Women are not like a webmaster (in your case) or a systems administrator (in my case) in that they don't all live online and in their email. For me if you email me you get an answer within a minute. For a woman it can take days.

That said I suggest you rethink the value you see in p411. As well as the limited value I assume you see in a paid account here. It is worth more then the money invested to get the info that TEr can give you and it is worth your money invested in p411 to have SOME form of standardized reference you provide. She may be ok with a scanned copy of your drivers license, or with a brief casual meeting first. Every girl is different.

I am always amused at hobbyists who enter the hobby with the intent of making it a "recreational treat". Maybe they'll hobby once a year when the whim hits.

Let me give you a dose of reality. NOBODY (especially after their first experience) hobbys on a once a year basis. NOT A CHANCE IN THE WORLD. There is no way you will hobby, pay $300-$500 for an hour, have that lady rock your world sexually and do things you didnt even think were possible, and then NOT hobby again for another year. Doesnt work that way. You will be so pumped at the experience that you cant wait to repeat. Conversely, if the experience wasnt what you wanted it to be, you will be so angered that you wasted the money, that you will immediately look for a second encounter..Thus the cycle begins anew. Once you start, it takes YEARS to get out (and most of don't want to get out anyway ) Be VERY VERY prepared to make hobbying a part of your life. Make sure its something you really want.

On the issue of references. It doesnt matter what information you want to give a lady. It only matters what information the lady deems necessary in order for her to be comfortable seeing you. You have no provider references and are self employed and don't want to join a verification site. Ask yourself, if you were a provider would you see Mr. Tennis based on receiving an E-mail from him, with no provider references attached nor any employment information? Of course not. You say you provided her with  some personal information? If she is concerned about appropriately sceening (which I hope she is), I cant imagine what personal information you possibly provided for validation (I am sure it reveals nothing about your identity). I doubt its going to be enough to make her want to see you. You have to TRUST the lady to some degree. After all, you are asking her to TRUST you in setting up an appointment and ultimately being intimate with a complete stranger. If you are not willing to have that trust with EVERY (and I mean EVERY) lady you wish to see, than you can't hobby. It's that simple.

As far as the amount of time it takes to receive a repsonse from a lady, the situation varies greatly. Some ladies may respond immediately. Others may take days. Understand that the ladies have "a life" outside of the hobby world. They do not just sit at a computer 24/7 waiting for E-mails. Also, in your case, the provider may not be newbie friendly, or she is not taking any new clients at this time, so she may have just ignored your E-mail completely. Part of the pitfalls of hobbying. You can send her a follow E-mail up but beyond that there is not much you can do.



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If a guy has no references and no P411, I ask him for a photo of himself holding his driver's license, business card/pay stub, and a handwritten note with my name and the date on it. I tell him that he can put tape or whatever over his SSN and address where they appear. Sometimes I require links to social networking sites as well.

With how insane technology is these days, I just don't trust the work verification method.

Keep in mind, though, every lady has different policies.

One more thing, be careful about emailing through multiple outlets. It can be seen as pushy.

I'm still relatively new at this and think I can relieve some of your worries. Everyone has a first time so that means everyone who hasn't got verification from another provider gets seen. On P411 look for ladies who say they are newbie-friendly. My first time was with a well-reviewed lady who emailed that she was acceoting new clients. Yes they have to protect themselves but remember they also are entrepreneurs running a business. So if you really are a decent person someone will say yes.

As for providers responding to emails, I've only had one not respond. But she hadn't been reviewed in a long time and hasn't been since, so I think she's gone from the biz. Sometimes you have to wait and that is suspenseful. As others posted not every lady sits by her computer. And remember she might be spending time with clients. You won't want her emailing or texting when she's spending time with you. And I had one lady tell me she never responds to emails while she's in a hotel using its WiFi. Extra careful, but there it is.

So enjoy this. It really is fun. Maybe you will only go once a year. My guess is not.

If she doesn't respond, move on.

Otherwise, she might just be thinking you're a stalker.

Hmm.  So turns out the provider whom I'd like to see has a post in the ad board for my city.  Would it be proper to reply with my interest in an appointment with her there?  I was guessing no as I don't see any public replies to any of the ad board threads.