Has anyone actually gotten permission from your wife or SO to do this? If so, how did you manage it?

Oh, it was very easy.  I asked her when she was asleep and she didn't object.

Seriously, I was looking into an "affair" type sitiuation, but I still remember that poor bunny in Fatal Attraction.  My wife and I haven't beeen intimate in a loooonnnhg time. Since starting the hobby, I have taken better care of myself.  I have less stressed and it has improved the home situation.  She may suspect, but so far, she likes the new me.

Shit that is funny....now I know how to request permission as well!!  Ditto on the rest.

Don't laugh, but I've been thinking of asking, but I'm afraid it would blow up, so I've been doing it without asking. My wife and I are rarely intimate. Neither one of use really wants to anymore and when we do, I have a hard time getting off. I feel like a real man again with these girls. I know it's an act, but I still feel like a sexual being again. This "hobby" has actually helped with sex with the wife again. I've beem more interested in her again. She might suspect, but I can't bring myself to ask her permission.

I have shown my wife providers that I have seen to see what her reaction. The result was that she got more interested in sex. I also tell her how I can't believe how some many guys can have sex with so many women behind their wives back. My wife has finally giving me hot sex again. As a result I only hobby when she is on the rag now.

My wife told me that I can get laid whenever I want, by whoever I want, so long as I leave her the house and a big fat check.

actually, I have permission. The way it works is this: I can do what I want, and so can she, in return, do what she wants. This philosophy opened up myriads of possibilities we are just itching to explore and yet we can talk about it and find humor and insight into these relationships. I would say MOST women don't like to be lied to a lot more than they dont like thier guy having a 'hobby'. My guess is if you're open and honest about it, you stand to gain in your relationship with your SO. If you're not open and honest about it AND your SO finds out, you're bound to lose even more, and possibly everything. My feeling is that there is no reason to lie if your SO is able to feel you are still there for her in every way she needs. Just my two cents.

Tell your wife you have a fantasy that you would like to see *her* being satisfied by another woman -- that you just want to watch.  She may not be game, but it's a good way to test the waters.  If she is game... you two can look at providers together... then conversation may go any number of ways.  If you actually do hire a provider for *her* -- in the afterglow, your wife may be feeling pretty generous -- she may even get off on seeing you with the provider...  could open up things for you.  Just a thought  : )  good luck!