I am seeing a very well reviewed provider on Saturday. This is my first fs experience -- prior was bodyrub. In reading her reviews (as well as other providers) there will be the initial "getting to know each other chit chat" up front. However, I don't want it to eat too much into my time with her -- but I want her to feel comfortable that I'm nice, not LE, and that we "click"...

What advice can you give me on topics, things to say, do, etc...

Thanks in advance!

I just had my first experience, and I can tell you, don't worry!  The lady will procede right along, and in ten minutes, you'll both be naked wherever you want.  She knows your time is valuable, and won't waste it!

Just relax and get to know her a little and let her get to know you.  Tell her something about you.  Tell her what you do, she just wants to "get comfortable" with you. Just a little chit chat, as you say...Every woman is different, she will usually be good about stering the conversation.  

If things aren't moving along, compliment her, try complementing her dress, or her hair, or her scent, tell her she smells intoxicating.  Don't be too forward too quickly...

Remember, relax, be "comfortable"

Not much to worry about here.  She is not going to stand across the room from you.  She will set down next to you she may put her arm around you she may start rubbing your arm or leg.  She may even sit down and put her legs up on your lap.  Key is to mirror what ever she is doing.  All the while talking to her like you would any girlfriend.  Tell her she looks nice, tell her you like her hair, tell her about you and your hobbies.  Think of it as a hour long date condensed into 5 minutes.  IF you get a chatter that just keeps going on and on it is not out of the question to say "may we get started" or can we get comfortable" or "where can I put my clothes"  at this point start getting undressed, she may want you to get nude first (LE Check) but thats fine do it, that will surely get things going.

Do not be so fixated on the time and getting started.  You know what I realized most porn scenes only last about 25 minutes and this usually includes the guy coming in with the pizza.  These guys are pros and can only last that long, what makes you think you are going to last any more than 15 minutes with the hottest woman you have ever been with.  Talk for ten minutes you will have your first pop at about 25 minutes in, rest for 10 minutes talking some more and hopefully you will get another round,  pop again with 10 minutes left, take a shower and hit the road.  You do not have to attack her as soon as the door closes, although she may do that to you, that is her discression.

Good Luck!!

Make sure and come back and let us know how it went!

Well for one thing, if she says, "do you wanna get comfortable?" that means "get naked!"  If she's well-reviewed and you're somewhat nervous, she'll probably take the lead.  Should that transpire, look for her cue!  And as always, women love compliments.  So if you're at a loss for words, simply tell her how sexy she looks.

Follow her lead.  Since she likes chit chat, then chit chat.  Ask her about herself.  Where's she from originally?  Does she have a day job?  What does she like to do in her free time?  Usual stuff.  Just try not to push too much or get too specific.  Respect her privacy.  I saw a recent post from a provider who didn't like to talk about herself at all!  She felt like a broken record.  In that case, she'll probably ask a lot about you.  Like jjackflash says, compliments are good.  Just keep it simple.

Bancroft is probably right about her not wasting too much time, but be aware that it does happen.  If she has a rep for being a clockwatcher, be more careful.  I saw one provider who didn't like to get too physical before she felt she knew a little about you.  In her case, it's best to be patient, but if you feel it's going to slow, try to give subtle hints to move things along.

But mainly, relax and enjoy.  Go with the flow.

In my screening questions, I ask a new client if this is his first time visiting an escort.  If it is, my first suggestion to that client is that he schedules a minimum of a 90 min. appointment. Without exception, new clients I have seen are nervous to varying degrees, and they will be the one's sitting and chatting, taking up time they have scheduled until they are comfortable with me, a considerable amount of time on occasions!

Feeding an escort phony baloney compliments is BS, and you should ignore the previous posters advice in that regard.  Just be yourself.. be polite  and treat her like a lady.  

Never  expect that your need as a newbie to take extra time to get comfortable with the lady is 'free', off-the-clock time. My experience with newbies who book a 1 hour appointment has been very consistent … those 1 hour appointments always run over by at least 30 mins, and that is why I request at least a 90 min. appointment.

Hope this helps.
kisses
Suzanne in San Diego


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Reon't worry about it too much.

Thanks to everyone who replied to my post -- it was a fantastic experience all around. As predicted, since she was so well reviewed, I had nothing to worry about. The session went smoothly. I had a fantastic time -- look for my review of it soon!  Thanks everyone!

"Feeding an escort phony baloney compliments is BS, and you should ignore the previous posters advice in that regard. "

Suzanne I for one never said to say something phoney baloney.  When you pay a complement to someone it should always be genuine.  

The issue here is just having a conversation with a total stranger.  The problem with this situation is all the normal things you would usually want to talk to someone about are kind of off limits.
I already know what you do for a living and do not want to know anymore about it.
I do not want to know if you have kids.
I do not want to know if you are married or have a SO.
I do not want you to know much about me.
And I cannot talk about what is about to happen.

So whats left?  Your beauty, movies, pets.

If you tell a woman how nice she looks later you can justify to yourself that maybe it was something nice you said that got her to behave the way she did.  Don't mess with our fantasy!!  Take your complement and leave us to our delusions

Well said Kaprice.  I also never said to feed her phoney baloney compliments.  If you stick to well reviewed providers, then they will be attractive and you won't be BSing.  It's funny that the provider suggested that all newbies book a minimum 90-minute appointment.  Of course, she's mainly looking out for herself here in collecting a larger fee.  But, that's o.k.  If you book 90 mins. and "get 90 mins. of good quality time" then more power to you.  More often though, a first timer is going to be "done" inside a half-hour. His nervousness will prevent him from having any real meaningful conversations following his pop, he won't know if or how to initiate a second cup, and in some cases he won't even know that "he still has time to spend with her" and he or she will leave even though "paid time" is going to waste!  I wouldn't necessarily advise a newbie booking a half-hour appointment instead of an hour, but one could argue that it makes more sense than booking 90-minutes.

No, I'm not looking out for myself in requesting a 90 min. appointment with Newbies!  I have no problem filling my schedule on a daily basis.  My experience with newbies is different...  ion many cases, the nervousness translates into considerable hesitation to 'begin', in spite of my encouragement!  I never refuse to book a 1 hour appointment with anyone, and if a newbie feels he will be able to walk into  a new situation such as this to see an escort he doesn't know, and get started right away, that's fine with me.  

And BTW, if you book a 90 min. appointment with me, you will certainly get "get 90 mins.of good quality time" , and that's a promise!!

kisses
Suzanne in San Diego