Okay, so help me out here.  I read over and over not to discuss money on the phone nor in emails.  That is great when you see someone who has reviews and the price is mentioned in the VIP review information, or if it's on her ad.  But for non VIP's or ladies who choose not to be reviewed or who have not yet been rated yet one is ready to TOFTT, how and when do you broach the subject??  Any suggestions....

I think as long as you are polite and not explicit you should be fine.  Try something along the lines of "Could you please tell me what an appropriate gift/donation for an hour of your time/company would be"  You may want to follow that up with something along the lines of whether there are any additional fees you should be aware of.

Just be tactful, and you will probably get a pleasant response.

Thank you ladies, and I agree with NetM.  If going to the trouble of building a web site, then put it in there.  But for those without sites that use a location like City-Source, there's seems to be a problem with posting rates.  I presume the site owner does not approve for fear of....  Again, thank you for the suggestions

I agree with Michelle too. However, we've all come across the sites with no rates. But there is always a way to email the provider. I have no problem emailing and asking what the rate/fee is for the desired time.

But I always make email my initial contact, even if they have a phone number posted.

As a client I first check the website, and read it COMPLETELY, then if nothing is mentioned about handling the gift, I simply put it into a plain envelope, unsealed, and place in a conspicuous location when we meet.

He'll need to know her price before he goes any further. If she is too expensive for his budget, it would be a waste of everyone's time to go through all the screening just to find out he can't see her anyway.

If a lady doesn't wish to post her price, or doesn't want the publicity of a website, then she has to be prepared to be upfront and tell the donation as soon as he contacts her.

I'm like you, NOSC--I leave the price on my website and never have to discuss it at any time. I think it's classier and safer that way.

of course!  Just email and ask her to please write back with her rates.  You did not state for what and nor will she.  No sting possible here.

I concur with NOSC 200% in everything that she is saying here. Please men: READ the providers website first. I always delete emails that have references to fees, anything sexually graphic, anything that will have me seeing warning signals. If you are unable to read reviews, because you are not a paying member: BECOME a TER member! The membership will help you in many ways.

Mel

ask what there is gift is