Man I messed up. I saw my first (and only from this point, it isn't worth the headache.)

I had an outcall, McKenzie in Houston. I'm now worried about the HIV. We used a condom, never BB and it never broke and never got any juices on my hog's hole.

I read that condoms aren't 100% effective against the disease. I would have to read into it but I'd say it was more due to improper use rather than failure as far as the %'s go?

I have only been with my wife until this girl and I have to say it wasn't all I thought it would be.

Anyway, did or do you guys feel or have felt the same after a meeting with a provider?

I know this girl works for a reputable (if there is any) agency here in Houston that is regulary haveing reviews of its girls on here. I asked her if they test them, she said that they don't but she gets tested, but I never point blanked her to ask if she had been tested in a while.

Now I'm up freaking late and sweating about it. She told me that she never does anything without a condom so that makes me feel a little better but you know how the brain can be.

I really should get a test I guess but I suppose you have to wait about 1-2 months or so before it can be accurate.

I tried to call the agency back to see if they could put me in touch with her just to ask her and reassure myself but they haven't called me back tonight. Probably think I'm pissed or something.

Sorry for the loong post. Maybe you guys can ease my pain.

You might want to rethink this as a hobby.  Is it worth it for you or will the stress kill you.  For most of us it helps relieve stress.  Keep it covered and learn to enjoy it, guilt and stress free.

Also you might not want to call an agency back asking to talk to a women you've already been with asking about whether or not she's been HIV tested....."freaking out over here!"  It least if you ever plan on using that service again.

Good luck, hope you learn to enjoy it.  It really is a great hobby. I've almost given up golf.

There's a huge repository of information both on this site and throughout the internet on HIV and other STDs.  On doing only a little research, I think you'll find the probability of your having caught HIV from this enounter is just about zero.

That having been said, though, as EvanL pointed out; you DO seem to kind of high-strung.  It would be a REALLY bad idea to call the agency as you suggest.  If you'd feel better, certainly get tested.  But the best thing you could do in this case is learn the facts, then hobby safely.

I have been at this hobby for over 11 years.  Never caught any STD.   Keep it safe by using a cover, keep your 6th sense (instincts) on keen alert and don't start a session if your instinct tells you something doesn't look, smell, or seem kosher. I also highly recommend not seeing a provider that does not have good to excellent reviews on TER.  TER is an excellent source of information and this is a rule I never break because the few time that I got ripped off it was when I took a shot at an unreviewed provider.  The reviews will also tell you about other hobbyists 6th sense and you will learn from that too.

This hobby has added alot to my life and has been the source of much fun and pleasure.  You have to learn to relax and enjoy or else don't continue with this.  Your chance of contracting an STD is infinitesimally small AS LONG AS you use precautions and your good judgement.

Good Luck.

This provider had one review, about 6 months old. I just looked her up. She got a bad review, but I didn't see it till afterwards. She wasn't that bad.

She mentioned that she got tested on her own regularly and always went covered not bb. I found that to be assuring. I have read several responses here and on "thebody.com" and it seems that I have little to worry about.

I believe, and correct me if I'm wrong, that with UN-protected sex the odds of contracting hiv (from vaginal) are like .1 to .2 percent and that with a condom on, that does not break or slip off, that risk goes down exponentially like by 15 to 20 times. So, if it is a 1 in 500 chance UN-protected then it would be around 1 in 10,000 chance?

I really feel shitty though because my wife is pregnant and we sometimes have sex, just not as much. There is no way I can wait 3 months to have a test she'll figure it out. I also don't want to infect her (if I even have it) or my kid. Maybe I should zip my dick in my zipper or something to buy some time (lol). I'm fucked.

You sound very nervous and I believe it is all for nothing.  Maybe you should consider not playing in this hobby if for nothing else than peace of mind.

Having said that, I also believe that you will be tested and find that you have no STD and all this worry is for nothing.

Good Luck

You tried it and it did not cause bells to go off for you.  I can only read your post, but it looks like a physical relationship with another woman is not for you.  I can't offer anymore advice, because without knowing you anything that I suggest about how to solve your problem would be presumptuous.

After rethinking your situation and reading the rest of these post. I agree, you should zip your dick up in your zipper. It only hurts when you unzip it.

You and I are in similar situations.  I too stay up nights fearing the HIV bug.  My wife was pregnant when I visited my first provider back in May 2004.  I was tested in July after being with 3 other providers, and came out negative in all aspects, though they advised me to retest in December because it can take as long as 6 months for HIV antibodies to show up on the test.   I am pretty sure you and I are absolutely clean of HIV....  It's just that the fear of "what if"....  I have decided to drop this hobby till my baby grows up because my biggest fear is dying before my daughter grows up.  In 18 years I think I'll be more emotionally and financially ready to hobby like mad.  I think you might want to consider holding off for a few years just like me if you are emotionally not ready.  My 2 cents.

I'd have to agree with just about everyone here.

I know it isn't for me at this time, maybe even ever.

I see that lots of guys do this and never catch the HIV, they're either lucky or condoms do the trick.

I am still worried, just not as much as I have exhausted myself looking at similar stories on the body.com and health boards.com and there is a consensus. More times than not you are clean.

I know you regulars will hate me but I asked the provider if I should be worried and she told me no and was offended. I know it was crap for me to do it but I had to get that piece of mind.

How did you put your wife off while she was pregnant long enough to get tested and not have sex before that?

My wife and I have not had sex since October 2003, when she first found out she was 2 weeks pregnant.  Because my wife had 2 miscarriages before (for unknown reasons), we decided to avoid sex and any potentially dangerous activities until after the baby is born.  The baby is now 2 months old, and we are both too tired to even think about sex.  I think I can easily hold off till December before touching my wife again. The baby is certainly an energy-drainer.