I am going for my first experience with a provider who offers a massage at a flat rate.  Is it proper to tip her on top of the flat rate? And if so how much.

I think jellybellies8® (2/17/2006 6:15:23 PM) thread below satisfactory answer this question.  How much is an individual choice but I usually “give at least” 20%.  Hope that helps

Especially for the independent. While it might earn you bonus points if you wished to return - don't count on it... Remember, this tip was your's to give and for what they did to make it special - not for you to expect better in the future..

Now, if your massage provider is an Indy - sorry, I am cheap and unless she gave me more then what I come to expect as standard I just paid what she considered fair and reasonable.

But, when it comes to Agency workers - they are cut a significant portion of the take and I take sympathy and might tip 20 or 40...

If it is an AMP - there are different tipping rates for the services from HJ to FS above paying the house for the time and room..

So, you decide what it's worth if you wish to tip - don't look for a standard from anyone - give what you want or don't give at all... This is not a restaurant where tipping is 20%...

...I know that every lady will accept every $ you are prepared to give her, but what really is expected?

Several months ago, I asked if I was given in my eyes, the bum's rush because I didn't offer something extra (foolish on my part, as I was visiting one of Phoenix's top ladies at a fantanstic resort, where she was for a photo shoot.  OK, her friend for the night arrived a bit earlier than expected, it had nothing to do with me).  Fortunately, she took my insecurities, and apologies, in the right way, and we now have a very friendly ad sexy relationship.

I understand that most massage parlour ladies don't post, and don't have websites.  This makes your challenge a bit more difficult.  Reading these can provide small, simple, and inexpensive gift ideas, that when you provide them, will leave a lasting impression.

Hope this helps,

jazz32

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Thanks for the information this will help.  I forgot one more question - When I present the donation, should I include the tip then, or wait till after the service?

Thanks

This to varies on the circumstances. Unless you are sure they are worth the tip - don't give it up front. Since most of those I see the gift fee is usually dropped upon entering the room on some table or as described by the provider. So, when you are finished and wish to express your appreciation, it can be dropped again some place obvious to her..

It would be nice to hear from providers as this can be treated differently.

If you are talking about an AMP - they take the room money up front and I drop the tip on a table before they come back.

Again Thanks - you have been quite helpful.
Since this is my first time - wish me luck

In the business of stage performers it would be "Break a Leg" What would be appropriate here???

- hmm, well I guess that would apply also since for some it is considered our third leg - LOL...

As a provider, I've experienced that most gentlemen  have tipped as they are moved to do so. I have been told that the extra money was for my beauty or graciousness or that inexplicable "something" that I did for him that evening.

It is truly subjective and, typically, never expected by the more experienced Providers.

Have fun and be safe!

Emma McKain

My donation amounts are all-inclusive.  I'm NEVER disappointed without a tip or a gift, but a little extra thought or tip is appreciated.  It's a cliche, but it's true.

not a tough subject at all.  i tip at the end, and drop the money on the envelop containing the initial donation.  Unless you have seen the girl and know she is great, why would you tip upfront?  If she is poor, you've given her a tip for nothing.  Just as easy to do it at the end than at the beginning. I am not sure I understand why anyone would have a problem putting money on the table at the end.  I've even given it to someone hand to hand,the act is over at that point, and neither of you can be LE.

I usually tip every provider I see around 20% to 25%. Fortunately, with one exception, all have been very gracious.

The other day I tipped a lady and she looked at me in disbelief and said it wasn't necessary. I told her I like to tip people and encourage them.

I think this is simply a philosophy of the person who is receiving the service. If you are generous to a server at a restaurant more than likely you will show the same generousity to a provider. If your cheap ... you'll be cheap with your provider.

I promise you there are several providers who would change their schedule to see me if I call, but I don't do it for that purpose.

I do it because I can and I enjoy it ... just as I enjoy the services of the providers.

TOMC