How does a person get that all important initial reference. Looking in the Triangle area of NC.

if you have a lot of professional/work-related web pages that list your name (and many accomplishments) you can just have her look you up via Google (or any search engine)

some girls like that, it lets them see your other side and if you have personal web pages it's a bonus (well, sometimes not! LOL) ... it's the cyber equivalent of her calling your work to verify your work info

FYI - Once you see a provider and have a good experience, ask if she will be a reference.  I have found this to be helpful.  Better to know up front rather than give her name as a reference and find that she doesn't even remember you.

You might try seeing somebody from an agency first. At least in the Boston area, their verification process can be much easier.

thirsty

My first provider asked me to register with Room Service 2000, and they verified all my info very discreetly.  It's an extra $50 but my part of the world isn't exactly teaming with exceptional local talent so getting an agency reference probably wasn't an option.  You may want to check with your lady and see if she'll accept a reference from them.