trying to book my #2 visit last-minute. just had a gchat conversation with someone listed as available now on PD. the first person i saw for over a year and they were amazing and well adjusted so this was quite a shock. is this drugs? a deranged stripper? how common is this kind of mentality? what should i have said instead of "menu"?
Hi xx, my name is yy I saw you on PD. Sorry to reach out at the last minute but my Sunday changed unexpectedly - would you happen to have time for a 130-330 or 2-4 session today? If so lmk, i have a few menu questions then will verify 
Message from xx: Hey there! "Menu questions"?? I am not a restaurant,
Message from xx: "What are you looking for?"
Message from yy: "Okay, sorry to offend you, i was trying to err on the side of being discreet. Is there more respectful language i should use instead?"
Message from xx: What are you looking for?
Message from yy: I think our vibes will be off if we meet, sorry to bother you, have a good day.
Message from xx: WEIRDO
Message from xx (5 minutes later): YOUR LOSS
I think that was what you were saying but not 100% clear.
In any case sounds like she wanted you to ask your questions, and ask for that twice. You then bailed rather than asking your questions.
I would not chalk that up to drugs. Bad interaction, yes, but I think you own some of it.
Mentioning a menu can be taken as you are possibly a member of LE and trying to frame her. Of course she is going to be cautious and ask you more questions before telling you what her "menu" is - which would never be discussed anyways. That's what reviews or a website is for. The better question is to ask if she has a website or reviews that you can read.
This is not drugs nor a "deranged stripper".
I think she was giving you an opp to clarify and things went downhill from there.
I'm thinking that you could have said something like:
Oh! Of course not. I referring to your PD [Private Delights, I assume] ad.
I was looking for reviews on TER and
-- I didn't find your profile or any reviews. Did I miss it?
-- I did find your profile and reviews and I was wondering if everything is up to date
and so on.
Posted By: grayleopard
trying to book my #2 visit last-minute. just had a gchat conversation with someone listed as available now on PD. the first person i saw for over a year and they were amazing and well adjusted so this was quite a shock. is this drugs? a deranged stripper? how common is this kind of mentality? what should i have said instead of "menu"?
Hi xx, my name is yy I saw you on PD. Sorry to reach out at the last minute but my Sunday changed unexpectedly - would you happen to have time for a 130-330 or 2-4 session today? If so lmk, i have a few menu questions then will verify
Message from xx: Hey there! "Menu questions"?? I am not a restaurant,
Message from xx: "What are you looking for?"
Message from yy: "Okay, sorry to offend you, i was trying to err on the side of being discreet. Is there more respectful language i should use instead?"
Message from xx: What are you looking for?
Message from yy: I think our vibes will be off if we meet, sorry to bother you, have a good day.
Message from xx: WEIRDO
Message from xx (5 minutes later): YOUR LOSS
…because it shouldn’t be illegal.
Unfortunately, you can’t ask this question. Your only choices are to either read reviews or TOFTT.
Firstly, find out if she's available for your requested time.
Screen with her.
If something is really important to you, mention it(after screening) in a way that isn't off putting.
Something like, I love xx! Or if you have a profile somewhere that you can direct her too with your likes, then you could ask her if you'd be compatible.
If it's something like cuddling, pillow talk or kissing, these things are perfectly reasonable to ask about.
The other stuff is better to be discussed in person, but still be kind and thoughtful about it.
Remember, it's all about your approach. You are asking a stranger to invite you into their space for intimacy.
Don't beat around the bush, act cagey or avoid her questions or you look like a jerk. The more open, direct and willing you are to put yourself out there, the better chance of success you have.
I was just curious.
If she didn’t respond at all…what would she be called then?
And to continue to go back and forth when it’s clear the session wasn’t going to happen…..oh ok… interesting
Read reviews and see her website or her ads.
Not really cool to call people deranged or on drugs if they didn’t do anything.
Best of luck next search.
Hugs
...because that is the type of question the po-po would be asking if they wanted to do an "outcall sting."
You are fortunate that she even responded after that crack about not being a restaurant....lol
In the future, do what you can to ascertain what services and experiences a provider offers before reaching out.
For example, many niche or Kinky GFE providers invest immense amounts of energy into their branding (website, professional photographs, etc.) so they can convey to their admirers what to expect.
They might be pictured with sex toys such as vibrators, anal plugs, restraints, or ball gags. Certain companions will even list activities they are open to on a dedicated page on their website for services or interests. Of course, since we are on TER, reviews are a good way to gain a sense of what a companion is skilled at.
If after thoroughly researching, there is more you want to know, wait until after screening / sending a deposit. Almost all providers will make clear what they require before they'll discuss services.
I do think it's extreme to insinuate the provider referred to in the original post was using substances. It's much more likely she was jittery or frustrated.
All my peers/ friends/ colleagues and I get very offended and disgusted when asked about « a menu ». That is usually from what I have seen in the news what very very low-end hum*n traff*c illeg*l broth*els and « agencies » (same) send clients by texts, using the terms PSE & GFE wrongfully as unsafe practices « upgrades » and it only gets worse. They have a very graphic crude explicit language on those menus with prices next to them = illeg*l activity and incriminating. Sending this or inquiring about this could mean VERY big trouble and so high end smart providers avoid this kind of language or ppl at all costs bc they usually aren’t interested in meeting us but shopping for the cheapest service, and treating us like cheap meat/ fast food on top of it which doesn’t feel great at all. It’s deplorable, bad practice, unsafe, and disrespectful. A gentleman introduces himself, reads the website to know about schedules and fees ahead not to bother asking questions already on the site and inquire about availability to meet, not how low she can go to detailed description of illeg*al activities. Far from drugs or stripper behavior that’s an intelligent and common sensed lady trying to calm you out on your disrespectful behavior. We are, indeed no vending machines but human beings and treating us with decency and respect goes a long way. We are humans not services
