When asked for referances from other providers,do they actually do a check?  I wouldn't give one of my regulars as a ref. due to the fact they may get jelous or upset that I did not call them. Providers I have seen only once may not even remember me.

I always check with references. It makes no sense to take the time to ask otherwise. If you are concerned about the ladies getting upset, ask them in advance if they would mind. If they do, perhaps you should consider moving on. No reputable provider would refuse such a request. They understand hobbyists are not exclusive (in most cases) & will be more concerned about your safety.

Regarding the issue of them remembering you, include some details about yourself & the session. That typically will help jog their memory. Good luck to you, & happy hobbying!

Seriously consider not seeing that provider again if you think she may get jealous of you using her as a reference and seeing another provider. This is no strings attached sex.
Letting a provider know that you would like to use her as a reference is a good idea. It could be a good thing they don't remember you. It means you didn't do anything out of the ordinary or inappropriate. A simple reminder would do. Yes, they actually check. The good ones do anyway. If they don't you don't really want to see them.

Or, as said above, any lady who actually gives a damn about safety will check references. Those who don't care about safety... do you really want to see them? Yikes!

Has your regular lady ever given you reason to think she'll be catty about you seeing other providers? If not, give her the benefit of the doubt that she'll be professional enough to know and accept she's not your one & only. Most ladies who accept references will also happily give them.

BTW, I've met plenty of gentlemen only once who I remember well, and as long as I've seen them within at least the past six months or so, I'll gladly give them the thumbs up so they can enjoy meeting other ladies.

...actually check. And we prefer you give us a few little details - no matter how silly - so they remember you!  If your reference doesn't remember you and turns out just being a flake that we waste our time with.....we'll then you will probably want to have another reference ready.

Here's an example I had the other day: Man: from town but staying at an extended stay. (No suite number to give me initially)  Cell Phone only. No P411 or Date Check. Wouldn't give his real name. And his provider reference was a fetish provider. Not a "PROVIDER" of anything else. Purely a kink provider. From Vegas. And, she seemed like a flake who didn't remember him and probably didn't know her own name even on a good day. After much time wasting I had to reject him.  I should of probably rejected earlier in my verification but I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. In the end, he was upset because she called HIM and said she knew him..... and  he "exposed" all his personal information and planned his "weekend" around this... Right............... Have a good day......

Have fun and play safe!

Summer

And a few other thoughts:
--Always assume they will check the references; hopefully they will
--Remembering you:  That is one of the reasons I bring small but carefully thought out gifts to ladies.  It tends to jog their memory when I remind them I brought the small jade giraffe in a space suit.
--Always ask if it is OK to use them as a reference.  That too is an opportunity to remind them who you are, and find out if they are still working.  A retired lady whose e-mail is not active makes a poor reference
--Ladies should not be jealous but people are people; I almost always use ladies from one city as references for someone I want to see in a deiiferent city

I would like to believe ladies are reference friendly and put safety far about jealousy in this profession. At least, that is HOW is should be. Unfortunately, not everyone feels that way.

Have fun & Play Safe!

I am not requesting a reference just for the hell of it there is a reason for my safety and comfort.
The fastest way to get an appointment with me is to send references with the initial appointment request I find it saves me as well as the gentleman a lot of time.Just ask the regular ladies that you see if it is okay to use them as a reference you never know until you ask.The hobby is suppose to be fun without complications so there should really be no need for a lady to be jealous.She is not your wife or girlfriend you do not owe it to her to see her and only her .Variety keeps things fun and exciting.
As some other replies have suggested add something with the request that will help her to remember you by.

However, it might be that they have looked at your review list, know that you have seen the provider and take that as an ok for you, esp if the provider whitelisted you.  Screening new clients can be a very time-consuming undertaking.

I'm not making excuses for not checking references, but offering a reasonable possibility why your refs weren't contacted.

Lou

I have been asked to provide references (which I am happy to do - I have several) several times and then find out that the ladies didn't check them.  Others don't even bother to ask.  

I always ask the ladies if they have checked my references or want some.  At least HALF DON'T EVEN BOTHER.

That is just crazy. I always tell them after the date is over to check people's references in the future.

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don't expect us to bother to check their reviews?

Not only should the gent let me know he's using me as a reference, but it might be nice to give me the head's up as to who might be calling. Anyone could say she's a provider - even his wife - so a first name and city is helpful before I go into the whole "Sorry, no idea what you're talking about" default setting!

If the guy came through P411 or Date-check, I would be less likely to check the references if they were provided. Also, if the employer info checks out, that may be enough, especially for an outcall to someone local in a house he lives in where it would be easy to verify the guy without any references.

Hotels are another story. And incall, you can't verify enough with all the info you get since your location could be disclosed.

If you find out a provider didn't check your references, ask her why she didn't rather than just assuming she didn't care about her safety. She may have a (surprise!) very logical answer and verified you without you knowing it.

.........Most providers see many hobbyists!  Why should they be jealous when it's the other way around?  As as been said: That's what the hobby is all about: uncomplicated, no-strings-attached fun.  If people want to develop "strings" as a connection is made--e.g., special services only for this hobbyist--that's their business.  But, what's good for the goose is good for the gander.