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Re:I know you were asking providers...
demonking 4 Reviews 2279 reads
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I more than welcome anyones input.  While my topic was geared at provider, it wasnt meant to exclude anyone.

Im closer to Jazz's pre TER days, but I am working to improve it.  

As you stated, I am aware not every position will work.  I had already decided too that a more experienced or mature provider would be better suited for me.  I had put out a couple of feelers and it had became evident that would be the best route to start.  

More feedback from both sides of the fence is still welcome.  

demonking3676 reads

And in large, Im meaning size, not endowments.  Do providers as a general rule have a problem with men of size?

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irageek2398 reads

This has been discussed a lot already and you can find the discussins in the archives.  I believe the summary is ...

Some providers do care and others don't.  It is best to be up-front with the provider about anything out of the ordinary (like being more than xx pounds overweight or did you mean that you are over 6'10"?).  I am on the over weight side and I have found that all of the ASPs I have encountered say "no problem".  There are some ASPs that have restrictions for clients who are over weight by a certain number of pounds.  There are enough fine providers out there that don't care about such things that I avoid the ones that are going to have problems with it.  I'd rather draw it out before I book with them and avoid booking rather than having them cop'n a tude when I show up.  

Hope that helps.

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mrfisher2313 reads

This gal actually offers a discount to overweight persons; but there's a bit of baggage involved.

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demonking2650 reads

Didnt see a link in the post.  Can you give me an idea of the topic header.  I did several searches and didnt find a topic that seemed close.  (She has a lot of posts)

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mrfisher1721 reads

Read the person's site carefully as well as all the related posts about it.

You'll find a lot more discussion on the GD board.

Ever read the label on a bottle of Dr. Bonner's soap?

I think she's the one who writes them.

Related Link: http://sensualembrace.com/index.html

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Tori Of ATL2148 reads

OMG, I have heard it all…. Why would a provider give a discount to large men? (*What the hell am I missing here?*)

I have no problem seeing larger men as long as they are aware of the added need for personal grooming. –BUT- a discount??? Why?

I guess for every woman there is a special something that floats her boat…. But I have never known a provider to offer a discount to a specific physical group of men. To each his own, thank heavens we are in America.

I have personal preferences that I enjoy indulging but I don’t offer them a specific discount. (*as I said another RED FLAG*)

In answer to your question…. If a provider is a professional she should treat you no different than anyone else that she agrees to see. If you are overly concerned, just be sure to mention it when you are arranging the appointment. (*I’d suggest that with anything that a gentleman has concerns about.... good communication always helps to ensure a wonderful meeting*)

Happy Hobbying….kisses  ~Tori


~now try to guess my indulgence :)

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Tori Of ATL2191 reads

My ultimate indulgence is threesomes...… a really hot bi chick and a great guy to round out the mix. (*Sorry I thought a picture was worth a thousand words *) LOL     Kisses ~T


-- Modified on 12/13/2006 6:36:50 PM

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SarahJane1780 reads

Since that boob belongs to me, I would say no one that knows me would say I had MAN boobs.

I think Tori was saying her indulgence is a HOT threesome ;-)

It certainly is one of my indulgences!

Related Link: SarahJane...The Lovely Sarah

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Tori Of ATL2520 reads

Kiss and tell (*I wasn't mentioning any names.....but since you admitted it was you.....

Well, I might as well share w/ everyone :)  LOL
Kisses ...~T

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jazz322074 reads

Not in front of the Newbies!!!

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SarahJane2445 reads

what better way to break him in ;-)

Related Link: SarahJane...The Lovely Sarah

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demonking1573 reads

Red flag is an understatement.  Since I prefer to indulge in Redheads and Brunettes, does that mean I get a discount??  Oh if it were that simple....

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jazz321806 reads

but here is one big man's story.

Today I weigh in at about 265.  A little over 7 years ago I was at 420.  Most of my serious hobbying, and visiting TER reviewed women has occured since my gastric bypass surgery.  I still qualify as obese, but have never had a problem during this time.

Even before my surgery, in my pre-TER days, weight and size isn't always a big deal for the lady.

Here are some tips:

1)  If you are a big guy, accept that not all of the positions will work with every lady, and the ones that will work will vary from lady to lady.  Ask her for suggestions, accept her help, she will usually be able to find a way to please you.

2)  Look for more mature and or, experienced providers.  Most of these women have dealt with   the not-so-perfect male body type, or men with other, much more serious difficulties.

3)  Do what you can to lose some weight.  My hobbying has been alot mor fun and satisfying since my surgery.

Good luck,

jazz32

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demonking2280 reads

I more than welcome anyones input.  While my topic was geared at provider, it wasnt meant to exclude anyone.

Im closer to Jazz's pre TER days, but I am working to improve it.  

As you stated, I am aware not every position will work.  I had already decided too that a more experienced or mature provider would be better suited for me.  I had put out a couple of feelers and it had became evident that would be the best route to start.  

More feedback from both sides of the fence is still welcome.  

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AusFunKat2342 reads

I have some larger customers & don't treat them any differently as they are all people.  One thing I strive to be conscious of is saying anything critical.  This is a very personal & intimate business and saying something that could damage someone's psyche is just wrong.  Just as we teach our children thus should we act: if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.  I'm more impressed w/ attitude & personality as a factor in someones level of sexy.  Everyone needs some pleasurable release to stay on an even keel.  I'm happy to provide it!  ;)

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demonking1957 reads

Well that is thoughtful of you.  In my case at least, someone being critical isnt going to hurt my psyche too much.  

I had a guy one time look at me in a poker tournament after he lost a hand to me and go "Your just.....FAT!"  A couple of people gasped.  My response: "Really???? Wow, I had no clue sir.  I thought I was petite.  Thank you for opening my eyes to that sir.  I really had no clue"  That of course just ticked him off...and he busted out the event like 10 minutes later.  

And of course you last couple of sentences begs the question from me, Where do you provide services at AusFunKat?

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sweetfannyadams1865 reads

I actually prefer my man with a bit of meat on his ribs, delicious!But there can be one problem with fatties: because of the extra poundage, sweating, deep crevices, bad diet or lack of exercise, they tend to be a little stinkier than others, and so really have to watch the hygiene!!! Normally I have to soak the big ones in the tub first, then scrub them! Please all you chunkers bear this in mind, that even if you cannot reach over your belly to smell yourself, the lady has no choice but to....;o)

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Gossamer953383 reads

In my experience (I've seen 5 different providers) it's not much of an issue.  None of the 5 I've been with seemed to mind at all.  It usually comes up in conversation with me, cause I have such a low self-esteem from being big.  They have all told me not to worry about it.  Same thing with being married.  I'm 30, receding hair, married, and weigh about 280 and none of it's ever caused me any dis-service as far as I can tell.

One more thing:  I've always strived to fully bathe myself (and then some) before seeing a provider to make everything enjoyable for her too.

-- Modified on 12/12/2006 7:41:59 PM

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