and i open the door, should i give her a kiss and start feeling her up, just give her a kiss, or let her get change and don't do anything? I prefer to let her come in, talk a little, and get dressed and then start the fun. What do escorts expect???  thanks

I think most of us appreciate the chance to get to know you a little before getting groped. I like a light kiss and maybe a hug, then a little chat before I change. After all, we're civilized, right? Once we know you, the activities can get a little more playful right from the get-go!

In the words of my ATF "Just be normal"

I would prefer that we get comfortable first with small talk, glass of wine, which would lead up to great foreplay!

The greeting a gentleman introduces himself with is usually my first clue as to what he expects out of the encounter. Guys please remember if this is the first time you are meeting her she knows very little of your desires or expectations. I usually suggest that a new friend, just try to be as much himself as he can.

You wouldn't exactly grab my ass and mutter something obscene and expect a GFE now would you? As long as you use your opening behavior as an indicator to your expectations, your encounter should be what you had in mind.

(*-One additional thing- if you have an idea that you might be standoff-ish, because of this new and strange experience, you can always let her know prior to the meeting that you might be challenged at communicating if you feel nerves might get the best of you when you first meet*)
kisses ~Tori

I prefer that also!

I don't think it would leave a good impression if you deep french kissed her and grabbed her heiny the moment she walked through the door.  I normally want to chat a little or at least see her for a few minutes to feel a little more comfortable.  But if her personality is ok with me and I start to feel ok, then I'm ready.  Once we really get into it, I can softly say a lot of things (including some 4-letter words) into her ears.  I hope that most escorts don't mind that too much.  It helps me to get exited and I would think once in the act that a few raunchy sexual words in her ears would be ok, as long as I don't get carried away (example....I want to ____ in your ____).  I wonder how far is too far.  Maybe someone can tell me.

Going slow, and paying extra respect is always the best policy when visiting with a new lady.  Remember, while she may be helping you live a fantasy for an hour or two, you are with a REAL person, who you may need to ask for a refernce in the future.  Once you are and she are comfortable with other, there many ways for you to indicate that it is time to move on.

One of the hardest things for me during my newbie period was how to answer the "what do you want to do next" once both of us were naked.  I was raised in a religious home, my parents were missionaries in Africa, and I was raised to have a healthy repect for women.  It is almost impossible to talk dirty to a lady.  Still I would advise that the more open, honest, and frank description of what you want, need, or desire will help your experience.  Remember, this is how she makes a living.  It is in her interst to show you a great time and make you want to come back again.  HOWEVER, do your homework!!!  Every lady has, and is entitled to her limitations and restrictions, which must be repected.  Asking a lady to do what she is not known for in her reviews, can only lead to frustration and dissatisfaction.  Going TOO FAR, demanding what is beyond she is willing to provide, may cause you to be blackballed.

Hope this helps,

jazz32

Hope this helps,

jazz32

I have to laugh when you said your parents were missionaries in Africa.  My parents have always been involved in the church.  I am pretty conservative and gosh noone would suspect such things from me.  I have to gain VIP status soon so I can read what the ladies will and won't do.  I do go with my instincts but everyone is different, and what one lady might like another might be insulted by.  I sort of expect that some women want to hear something provocative talk like that during sex, because it lets them know that their sensuality is working well on me and they want me do what a man does.  Of course I try not to go too far, almost like going into role playing.
At my 40ish age though I don't mind asking about different sexual acts (even some a little deviant), and if they politely say no, that is just fine with me.  I would never try to force anyone to do anything they don't like.  I am just trying to get a feel what others thought and have done, the more I know, the more I relax.  Thanks for the info, expecially about your family, I still have a smile on my face.  mea culpa

As for gaining VIP membership. the easyest way is to pay for it.  Once you pay the $20 for 1 month, you can cancel the account immediatley.  You will have full access to the TER database for the full period you paid for.  All future payments are cancelled. I have done this on more than one occaision.  I realize that I an unique, no wife, no kids, no SO, my personal risk by playing is very low. Still the risk of exposure with this plan is rather low,

James


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I have a couple of reviews pending (under a different name than historian05), so I probably won't have to wait too long for VIP membership.  I have some other thing set up in the near future.  I am in a similar situation, but have an asian girlfriend who lives in asia.  I wish this site was around 10 years ago when I didn't have much happening, would have been much better for me at that time.  Trying to play catch up I feel.  Myself, I don't like the term 'hobby' so much, for me it's more of a basic need...I need to do what I need to do. I am glad I live here in the eastern US within an easy drive of the major cities.