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New to the hobby, very quick question!
JackB1900 2862 reads
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Hello, I just had a quick question that I am sure almost anyone who has been in the hobby for a little bit can answer. I am how shall I say...sexually inexperienced? Practically a virgin having only slept with one girl one time and now that I am creeping into my mid-twenties with hardly any experience it seems the girls that are interested in me I tend to blow off because I feel they won't be able to get over how lame I am in bed. So, this leads me to ask the question, how many providers are more on the side of "teaching" per say as opposed to sitting back and enjoying the ride? I ask this question because generally only the more mature women seem to provide this type of service, but I am more curious about the younger girls since they of course reflect more the type of women that I encounter and hit on in my daily life. Is this just one of those things that I'll have to ask each individual provider that I happen to be interested in seeing? Thanks for your time! :-)

quartertone845 reads

Pick someone you find attractive and go for it. She will be able to help you feel more relaxed if you are nervous and inexperienced, but you don't need "teaching"!

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fallonkelly982 reads

If so, I would say pick some ladies and read the reviews.  Some ladies, young and old, do have age limit rules, so that is a consideration being that you are in your 20's.  

Yes, I believe if that is what you are looking for, you should have no trouble in finding it.  It just may take some research.  

The reviews will give you an idea, then contact with the provider will tell you for sure.  

Hope you find what your looking for and sounds like fun.  I've always had a lot of newbies and love "teaching."  

Thanks

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impposter1511 reads

A Newbie went to Japan on a business trip and, thanks to TER, was able to arrange a meeting with a pretty Japanese provider. Although inexperienced, he's doing OK in the hot, fast paced session. Then, he turns her over for K9 and rams it in. She starts bucking and screaming "Machigatsu ana! Machigatsu ana! Aaaiiii!" He's thinking "She's loving this! I'm turning her on! I've found her button!" He finishes, pulls out and they both collapse on the bed. She is in tears, whimpering "Machigatsu ana. Machigatsu ana." He is thinking, "She must think I am quite the stud!! 'Machigatsu ana', 'you the man', 'this is GREAT!'"

That weekend, he is golfing with his business contacts. One of them makes a fantastic shot, a hole in one. The Newbie starts jumping up and down and shouting "Machigatsu ana!" over and over. His golf buddies, at first also excited and congratulatory, now appear perplexed and ask the Newbie, "What you mean: 'wrong hole'?"

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quartertone927 reads

Maybe so, but I think that's the wrong approach. Sex isn't that complicated.

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keystonekid1637 reads

well-reviewed ladies (a minimum of 6 reviews from experienced hobbyists who have at least that many reviews over time).  You might find a younger provider (mid-20's) who has the experience and desire to teach you.  It has been said before that the ladies in their 30's are better at this than most younger gals.

Remember, plenty of fish in the sea.

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srpg0071074 reads

But girls in their 30's are perfect IMO. I've seen them from 19 to 49 and I'm 48. I love the 30 something ladies.. Nice and horney and so skilled. Killer bods too. Try a variety and have fun. So many wonderful ladies to see that will treat you great..


SR

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shudaknownbetter1180 reads

I think many providers would gladly "teach" you...  but think the best results would be achieved with a hot MILF...  perhaps a few years your senior.  You SHOULD enjoy the experience as well but learn to balance your own pleasure with that of your partner.  There is a lot written on the Women's Internet like "ivillage".  

When in bed with a woman, you will need to pay attention for the subtile clues as to what they enjoy.  Wonem (& men) are individuals & you should not assume that a success with one with exactly translate to another.  

Incidentally, in the early days...  even in the  US...  there was a tradition of an older male realative (often a trusted Uncle) taking the young gentleman to a reliable provider to teach him about sex.   Even though your eventual goal is to translate this into the civilian non-hobby world, you still will need familiarity with the "rules" of the hobby.  You should read the Newbie manual (link at the top of this board) & read back several pages here.  
Before making your selection of providers...  and I suggest you meet with more than one...  you'll need VIP to read the complete reviews.  VIP allows you to access the TER Private Message system.  You should also learn to use the search feature & review providers in your area.  Note the local "regional" boards, drop down menu to your left.  You might connect with someone there.  

You even though you are not in a relationship now, you should use a separate free e-mail not linked to your main e-mail.  

A word of caution...  do not fall in love with a provider.  It is surprisingly easy to fall for a woman we have great sex with.  The description GFE (Girl Friend Experience) is an illusion of what it might be like if she WAS your GF.  And she is for the duration of your time together.  But when the door closes behind you, it's over.

One last thing...  you never tell anyone about providers you see.  Not your best friend, not your (eventual) GF, no one.  A secret is only a secret when you are the only one who knows.  IF pressed, you can say you've had "girl-friends" & it's no one else's business how long they weere your GF for.

You are not the only one who has this issue...
Best Wishes,
skb

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rhodie1906 reads

As a provider in my mid twenties I think it would be awsome to see someone in my age range. I work with a few providers in thier early twenties. We're normal people and if you find someone your comfortable with then everything else falls into place easily. It might be like having a nsa relationship in a sense with someone you like to hang out with.

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JackB1900791 reads

Thank you so much! You don't need to say "normal" to have me understand that you are a person just like I am who has wants and wishes. Your advice has been very helpful, and I will surely take all the suggestions to heart and make the best out of the experiences I'll soon be having.

Comfort I believe is the number one thing I am looking for, and you were spot on with that comment! :-) Hopefully everything will go well, I do attract quite a bit of women, and even though people say sex isn't complicated, the complication is getting out of your own head to enjoy the pleasure and company of another person. This is what I am looking for, and to first get out of my head I need to relax, and comfort is the kindling for the fire of relaxation. I am glad you decided to post, and ScarlettKisses as well. So for now I'll get on the research and try and find someone who will help me become a fun and carefree love. ;-P

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