have the $$$ and are a gentleman. You may have trouble getting that first appointment without a reference from another provider. Keep trying and find a lady that is willing to see you by some other verification such as employment info. Most are surprised when they open the door to find someone their own age and recently a couple have thought I was LE until I proved otherwise.(to be a smartass I looked up at her while DATY and asked "so, still think I'm a cop?") So don't let any of that bother you. Once you arrive at that first appointment, don't be afraid to discuss any and all of your issues, open up and be honest, she has heard it all and dealt with this before. Let it all out so she can understand and hopefully help.

My suggestion would be DO NOT FOCUS ON INTERCOURSE!!! (don't mean to yell but wish to emphasize a point) That is the biggest mistake we all made as teens. Sit down, relax, have a nice conversation and get to know her a little; just talk a little weather. Then, when you are more comfortable with one another engage in foreplay, or exchange sensual massages work well for me. Work on pleasing her orally and let her coach you through that process. Getting and giving this satisfaction may help the rest cum naturally (pardon that bad pun).

Lastly, follow the advice others stated here. Do not fall in love, or spend too much time or money getting addicted to this hobby. Providers are not girlfriends and the hour is strictly your fantasy; always keep that in perspective. The hobby is not in any way a replacement for the experiences of building/sustaining a real relationship with a special girl. If it can help you get over this hurdle though, more power to you. You can learn much about yourself and relationships through the hobby if you find the right provider(s). Many of my previous posts have had to do with this exact subject. What I have learned, is that the hour is rarely ever about physical desires anymore. Yeah, who knew, surprised me too. But it has helped with my relationships with family, friends, and of course better with women emotionally and intellectually. Notice again not physically; and with an expensive hobby certainly not financially. Take from this what you will and I hope this helps.

best regards, good luck, and please play safe, mr.man      

When you read reviews you want to pay close attention to how the reviewers rated the provider for "warmness" and how she was rated as a conversationlist.  Look for descriptions like "meeting an old friend", or "very engaging and warm".  Terems like "very friendly" probaly does not mean as much since you can have a provider who is always smiling but is also all business, you want a person who loves what she is doing and feels that she is having a positive impact upon you.
    To Dallasguy75 specifically, do not worry about rejection.  If you do a very good job in evaluating review information, you will end up calling providers who will more than likely be very civil with you - some may suggest an alternative provider if they either are unwilling to see you or are unable to see you for some reason.

i know exactly what u mean dallas......

i saw my first provider when i was 18 and evn though it is a great fantasy experience, do not look into the hobby as a way to replace anything you think you might need in your "real life"

im 19 goin on 20 and have seen a few providers, 3 to be exact, they were all great and wasnt worried once about my inexperience in the hobby, my suggestion is READ ALOT OF THE REVIEWS AND POSTS, they are a great source of info and teach alot bout how to act and how to avoid any problems...good luck to ya

I had the same problem when i was your age. Couldn't get it up due to anxiety. Then when it happens it is so scaring that you are scared to do it again. What I found is you need to be upfront with the girl. I too am very good looking so keep that in mind. ANyway - say something like "I get nervouse sometimes. Don't know why but I do". You get to know the girl first, take things slow, make her think you are a gentleman. Then things will be fine. Also it may help to get Viagara. I did and used a couple times before I would make a botty call. It's all about confidence. Once you do it without the viagara you're fine.