Confused I am. The lady you used as a reference didn't...

...remember you? or her "reference" was negative in content.

...that a lot of providers will only give references if you've seen them in the last 6 months.
Not saying that's wrong or right. I, too, had to take a break of 6 months last year. Unaware of the 6 month thing, I nonetheless scheduled with 2 providers I had previously seen, before seeking out new friends.
Disappointment averted, despite myself.

Since it had been some time since the last time you saw your reference did you reach out to your reference?
There are some providers who will not provide a reference if it is after 3mon,6months,or a year.
I would advise to reach out to your reference and ask if she is okay providing a reference for you.

Some women have time limits, which I sorta get.  Others won't give out any information AT ALL without your say so in an attempt to guard your privacy from an investigating SO or whatever.  

It also means that you'll remind them who you are before anyone else calls them so they actually will remember you, even low volume women see a fair number of people and most guys aren't that memorable.

Like they say, people will remember you by the way you make them feel. I remember taking customer service courses.  

When people are "wowed" by a company, they tell 5 people.
When people are "pissed off" about a visit to a company, they tell 50 people.
When people get what is expected, they tell 0 people.

Same goes for people you meet in life. People remember the great feelings - but they REALLY remember the bad feelings.

I've gotten reference requests for people from a year ago who had seen me one time. Some even reviewed me. And I can't remember them for the life of me.

Two years ago? One visit for one hour? Forget about it.

So - if someone doesn't remember you, it's probably because you didn't do anything wrong. Because if you made them feel angry, upset, frustrated, scared, grossed out - trust me - they will remember you! (Depending on volume.) i remember every bad client I had all the way back when I was in the first month of escorting - I know their names, what they did for a living, the length and color of their hair, what they said that upset me, how much they shorted me, (even if it was $3) and what they smelled like - and what I smelled like afterwards. LOL!

I can't say the same for people who came, did their thing, and said goodbye. There's one popping up in my head that I was wondering why I still remember him. Oh. because he asked for a "regular" discount after the first visit because he was planning to come weekly. lol! (I said no.)

So - trust me - if she forgot about you, you're gold.

And also - to add - just because one or two don't remember you, I am almost certain you have a few who remember you fondly. Think about those girls.

I am absolutely certain there are men who are still pissed off at me for shit I've said/done that I didn't even know I said/did. Or men who don't remember me. Or men who were like "meh". But then there are men who think I'm great - and their money proves it. I try to focus on those guys the most, and how I can bring more to the table for the guys who do remember me - enough to bring me more green.

Makes life better when you don't worry so much.

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Not remembering you is not the same as thinking you are not a good client...

And of course I remember you!

Steph xoxo