I'm still looking for my first time, and am wondering if tips are expected? If so, what ranges are considered appropriate? Do indy's expect different tip rates than agency girls?

I'm sure part of it depends on the performance, but I don't want to insult anyone

if you want to see her again, I would give her something extra.  Search the old posts for "tipping" and you will find lots of info about it.  You want to stay away from any that force tips for extra service (up charge).  Range varies by location.  I have actually a read post by a provider who was insulted that she was given a tip (that's not the norm).  She said, "you don't tip your lawyer or accountant and they both get paid by the hour".  Most people feel agency girls should get more because they have a lot to give back to the house.  Indies say that agencies do most of the work for their girls; thus they don't deserve more $, because their job is easier.

Good luck!

Generally, tipping is strictly up to you - agency girls prefer cash tips, amounts vary by market if service is good and meets your expectations.
For indies, I do not tip BUT for repeat visits I do like to bring a small gift.  Many indies have a wish list on the websites, you can follow that or be a bit more adventurous and bring something you feel she would love - based upon what you find out  about her in your first meeting.

... there are exceptions.  I saw one site where the provider even suggested that 15-20% would be an appropriate amount.  I thought she was out of line asking for a tip, but if that's how she wants to handle her pricing, I would've probably tipped her.

Most of the providers I've seen wouldn't expect a tip and usually say so on their websites.  Personally, I rarely tip, but I do occassionally give a small, non-monetary gift.  Of course, there are instances where tipping would be appropriate.  I had a dinner date that was supposed to last a few hours which turned into an overnight.  I felt a little cheap only adding an extra $.

So, I don't think you need to worry about insulting anyone, but a tip would definitely make points with someone you want to see again.

Good luck!

You will insult no one by not tipping unless it's an agency girl who lives by them.  Staying with an independent ladies advertised rate is usual and customary.  Show your apprecation for extraordinary service by seeing her again and passing along a referral to friends you know and trust.  Know and trust is important so as not to have your own reputation damaged.  You'd be surprised at how often a lady may thus extend her gratitude with a preferential rate.

good luck

forgot: sgandolfs suggestion of a small gift is sound advise.  Wine, flowers etc.  Another nice touch is to place your donation in a nice card rather than a plain envelope.

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If she lists favorite things on her site, presenting her with one of them it shows that researched beyond her gift and gallary pages.

It doesn't have to be extravagant.  Even if you have no idea what she would like, a gift card from Starbuck's, Victoria's Secret, a department store, etc., is usually welcomed and makes a positive impression.