I didn't know where to post this, but I found this post on a providers journal and it really struck a chord with me.

I think the post it too long to cut and paste but here's the part I'm talking about.

"Men customarily fail to realize that every bawdy little slut has a good girl lurking inside her and every good girl has within her a filthy tramp waiting to emerge...she may just mistakenly feel that she needs permision. I honestly believe that if men could recognize their wives as the wanton cock loving tarts that they frequently want to be, they'd eliminate much of my income." From a post called "Your wife, the wanton slut.


I'm really curious if other pooners feel that if things ever actually fell apart with their relationship, their wives would actually do all the stuff that you see providers for, but with some other guy. And how could you convince her that things could be better if she'd do them with you?

Board.  There are a lot more eyes looking there and many have excellent insight on matters such as these.
    One last thing.  Pooners?  Are you Canadian?

Re: "Pooner"
I am Canadian...I didn't realize that we had our own hobby slang. So, what's a pooner called when he's in America?

New here so wasn't sure where to post it. Thanks for the advice, I'll repost it in the other area.

"So, what's a pooner called when he's in America?"

Hobbiest... you know, just like coin collectors.

 Hey Dennis:

 I'm A Newbie too, but I've had tons of experience in the civilian world. I wouldn't attempt to criticize how you approach sex with your wife, but It has been my experience that woman are just as bad as men when it comes to being horn monsters! Wives don't have access to providers like we do, but that doesn't necessarily mean they wouldn't do the milkman if he turned them on. The only difference between a provider and your wife is honesty. Providers embrace their sexuality and realize that since they love it, they might as well profit from it. A great many wives hid it from their husbands because they feel their husbands want to think that they're the girl next door.

 Let me tell you a little story. I'm not proud of it, and it only happened once in my life, but it's true.

 I got involved with a married woman. She was seventeen years younger that me. We had a nine year relationship. She was insatiable! Over that period, I probably did her 1000 times,at least 2 times a week, 968 weeks, and that's not counting quickie BJ's. Do the math. She loved greek and told me her husband always begged for it, but she wouldn't go there with him. To answer the question in your head right now, Yes, he finally left her. Did I end up with her? No, because I didn't want to have children with her and she wanted kids.

 My point is this. A lot, (but not all) woman are hiding their sexuality from their husbands. It's up to you to bring it out of them. With some wives, this may be difficult if not impossible, but you'll never achieve the satisfying sex life you seek if you aren't aggressive in letting her know what your needs are, and finding out hers. Otherwise you are destined for a life of using providers, or worse, having her end up with a male whore like me. To be forwarned is to be forarmed!

 Remember, I have sent you this in the spirit of brotherhood. I hope it has been somewhat enlightening for you. Good Luck!

                                          Faithfully TER
                                             SS344

P.S. To Dingus:

 I know this is an expose buddy. I have sent it to Dennis by email in case you choose to not post it.

Hi SS344,
  Thanks for the response. It's appreciated.  I still have no idea how to approach the topic with my wife, but it's good to know (sort of) that my feelings are probably valid.