I'm kind of new to the scene, and I recently was told by someone to pay at the end of our date rather than the beginning.  This was unexpected.  Why would the provider prefer to be paid at the end?

I've never met a provider who preferred to be paid at the end.  It makes them suspicious the entire time whether you're going to walk without paying.

Always place down the envelope discreetly without saying a word about it as soon as you comfortably can when inside the door.  This is standard protocol and expected.

I almost always pay at the end.  It's very rare for me to be asked for the cash up front.  If her site gives specific directions, I certainly comply, but it's rare for me personally.

As said by others, follow each individual lady's guidelines. That is most important.

Most I've seen prefer the envelope to be dropped at the beginning. Then when I head in for a refresher shower, they can check it if they desire, without doing it in front of me. That way, it is off my mind and I can focus on fun. They have satisfied themselves that everything is in order and they can focus on fun without worrying, so it works well for everyone.

he pays at the beginning (thank a shorter for this lesson). He drops off the envelope and goes into the bathroom to freshen up while I take care of said envelope.

Repeat visits, I'm okay with him paying at the end.

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i prefer pay at the end. I ask money is just left out in sight. So there is no miss understanding, and he feels safe.

Pay up front, unless you really know the lady, and have a trust level established.  Even then, it's not a good idea...

As I get myself ready, I take off my glasses, watch, etc. There also happens to be a "little something" that is left behind when I gather myself at the end to go.

I had a girl call me after i left to thank me for forgetting something. It couldn't have been important to me if i left it behind. She and i are great friends as a result. Go figure.

In my experiences whether incall or outcall I always leave the envelope out in plain sight. all providers that I have seen with one exception have not even acknowledged that the envelope is there. the one exception just put it in her purse without looking at it.
If the provider did open it up and look at it at the beginning I wouldn't have an issue with that either.
For me it is all about making the lady comfortable in the surroundings.

It is the norm in this industry to pay at the beginning.  However, if a certain provider asks to be paid at the end, just respect her wishes, when you are with her.  I do not think it will hurt you, if you pay her at the end, as opposed to paying her at the beginning.  (Just don't start thinking it is the norm to pay at the end!)

This gives the opportunity to make sure all is well.  I also want to assure the lady that her donation is not dependant on how things go.

I, as many others have said, find a place to drop the envelope as soon as possible after entering the house, room, etc.  Most of the ladies I have seen totally ignore it until much later.

One time, a lady did ask about it at the end.  She had not seen me drop it on her dining room table, and was slightly embarrassed when I told her where it was.  No biggie as far as I was concerned.

Swim

One of my Favs does so.  Traditionally a Gentleman silently leaves the donation on her dresser while redressing.  From a Sting stand point it is far superior, as money is neither discussed nor exchanged until the date is nearing completion.  I like it as it adds to the GF illusion.  I'm also paranoid that I might forget.  
It is cumbersome for me to dress with my pockets full of "junk" so at home I empty them on a dresser.  On a visit, I have the correct donation with my pocket junk...  and just leave it behind when refilling my pockets.  My Favs who do this are generous with the dressing time, and the donation silently disappears in the back & forth of bathroom use...  before I am out the door.
I know current providers are fearful of being ripped off...  I know some who stated they had been.  So they like to see the envolupe before...  some even put it away.  Can't really blame them but IMHO it detracts from the illusion initially.  
To me this is "role playing" a delightful touch in the GFE.
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even by those I've seen before

If for some reason I forget to lay out the envelope, being asked for it before the session kills the mood.

And creating the illusion / mood is the most important aspect of the experience.

I'd much rather be reminded afterward if I forget....

Mind - the only (very rare) times I tend to forget is with ladies I've seen enough to be very comfortable with....

Personally IF a lady ask me to pay towards the end, I would think she was working with LE..  This would not make me feel comfortable regardless How long I known this lady.

I absolutely do not say ANYTHING about the donation. Some men that I see interpret this to mean that they can pay at whatever point they prefer. Not the case. I prefer that the donation be left in plain sight, and that he excuse himself to use the restroom/wash his hands. I use tht time to count the donation, then put it away.

This benefits you in two ways. One, she knows the donation is out of the way, and that the amount is correct. That removes a distraction when it comes time to have fun. She won't be wondering in the back of her mind if the envelope is correct. A side benefit of excusing yourself to wash your hands to give her the opportunity to count the donation is that many women won't allow your fingers anywhere near their privates unless they know you washed your hands first.

What a gentleman!
This is the way I prefer it to be done. Don't even mention it!
Yes, the provider risks being "shorted" but that's only happened to me once. Obviously, I won't see that guy again... and that is punishment enough for him.
I love it when a guy just "leaves a little something" on the nightstand because:
I love feeling like a naughty little slut but I don't like feeling like a "working girl." Demanding and counting cash upfront makes everything that follows feel like a business transaction and that is not hot. I want the cash to feel like a bonus for me...

"Gee, fucking him was so much fun! Oh, there's money too!!"

Fantasy now. Reality later. Better for both parties.

Is that she might think you will tip her extra if you pay at the end of the session.

It is far more normal, and expected, for you to place the donation in plane sight at the start of the session.

... to be quite common with a couple of the agencies that I use regularly and with some of my independent regulars. I like it because it makes tipping simple.

I have also found that I pay at the end with new providers who have received strong references from other providers.

MH50

I have been called many things, and some were actually good, but never have I been called classy.

Especially by such a HYT (hot young thing)!

I have had providers ask me to pay at the end. the practice does happen. My preference is pay at the beginning.

Usually the lady will list her donation instructions on her website. If she does, follow them especially if it's your first meet. I always drop off the donation in plain site at the beginning of the date while saying nothing. Then I excuse myself to the restroom to wash my hands. I do this every time, even if it's my 5th time seeing her.

SR

My sentiments exactly. I always appreciate the money upfront because I have been walked out on after a seemingly great session. Don't want that lingering in my thoughts. I have one friend who asks for pay at the end because she says that they feel more obliged to tip. I'd rather have a stress free, fun session than a small tip.



-- Modified on 2/20/2010 12:19:18 AM

Happened to me when I visited an agency.  When I made the appointment, the phone girl told me not to pay or even mention money until after the session was over.

I figured it was a protection against LE.  Seems unlikely that cops would be allowed to actually sleep with a provider in the course of trying to bust her (though I've heard that this definitely isn't the case in certain states), and if nobody at the actual site makes any mention of money changing hands, it might make it harder to make a bust.