i'm just starting out and noticed how awkward the money exchange is, naturally. So what's the best way to add a tip at the end without seeming crass? I assume you can't really open your wallet and toss over more money, or can you?

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yes chatalong, you most certainly could just "open up your wallet toss over more money" without any objections. although I think most of us prefer to do something a little more dignified.

I usually lay down my "gift/donation" envelope on a table or nightstand as we get comfortable and place my wristwatch nearby. afterwards, as I go back to pick up my watch, I will have a couple of bills folded up in my pocket which can be placed next to the envelope with out drawing attention or making a scene.
best regards, mr.man

dont worry about it from talking to the providers, thehave no problem with you just opening up your wallet. However, if you leave it on the dresser or nightstand it may suggest a little more class

Personally, I leave the donation in an envelope marked with the providers name on a coffee table right next to where the provider will be invited to sit when she arrives.  I then go into the kitchen to 'get us some drinks' leaving her the opportunity to review the contents of the envelope in private.

For tips, I usually use a second envelope which I will hand to her personally as she is leaving - I will normally keep it in the kitchen, out of sight so I can discretely adjust the contents up or down as required.  

This alleviates the awkwardness of the situation, although I must admit that the donation in an envelope attached to a large bunch of flowers always gets much more appreciation!

Your methods may vary, but in general if you treat the lady like a lady then she is much more likely to treat you like a king!

Best of luck to you!

I have a question in regards to the envelope thing. When most gentlemen call. What if they ask the price? Is it safe to tell over the phone?? And what if the gentlemen don't know about the envelope thing? And what if the envelope holds the incorrect price?? What to do then? And do most providers have the price listed or how is that discussed?

Thanks,

"Curious" Ms Dia

I’ll let some of the providers talk to what to say/not say on the phone, but I’ll toss out a thought on the other part.  For starters, take a look some web sites (I’d suggest SexyElise in Colorado to start) for how different Ladies address this on their sites.

Personally, I’ve always placed the fee in an envelope, usually attached to flowers.  If I am at her place I lay it down and then ask to use the bathroom, giving her time to look if she wishes.  If she comes to me, I go hang up her jacket or get her a drink.  On occasion there has been a miscommunication about the fee, but on those occasions we’ve always addressed it amicably.

I do notice if the Lady examined the envelope when she had the chance, and that way if I see her again I know whether I need to make sure I provide the same opportunity then.  I don’t ever remember a repeat Lady checking who had not done so originally.

Trust your senses, and if in doubt, check.  Both parties will have a better time if you aren’t distracted throughout the meeting by thinking, “did he count right”.

firstly. Thanks for the helpful responses. TER saves the day yet again.  MsDia, a provider probably needs to answer you, but in my experience there's a certain trust element. I certainly wouldn't want a gal to pull out my bills and start counting them. And no, I wouldn't talk money at all over the phone. Assume you have a website with posted rates. Ask them to consult your site.

bon chance...

burnit

It might depend somewhat on the LE in your area. Check the websites of providers in your local. Don't say anythng on the phone that you don't see on those websites.  Use the same phrases that they use and don't add anything.  For example, "the charge of $ is for your time, and it either includes or dn include tips. Tips are welcome but not required."