Posted By: Freya Fantasia
Before causing problems for a provider publicly which could come back to bite you.
Just learn a little more.
Providers are people with families and stuff going on just like anybody else. We have a lot of freedom and we can work whenever we want to. If something comes up and we decide to do something else then that is our prerogative.
If somebody flaked on you, it makes sense that you would move on to somebody else but, well, I just agree with the above post.
Posted By: Freya Fantasia
Before causing problems for a provider publicly which could come back to bite you.
Just learn a little more.
Providers are people with families and stuff going on just like anybody else. We have a lot of freedom and we can work whenever we want to. If something comes up and we decide to do something else then that is our prerogative.
If somebody flaked on you, it makes sense that you would move on to somebody else but, well, I just agree with the above post.
I like this post by Freya and the one above by Jensen to which she referred. I had a provider NCNS a while back. I was really steamed when it happened because we had set up the standard two call where I was to call her from a designated cross streets shortly before the session time. I had driven way across town 40-45 miles. She never answered or called back.
I calmed down by trying to remember two things.
First, I feel like the providers have more to be nervous about than hobbyists. Especially those who work out of their homes as she did. Maybe I inadvertently said something or just something in my voice that spooked her. I know providers have their own websites & apps to screen/verify clients. From what one lady told me I have a bad review I absolutely didn't earn (never even been to that city for starters). I think some jackass was using an app that changes your number on the caller ID and happened to use my number as his fake. If she got spooked, it's hard to hold it against her. It's not like she could ask me if I'm a nice guy and just believe what I say. A lady who takes herself and her work seriously, who has a good head on her shoulders and takes care of herself, that's the type I'm looking for. How do I get mad at her for following her instincts, even if they happen to be wrong?
The other, much more likely case, is that as Freya noted we all make plans and a lot of times life gets in the way. There's a million things that could've come up that stopped this provider from making the session, again, especially in her home. If she would've just texted me and said omg the dishwasher blew up or my husband or mom or whoever got sick, I would've calmed down and probably tried again another time. I'd have no way to know if it was true or not, but an explanation and apology would've been nice. It was the totally ignoring my calls that pissed me off. I just have to figure hey, despite the research I did on her, she's a jerk. She got some of my time but I'm glad she didn't get any of my money, and she never will.
Just have to let it go, hazard of the hobby. All my experiences have been good to great to awesome using providers I verified here, except for the one time I tried to repay the community and TOFTT, and it bit me in the ass. Lesson learned.