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SexyNatalie1 See my TER Reviews 2515 reads
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i usually meet guys that are really sweet, kind, considerate and really playful just like me. While giving them their massage i often find myself rambling on about school, friends and food (i love food :)) and although the guys don't seem to mind i always worry that I'm talking to much. So i try to be quiet, and then they say something and i'm off rambling again....

i have a great time and the guy really seems to enjoy himself too, but i don't want to be annoying.

I'm not sure how many of you guys like to get fbsm, but for those that have gotten them. would you mind the conversation?

thanks for the help.

niceenuf1049 reads

Wow Natalie...you really do have alot of questions (keep 'em coming though)!


In a FBSM I like to get lost in the serenity of the touch and environment so too much talking might just ruin the mood.

Under normal GFE circumstances I don't mind banter back and forth but nothing too heavy, and I like conversation not just listening.  I was with a GFE provider who literally rambled for 20 minutes without me saying a word.  No offense to anyone that likes to talk but that was almost a quarter of our time together and it didn't help me get to know her, just a REALLLLLLLY long story she had.



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SexyNatalie11263 reads

yeah, i know. i'm very inquisitive :) sorry.

the thing is that the guy and i do talk, he tells me a story, i tell another one back and its fun. but i know that fbsm is supposed to be intimate and quiet and i don't want the guy to feel like he didn't get the total experience.

and since I've already got your attention i actually have another question. I advertise that i do outclls on my site, but the truth is that i am really scared to do one. guys call for an outcall and i always make up some excuse as to why i can't. I tell them its too far away, I'm not available tonight or whatever. i have done two outcalls before and i was really nervous about them both. I'm not sure why i was so nervous as both sessions went very well. The guys were great, chivalrous, kind. and i had a good time except that i was sooo nervous. I guess i have two questions actually, 1. are there any ways for me to get over my outcall jitters, and 2. do you think i should just stop advertising outcalls at all?

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mrfisher1314 reads

If you are not comfortable with them (and I can't blame you), then just advertise that incall is all that is availiable.  Why bother wasting his time or yours?

I also agree with everyone on the banter during the massage.  To truly enjoy a massage, both the receiver and the giver should be focused on the body, and the only conversation should be focused on making sure each feels connected and into the experience.

Afterwards I like to dine with my companion, and I'll talk you right under the table!  8o)

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niceenuf1033 reads

I'd bale on the outcall thing if it makes you that nervous.  FBSM is all about the relaxation, if you are tense about your surroundings it won't go well IMO.  

Not a problem, there are tons of successful FBSM and GFE girls that won't do outcalls.

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jimmybuff56900 reads

I'd suggest that you do not do any activity that you are not comfortable doing. The client will sense your nervousness or anxiety, and that can translate into a less than satisfying experience for you both. You're still new to the provider service, get yourself fully comfortable with what you do before you move to the next step. Maybe the best way to get more comfortable with outcalls is to only do them as a duo with another provider.

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OSP900 reads

I don't mind conversation at all. As long as you don't mind my falling asleep as you tease my body with your.............;-)

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xtheory775 reads

I've never had fbsm, but I like getting to know the woman for a good 15-20 min.  I do like the conversation to be reciprocal and feel I'm a part of it.  Not all guys are like that, and some might seem like they don't mind just out of trying to be polite.

Each situation will be a little different.  Try feeling out the man, and don't be afraid to ask him questions.  We like to talk sometimes, too!  Be aware that some men will want to just escape into the sensual moment and turn their mind off.

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aSavvyShopper889 reads

I get massages frequently. I enjoy the kind of talk you mention beforehand and afterward, but during the massage itself, I like to relax 100% with little talking. It's hard to carry on a conversation face down and I really want to focus on relaxing rather than listening.

But once I flip over, I'm in the mood for a little more talk.

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regularjoeblow1221 reads

I have to agree with asavvyshopper 100% on his response...word for word. Most people I think just want to melt into the massage for awhile....sometimes conversation takes a little work.

but if you don't mind them just listening, then it's cool. just tell them you are chatty and if they want to just listen, that's fine!

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shudaknownbetter1217 reads

for me to speak, requires muscle tension which is counter to the massage.  I don't mind if the masseuse talks some but again, you want him to relax, not be thinking about what you're saying.  My advise is to chat a little during the warm up, then quiet down (maybe a music que) & get him to relax.  I'd want you to be into soothing me, forgetting my stress of the day.  You can go back to chatting during the clean up.
Just my opinion.
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keystonekid1090 reads

Nothing wrong with most anything in moderation; including conversation.  Conversation during the "get aquainted time" is OK, soft music during the massage is better with some conversation mixed in.

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