Oh for the love of Mike, no one is saying that you can't ask, or are wrong for asking. I just want to know who is cooking your crack for you because they do a mighty fine job if you actually think you are going to get an honest answer.

Furthermore, do you seriously think a lady is going to hand over a sheet of paper to you that contains ALL of her personal information just to show you she tested negative for STD's? Fat chance.

Another point you seem to keep missing here, is that we are talking about ladies who see a variety of partners. So your intended paramour was tested 3 weeks ago, and came up clean as a whistle. Great! Now you know that as of three weeks ago, she was clean. What about the last 3 weeks? Do you think she is any less of a risk than the lady you didn't go see who told you to take a flying leap when you asked her for paperwork? They have both been with partners other than you who's STD status you have no clue about.

Next item for discussion: So lets say we all test ourselves regularly, and have the papers to prove it. What's next? Some fools will think that means they have a green light to go BBFS. Egads, how stupid could that be?

You seem to think that just because others have a more realistic view of the risks, acceptance of that risk, and a realistic view of the likely outcome of making inquiries beforehand somehow means others are less cautious than you. You couldn't be further from the truth. Go to the general discussion board and search back a few weeks, and you'll find a never ending thread on the subject of BBFS in the hobby. See where pretty much every single provider who chimed in stands on the subject.

Your first posts seemed to be an understandable attempt at getting information. Now I have to wonder just how much you want to learn when your response to the reasonable replies you received is to get angry and then insult everyone. Well providers at least, and the men who see us without *gasp* demanding a blood test immediately before the fun begins.

Its simple really. This activity has risks. Plain, simple, period. Practicing safe sex reduces but does not eliminate those risks. Putting in the due dilligence of researching a lady before meeting her reduces but does not eliminate those risks. Asking her about her STD status before hand simply wastes your time and hers, while doing absolutely nothing to reduce your risk. If she does in fact test, she'll tell you. If she doesn't test, she sure as hell isn't going to fess up about it, so you've proven nothing.

If you can't accept some level of risk in this hobby, the only thing left is for you to find a new hobby. I suggest stamp collecting.

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