In my case, I think she just doesn't whitelist anyone, as I have never seen her name on a guy's list of referrals.  So I just figured, oh, well......

If you want to ask her again, be very courteous and not accusatory.  She might have just forgotten.  If you get no response, forget it and move on.

Swim

It does not hurt to ask her again.  I had one provider who asked me if I wanted a p411 OK, and then she did not get around to giving me one.  When I pinged her, she asked me to email her again because she deleted my p411 ID.  Shit happens.  But, I would not hound her - send her a nice email with a second request, and see if she follows through.  If not, then I would move on...

If she is with an agency then it would be the agency most likely handling her profile. I'm not sure how her agency does whitelisting so do contact them. Click on each one of her reviewers and see if they have been whitelisted by her.  This will give you a big heads up

Kisses Haley

Like reviews, she doesn't have to white list anyone and doesn't need a reason.

Maybe she doesn't white list.
Either way I'd send her a pm and ask again then I'd drop it after that.

I agree with all the other posters:
Ask her again (nicely) and then move on. Do not sound needy or accusatory. (Something simple, "Hi, you told me you would whitelist me on ter. I don't see it yet. Maybe you have been busy, or maybe you had my wrong ter handle or maybe ter messed up. Just sending you a friendly reminder. thanks")
Also do check her reviews and her reviewers and see if she whitelisted any of them. Maybe she doesn't whitelist. You probably want to do that before you send her the reminder. Maybe she forgot. Maybe it's on her to do list and she hasn't gotten to it yet. Maybe she does not know how to do it. But the other possibility is that TER screwed up or there is some software glitch or something. A lady said that she would whitelist me. After three weeks, I sent her a follow up email, (similar to my sample above) and she told me she had submitted it immediately after our date, and was not sure what happened but that she would do it again. It did pop up a few days after that email. I was initially really hesitant about sending the follow up email, but I was glad I did after the fact.
Another lady told me she could not do it because she wasn't VIP. I am not sure if that is true, and if it is I am sure the limited provider vip would work, but I wasn't going to push it or argue with her, so I let it go at that.

Bottom line, there could be a lot of reasons but don't think it is because "you are not good enough." If that was the case, she would not have seen you twice.

So, your best option one follow up, then move on. But don't ovewrthink it.

Probably within 15 minutes after you walked out the door when she looked at her phone.

Don't take it personally and it has nothing to do anything you said, did or what you look like. All white-listing says to providers is "this guy isn't le, he's not dangerous and he pays" not "He's so hot!"

I always ask guys to send a reminder about stuff like that that is talked about verbally in person because it is very unlikely I will remember. I know that so I hedge against my forgetfulness by asking the guy to take initiative to remind me. We have a lot going on.

And don't just send a TER PM about it. Use the same form of communication for the reminder as you used to set up the appointment.

I saw a white-list reminder in my TER mailbox that was very old because I hadn't checked my mail for awhile... ooops! I forgot. Even though I told him I would. And I told him to remind me. And he did. But he sent a PM and I didn't see it. So I still forgot.

See how that happens? Don't take it personally. And it's NO BIG DEAL to remind her! Don't feel like you are walking on egg shells. Getting 10s doesn't mean she shouldn't feel obligated to keep her promises made in person....