A provider I have been seeing for a few months has started going out with me for dinner dates, I only pay when I go to her house but never when we go on a date but I can't help thinking that she is just using me, she tells me that she loves me but I'm not sure.
Is it normal for providers to fall in Love with customers?

It happens, just like we fall in love with providers.  

Please clarify why you think she's using you. Have you had sex with her off the clock ? And yes providers do fall in love with their clients.

Look pretty good right now, why don't you play them out?

Enjoy it while it lasts, I had an opportunity to move in with one of my ATF's but declined,  all I was able to handle was to casually see her only. I think I made the right choice due to details that I cannot discuss here. However, from a clients point of view, i had the best mileage with her.

Unless you know her true motives you are setting yourself up for a big disappointment. It is called ching/ching. I have had providers try to do that on the first session.

The sad thing is that when a provider meets a man who treats her nice she does not know how to handle it. Sometimes providers thinks the guy is falling in love with her.

She probably said "Wow he is paying this much money for me and others only wanted 1 hour". So what they end up doing is draining your wallet.

Find another provider or take a break from the hobby.

The sad thing is that when a provider meets a man who treats her nice she does not know how to handle it. Sometimes providers thinks the guy is falling in love with her.

KamulRogue;
Don't know why, but your observation above is far to true in most cases.  My suggestion to the poster, as other have said, is move on.  There are too many damsels in the kingdom for you to get caught up on one.

Well, It happened with me too.  I saw her twice, and fell hard.  We have been together for awhile now and are extremely happy.  And yea, she quit escorting..sorry guys....This is the best thing that has ever happened to both of us.

Such generalizations!

Not meant as a put down and it's certainly none of my business but I have to ask...

Why are you still here on the boards?

Are you still playing?

Do you (or both of you) still read the boards only?

thirsty

Just here until the subscription runs out.  I like the joke section lol.  Really, I just enjoy reading the discussion boards now..Later>>>>>

And no, not playing anymore.  Amazing.  Believe it or not, this one time was completely out of character for me.  It was, well, fantastic, monumental, great..etc..etc...oh well.  I was really skeptical at first, but, we just clicked.  much to both of our amazements.  And no, I never wrote a review.  I dont think she reads here anymore, but I will ask!  I have really enjoyed myself here though.  I guess I was just a lousy hobbiest!  Would another provider have elicited this response from me?  Who knows.  Who cares...Believe it or not, we are happy.  She had no idea what I did for a living or what I was worth at first and did not care. Still doesn't.  And yea, it is exciting to me to know that men paid her good bucks for her services.  Am I crazy or what?  Oh well.  Way too late now.  Later...Prolodoc....Now if the office staff just won't ask too many questions lol...

Are you nuts  She is useing you these women are just for fun or. She is doing what she does Get some ball
wayneo

But do you think it's normal?

He may have a point anyhow, none of us are there, even though it is very unlikely.

Some strange replies to your post here.

She is going on dates with you, not charging.  How is this “using you”?  I don’t understand.  Consider these just like you would any other date.  Don’t go in blind, but don’t assume she is an underhanded conniving person because of her profession.  Does the same apply to you because you sought out someone of her profession?

Look at your dinner dates with her as you would dates with anyone else.  But unfortunately, you seem to have already started thinking that she must have a sinister motive.  If you think she is incapable of falling in love (now or eventually), why did you date her?

Again, I’m guessing there’s something more to your suspicion than what you’ve stated.

"Is it normal?" No, it most likely is not the norm. But the norm should not set the standard for individual, specific cases. My generalizations comment was in response to KamulRogue, who said "The sad thing is that when a provider meets a man who treats her nice she does not know how to handle it" and "So what they end up doing is draining your wallet." Not all providers are damsels in distress awaiting a knight to come and shower them with affection such as they have never seen before, to take them away from this horrid world of escorting and *gasp* actually having to make a living instead of relying upon someone else to support us; not all providers are greedy and money hungry. Some of us actually do have true, honest feelings about certain gentlemen whom we come in contact with, and some of us know ourselves well enough to tell the difference between "love" and "lust/infatuation." I am not saying that is the case here, nor am I saying it is not. What I am saying is that what may be the case for one or even most instances does not determine the outcome of this particular relationship.

Life...live it...

I am a hopeless romantic. It is my "going in" position that during our time together, I will treat my provider as though I love her. I maintain respect and humanity and a certain belief that everyone is a sort of miracle. In two instances, I have given a little piece of my heart to a provider that really touched me, more than skin deep. There was always an understanding that this was not going to become an "emotional partnership", but still, it is a fine balance that leaves a dull aching in my heart, blended with the joy of sharing and connecting. I can only believe what I have been told, and what I've felt, that there is some true feeling from these women. Hey, life is for living! I put my heart out on my sleeve, and if someone wants to make a sucker out of me for awhile .... that's the price I pay for livin'.