Although I havent had the experience with this one, I dont think it would be out of line to ask a provider what she would like, like the separate room thing. Some have a 24 hr rate, so you could assume that you can just double that for 2 days, unless she brings it up and offers a bit of a discount for 2 consecutive days. Every provider is different, so all you can do is ask, just be sure to be polite when she gives you her answer. I hope this helps you a little, or at least just gives you another point of view on it. Have fun
I need some advise on how these two options work.
First, the providers have a fee for an overnight, when does that usually start and end? Say 5pm to 10am? 24 hours? I know it will vary by lady, but is there a standard? Do you just ask directly about the timeframe?
Second, let's say I want to fly a cutie to the Bahamas with me for a couple of days (any takers?). I would obviously pay for airfare, seperate room for her (required?), food, and spa treatments, etc. So does this mean I take the overnight fee and double it for 2 days?
She would fly in on Friday afternoon, and back out on Sunday morning, for example. I don't want to come across as cheap or as trying to "negotiate" anything, but I'm just not clear on this.
Any advise or experiences would be helpful.
Thanks,
AM
You're right, it does vary by lady but I've mostly seen that 'overnight' involves a 12-hour span that involves (of course) some amount of sleep. There's not really a standard and nothing at all wrong with asking how many hours 'overnight' involves if the information isn't provided on their website or ad.
For the second case, why would you get a separate room? You're paying for her time as well as her fun - so you should be able to enjoy her companionship for the duration of the trip. Get just one room.
Some ladies may discount their rates for the longer appointments, so don't just assume that you should double the overnight rate. Ask them what their rate would be for 48 hours or however many you expect it to be. Don't bargain with them - that's rude - but let her suggest a rate for that much time.
And, having had a couple of overnight experiences, let me suggest that you get to know the provider somewhat before embarking on this. If you can't see her a couple of times before this longer trip, then have a few phone / e-mail conversations if possible. I have had both good and bad experiences with chemisty between myself and a provider. If there are chemistry problems in an hour session, you can chalk it up to bad luck. If there are chemisty problems in a 48 hour appointment...you can probably see what the problem could be.
Good luck to you,
PV
“First, the providers have a fee for an overnight, when does that usually start and end? Say 5pm to 10am? 24 hours? I know it will vary by lady, but is there a standard? Do you just ask directly about the timeframe?”
No absolute standard. General overnighters starts in the evening (5 to 10 PM) includes dinner or show as well as play time and sleep and sometimes breakfast. Overnighter usually last 10 to 14 hours but certainly not 24 hours.
”Second, let's say I want to fly a cutie to the Bahamas with me for a couple of days (any takers?). I would obviously pay for airfare, seperate room for her (required?), food, and spa treatments, etc.”
First a separate room for her is not typical. Other than that all incidental expenses are cover by you.
“So does this mean I take the overnight fee and double it for 2 days?
She would fly in on Friday afternoon, and back out on Sunday morning, for example. I don't want to come across as cheap or as trying to "negotiate" anything, but I'm just not clear on this.”
No, overnight rates are for a maximum of 12-14 hours of her time. The scenario you describes involves at least 48 hours of her time so expect to pay more than twice her overnight rate but less than four times her overnight rate. The final rate on a per hour basis should be less than her overnight rate. For extended dates if there is no information on her web page it is also okay to negotiate with out coming across as cheap using the guidelines above and remembering you are paying for her time as much as anything else. Don’t try to low ball her because you are thinking you are giving her vacation to the Bahamas.
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Although I havent had the experience with this one, I dont think it would be out of line to ask a provider what she would like, like the separate room thing. Some have a 24 hr rate, so you could assume that you can just double that for 2 days, unless she brings it up and offers a bit of a discount for 2 consecutive days. Every provider is different, so all you can do is ask, just be sure to be polite when she gives you her answer. I hope this helps you a little, or at least just gives you another point of view on it. Have fun
Not that there is a set standard, but the ladies I know who do overnights, 12 hrs. is usually the norm, usually starting between 6 and 8pm, assuming you are taking her out to dinner and/or a nite on the town first. Weekend trips, most providers usually have their rates clearly defined on their website. Also not wanting to sound cheap, your best bet would be to see the provider on a one hour appt. beforehand. That serves 2 purposes, one you will know for sure if you want to spend a weekend with her and secondly, you will know each other at this point and can discuss the trip. If she is comfortable with the trip and you, probably get a more favorable rate, as opposed to you being a total stranger.
If the ladies website does not state the time frame, simply ask how much time is usually included in an overnight. I would not ask about her rate at all, simply the time involved.
If she does not have a 24-hr listed, or a weekend listed, simply let her know you are interested in the details of her requirements for such a date. This happened to me recently as I do list an overnight (12-14 hrs.) though not a 24-hr rate.
You do not need to question the payment at all... she should respond with any of her requirements - monies, flight preferences, time periods, sleeping rules or personal time requirements, etc.
As to the above requirements, if she does not clarify them, it is in your best interest to ask. Assumptions often lead to miscommunications which may dampen your vacation.
Have fun!
No hard and fast rules here, at least in my experience. 8-10 hours is probably typical, though I've seen ads that call an overnight anywhere from 7-15 hours--so it's obviously a very wide range.
If a provider's ad talks about overnights, but doesn't specify the amount of time ... hey, just ask. If you're going to have drinks and dinner and like some cuddle time in the morning, you should probably plan for 10-12 hours, and make it clear (politely, of course) that this is what you'd like. Even if fees are non-negotiable, time spent together is often flexible.
Providers you've already met may also be more likely to book longer appts.
do you mean that they could sleep in separate rooms? I thought same room would be part of the price as it is with overnight. Do some girl require a separate room for private time? ...very interesting
I don't know why... light sleeper? Snorer? Afraid the fellow will get into hanky-panky whenb she is asleep? I'm sure there are legit reasons. It's certainly worth asking to ensure.
I consider "overnight" about 12 hours. I consider a "per day" rate as 24 hours, but if extensive travel is required (*example might be jumping a few time zones*) then I would expect to be compensated for at least some of the travel time.
If a gentleman expected me to join him in Venice, Italy (fr example) I am not going to expect to travel to & from and then have him only compensate me for the two days I am actually in his presence. Although he might not be in a position to travel with me, I would not expect to make two 8 hour trips and not be compensated for the flight time. If you are going to the Bahamas from California it might be a different compensation than someone leaving from Miami.
I have decided to encourage long weekends by reducing the "per day" suggested donation for a time frame which exceeds two days.
My suggested gift donation does not waver depending on the destination, I simply choose not to accept agreements which are not to locations that aren't desirable. (*In simple, I wouldn't agree to go to Paris for $500 a day any quicker than I would agree to go to Toledo, Ohio for $5,000 a day*)
I also agree with the previous statements of encouraging you to experience the presence of a provider before planning a weekend get-away. (Most providers wouldn't agree to extended get- aways unless they have already met you) To consider otherwise would possibly be a recipe for disaster. Some providers do not offer extended travel.
Just a few more thoughts on extended meetings..... (*just in my opinion and based on my mannerisms*) I do not answer calls during my time with a gentleman. I might call to "check in" and be assured of my safety but I do not entertain random incoming calls. I do stay in the same room & usually establish before hand the gentleman's expectations of rest. I do not answer emails or demand computer time or alone time. I generally expect an idea of the planned activities before I leave my home.
It sounds like a fun trip & I wish you well in your travels. Atlantis is a beautiful resort in the Bahamas & you might be surprised at the hobbyist connection there. I'd encourage you to consider making it known on a discussion board or two if you have intent to travel there.... suggestions for accommodations might make your trip more comfortable. There are also more than a few providers who are familiar w/gaming which can also add to the enjoyment of a weekend in the Bahamas. kisses ~Tori
If you don't have a particular lady mind or she doesn't have prices listed, try pitching the idea of exactly what you require, then let her/them list their requirements and their price for time/companionship.
If you approach several ladies with this proposition, you may find one who really wants it and will make it an enjoyable experience. Or free market competition may ensure a good quality experience and a sensible price.
If you have the balls, trying posting your ad where a lot of women will see it like Craig's List and see what turns up.