I'm new at this, I want to setup an meeting with a provider. What do I say on the phone?  how do I ask her?  thanks

Hi, I'm xxxx.  I saw you ad/post on xxx.com, and would like to schedule a meeting at xx:xx on mm/dd.

Answer her questions, be open and honest, and you will have a great time.

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That's a distinct advantage to email.  You can type, save, look again and edit, all before you hit the send key.  It takes more time, but if you're nervous it can really help.

Just made a call last night, and I still get a little case of the butterflies.  When that's completely gone, I'm probably not interested in playing anymore.

. . . I saw you on TER.  I'd like to make a 2 hour appointment with you sometime this Thursday after 12 noon, do you have any availability?"

I answer and ask for your mobile number and either a name of another provider to use as a reference or your business number so that I can call and ask for you anonymously.  I also ask if you're wanting incall or outcall.

You then give me the required screening information.  I tell you that we have a tentative meeting set and we agree to touch base again soon once the screening info is verified.

That's it, very friendly but no financial or sexual talk.

Good luck, relax.  

What should I say if I have no reference to give (never having employed an escort) and my business number (being self-employed) is my mobile?

Tell me the situation and then we have several options:  

1.  Initial visit is an outcall (room paid by you) and I can verify with the hotel that you have a room there before I arrive because you have to present an ID upon check-in.  Then I can be your reference for any future providers and you'll never have to go through this again.

            OR

2.  You could offer your home address or home phone number so that I can use an online resource to see if the name* that you've given me corresponds with the address or number.

             OR

3.  If you have a website for your business that lists your name*, you can refer me to that for verification.

                   OR

4.  Anything else that you and the provider can think of that makes her feel comfortable that you're not intending her physical or legal harm.  

By the way, the hobbyist avoids feeling uneasy about giving his information to a provider by choosing a well-reviewed escort with recent and positive reviews.

*Never lie about your name because escorts oftentimes check your photo ID upon arrival.

Uh, I think I may have caused a few providers to have fits because of what I was saying on the phone.  Sorry about that.  I know better now.

Giving the information Misty requests, which is not at all uncommon, has never come back to bite me, and has led to many fantastic experiences!!!

Thanks Misty!!!

When an escort asks you for personal information so she can verify that you're not a dangerous loon or a member of the law enforcement community, she's doing what is called "screening".  Each lady has her own level of comfort with various screening procedures, but references from other escorts who have seen you are almost always the very best things to have. The one warning I'd put in here is that you should let a lady know if you plan to use her as a reference - she may need a quick refresher on just who you were, especially if it's been a few months since she saw you.  I've found that saying, something like, "I'm so-and-so, and we met at this place on this day, and I recommended Restaurant X to you and told you the joke about American beer being like sex in a canoe (they're both fucking close to water)." It's also possible that the lady may have gotten out of the business for whatever reason, or simply be unreachable in the time frame that the new lady has for screening you.

I've heard of many ladies who use screening services like Date-Check or Preferred411, too.  Some of these services will sell you a membership, whereupon they take care of screening you, so you just tell the lady, "My P411 handle is such-and-such", she calls them, they verify, and you're good to go.

I've never had a problem with giving any info to a lady, but I have seen news stories about escorts getting busted who have kept some records; often, the nature of the records is unclear in the news stories. It might be as simple as "Tim, email address is [email protected], 2-hour date on 4/1/05, no problems", or it might be as complex as "Billy Johnson, local politician, mole on ass, liked having his balls tickled, home phone is XXX-XXX-XXXX, Visa card is XXXX with expiration date yy/ZZ."

Just like ladies each have to make their own decisions about how much information they need, you have to decide how much information you're comfortable with giving out. It's a risk, but only you can judge exactly how big a risk it actually is.  For me, I'd be willing to show my ID, but not a credit card; I've given work info, but I wouldn't give out a home phone. I've freely given out my TER handle, and I've got a Date-Check trial membership; it's doubtful that I'd ever prepay a deposit, though.

I totally agree with Misty Bay's point about not lying. If you don't feel comfortable giving her the information she asks for, just say so. It will probably end the chances of you meeting the lady in question, but that's better than the result if you go down that road and she finds out you have misled her.