Hi, this is kind of embarrassing.  But I'm relatively inexperienced.  I tend to pop pretty fast (within a few minutes) without being able to control it.  Are there any tips for being able to last longer or does it just come with experience?

stop for a few seconds, pull out for a little bit- think about something different other then this unbelievable experience you are having, take care of yourself before hand- or all of the above- LOL

oral and digital skills.  I mean, what good is having a party if not everyone cums!!!

This is more common than you might think.  My last boyfriend had the same problem and do you know what worked?  These condoms with benzocaine.  We used Duramax "Performax" and I loved them.  He lasted WAY longer. You shouldn't use them if you are allergic to -caine anesthetics, b/c that's what's in it.  But he lasted a LOT longer and he liked these condoms, too.  So maybe worth a try?  They also make a lube w/the ingredient in it.  At the drugstore.

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Well, I wouldn't recommend it but too large a dose of Viagra can make you unable to pop at all.

(and if you start thinking about getting a hefty dose, re-read the "I wouldn't recommend it" part)

You might have what they can premature ejuacation (sp).. lots of guys have that problem.

I am 62 and I wish I had your problem!!  LOL

...Really this makes the most sense, and I defy anyone to point out a drawback to this (and I'm not talking about old farts who can't get but one boner; remember our newb is inexperienced and having problems with "staying power").

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I'm 52 - I also don't have allen's problem, but certainly do NOT wish that I did!  LOL

You know that moment of orgasm when the breath stops and the body stiffens?  Learning to relax right there... a deep breath, relaxing the body, holding in stillness...
It takes practice.

I highly recommend you read "The Multi-Orgasmic" male by Mantak Chia.  Actually, I recommend this book for everyone!

That aside, don't worry about popping fast, just take a break and reload.

Have fun practicing!

xoxo,
Sola

Can you go multiple times? If so, then don't worry about it if you're hobbying; just maximize your dollars during your time (if the providers you see do multi-rounds). I don't think I pop quickly anymore on the 1st round (10-15 minutes), but I actually try to because I find the 2nd pop more pleasurable. Going multi-round also teaches you control; at least it did for me.

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Im in my 20s and if I did that I would not be able to get it up. But Im a newbie and I get very nervous seeing a provider. Maybe that has more to do with it I dont know

I understand your concern as nerves can wreck any torpedo, even the younger ones.  If I might add another bit of advice on this issue: stick to providers that can (and will if needed) get you off with BBBJCIM or Russian (it goes without saying that big nattys go best here).  This way you can avoid putting on a condom.  I'm almost 40, and I rarely fire twice in an hour (of course I rarely try b/c I like to take my time enjoying cup 1).  But I've been brought back to life after only 5-10 minutes by a talented BBBJ.  Research, research, research....