I am a total newbie and have been trying to set up my first appointment but it seems I am 0 for 2 with getting responses back by email. Is my being only 23 the reason I am not getting  anywhere ? Should I just give up ? I only want to have an appointment with someone with good reviews on this site for obvious reasons . Any help would be appreciated .

doesn't even want to TALK to me, WHY on God's green earth would I want to fuck her? The troubling trend is "give me your $$$$, but I don't have the time or care to talk to you"!!! Personally, I want to know, (by voice) if the woman sounds sexy?, sounds fun?, sounds like she has a good sense of humor?, sounds like she has a brain?  Etc. Etc.  I also want to know if she sounds like "Donald Duck sucking helium", or sounds like "the Nanny". I generally refuse to see Email only ladies. Last I checked GFE didn't include written forms with personal information, and a refusal to speak with a guy with whom she is probably going to share the MOST intimate of acts. My recommendation is to call a well reviewed Indy provider that will talk to you. (I'm afraid the email only ladies are only increasing in number, as providers get lazy, and use emailforms as screening tools). If this pisses you off as it does me, vote with your wallet, and see someone that's not too freaking LAZY to answer, or return phone calls! Good Luck.  Get TER VIP if you don't have it!



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If you are contacting ladies from TER, you may want to review the emails you are sending.
What are you saying.
Don't get graphic, don't be to aggressive.

You don't necessarily need to state you age, either.
Just let them know you are a newbie, and you are in your early 20's.

Be patient and if someone hasn't responded in a few days, try again.
If they haven't responded after two attempts, move on.
There are many great ladies who will.

Just my opinion...
B

I have never had a response go into my spam folder, but that is a definate possibility.

Just my opinion...
B

setting up the first encounter is probably the hardest.

Yes, there are many providers who limit their services to more mature men (the dfinition of maturity varies).  At 23, there are some ladies who will not see you.  If her ad suggests that you are too young for her, move on, otherwise, pursue the opportunity, but don't mention your age unless asked.

Now a question for you - how much lead tme are you giving her?  When first contacting a top lady who I've haven't met, my e-mail is at least 4 or 5 days in advance.  If your 2 unsuccessfull attempts have been like "are you avalable tonight", or "can I see you tomorrow afternoon," no replys are dissappointng, but not unexpected.  You have to give her time to read your e-mail, consult her schedule, and screen you, if she requres this.

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I agree with the previous posts.  And will just add:

1) Indies are one person running their whole "company": accountant, scheduler, shipping, delivery, quality control, etc.  They get a lot of email, especially if they are popular.  It is not like ordering from a website

2) Some may be interested in meeting you first without a session, since you don't have references.  You will stay pay for their time and any incidentals (meal, coffee, etc).  Part of the cost of getting into the game.

3) You could consider a registration service like Room Service 2000 or Preferred 411, (can find via Google) but these can be regional and may not be well known in your part of the country

4) You may consider a well reviewed agency, just to get your feet wet

5) There is alway the option of a trip to Canada, but that could obviously have cost issues.  Here is where I got started.


Good luck, be patient and alway be polite in your email messages. Never mention sex or money.

I have been asking for a appointment two weeks in advance and know from reading this site not to talk about sex with them.  Hopefully my luck will change soon. I have been sending a link in the email of a picture of me on the net is this bad form ?. I kinda like the Idea of email being first contact but its not seeming to work out to well.

Yesterday, I got spam from my mother.  Those spam filters are tricky sometimes.

I joined RoomService2000.com for the same reasons during the spring of 2003.  They are very professional.

I have found that trying to communicate with providers via email is very difficult and unreliable even in instances, as previously mentioned, when you are trying to set an appointment days in advance.

When I first started hobbying, it frustrated me that few providers would respond to emails. I mean they post them on their site and say contact me. WHy wouldn't they respond?

I had providers give me their email addresses and yet they still didn't reply very timely if at all. But so as not to dish all providers there are a few who do get back but usually it is the next day.

Words of advice - If you are trying to set appointments ... use your cellphone.

I know it is frustrating, but this can be a difficult hobby.

I've seen many guys post messages on regional boards, saying, Hi I'm new here, and would love to meet a top lady.  You'd be surprised by how many top ladies have responded. But be assured, being new to the hobby, having no reference, you will be asked to provide a lot of personal infofmation.  I've never been burned, in my 18 yrs in the hobby, but the risk is there.

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Phone contact is definitely a good choice, but it seems that if they do not recognize your number you end up talking to voice mail, and is that any better than an unanswered email?

Maybe it is YMMV on email, but it has worked for me, more than once.  And some have gone unanswered.  And in some cases, I have sent an email and then followed up with a call to say "hey, did you get my email."  Gives them a chance to check my credentials and know I am not wasting their time.

I guess at the end of the day it just takes some patience and time. There is no one solution that will always work

Do you think my best bet would be to just explain my situation on the regional board (Michigan) and see if I get any takers? I am done sending emails with my phone number in them and not getting any replies. I don’t think I have it in me to just call one up ( im kinda a shy guy ). I might have to check out that room service 2000 thing. Does that help a lot ?. I not really impatient Its just I don’t know how much longer I will have the nerve to try this out .

an outright boycott of that trifling, lazy, and impersonal, practice. When providers ask us to fill out forms tantamount to an IRS 1040, it gets my blood boiling. I really get a kick out of provider email questionnares that ask for "self descriptions" of the hobbyist, with specifics such as weight, hair color, age, etc.  WTF do some of those fat, old, bald, guys with wigs reply on those forms?  Do they say, "I'm an obese, geriatric, bald man with a synthetic roof over my head?  LMAO

Aries0324 I dont have v.i.p yet and I have no new email

...because you shouldn't be making provider decisions without first researching reviews, and because you need PM capability for backchanneling, since your personal email address cannot be posted here.

Do a google search for escorts in Windsor Ontario. Canadian law provides for legal escort, outcall only, so you will have to pay for room.  No references needed and you can then use those escorts as references elsewhere

Here is one example to consider. Madison has a link to the Canadian escort laws and hotels in Windsor.  You can find other provider choices in that market to consider

And Atl Mgr is very correct, you need VIP to do more research before you dive into this game.  Look at it as an investment

E-mail is a waste of time. Who even thought of this medium for this business. I'm spoiled after living in Canada for a good number of years. You look on a couple of sights and pick out 3-4 ladies and write down the agencey's phone number. You give them a call once you reach your detination, tell them who your want to spend some time with and request a time. The lady shows up and you have a great time. PRETTY SIMPLE. So far I've had one out of two good experiences here in the Boston area. However I feel that I'm at the agency's wishes. I feel like a little puppy begging for dinner. We are the ones handing out a chunk of change yet they are beating us into submission. This has to stop. If it doesn't let charter a jet to Montreal,Toronto or Vancouver and let these US ladies wake up to a reality check. Enough said....

Mike, Hi my name is Alixxx. I am new to Ter,and i was going through ,checking out the site and came acrost you and your situation.. I feel like you shouldnt be judged by your age unless you wer like 18 19 and even then i wouldnt pass judgment. I am a provider, And i am very understanding with your situation... I wouldnt have anyreservations about meeting you.. My requirments are that your a gentleman , and of course a clean person, and you treat me with respect,  and i asure you that you would get the same treatment from me in return  well with a sexy smile and a sweet little kiss... I am a new member to this site but not to the industry  I would like the opprotunity to get to meet you if your interrested than you may contact me at xxxxxxxxxxx.. we can exchange pic and other information...

[Note to Alixxx from the TER Moderator]
Alixxx, your posts on TER cannot contain email or telephone number contact information unless you comply with the posting requirements outlined in the links below.  Feel free to contact me via PM if you need additional information.  Thanks - atl_mgr

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I understand a provider's need to screen her clients, but one screening form I saw asked for so much detail (i.e. current address, previous address, full name, etc, etc.) that I started wondering if it were a sting.  Is that customary?

Cherry1 try going to the mi board I think posting info is allowed there. If not just go to the chat room sometime and I am sure we will run into eachother.