This is a reprint. Thought I'd post it again.
If you have to jump into the deep end without getting your feet wet first by seeing reviewed providers. Here are helpful tips to aid in the process. Lets say you want to see a girl who does not have any reviews and is posting on lets say Backpage. There is an extremely high risk of getting
ripped off or having a bad time. Yet here is how I recommend proceeding.

1:
Don't answer an ad where the pictures look too good to be true. They usually are. Rarely do model type beautiful women post on Backpage type websites. The pics are fake. Copy and paste the ads phone number on the google search bar and see if any links come up. Let's say an ad for them in another city. That is a little more safe. If no links come up then be even more cautious.

2:
As a Newbie don't answer an ad for a provider who only has posted once. You are not ready for that. That is for the much more experienced. If the provider is posting multiple times over a period then you have a better chance of not getting into trouble.

3:
Just before you call, take a shower and be ready to hop into your car and go. Most providers on Backpage are ready to see someone immediately. If you try to make an appointment for hours later and you get to their location they usually don't answer when you call.

4:
Always bring your own condoms. After giving them your money they might say they don't have a condom and if you didn't bring one then bad luck for you. No refunds You'll have to settle for a quick handjob. If you're lucky.

5:
When it's time to call dial the number and when they say "hello." You say "hello I was calling to see if you're available." That's all you say. They'll usually ask for when and then you say "as soon as you're available." If they say I'm available right now. Then you ask "where are you located?" They will usually give you just a general location. Then you should say "What would the hour be?" Don't say rate or donation or how much. Just say exactly that. If they say "I won't discuss that" then don't push the issue and say "I understand." and then once you get there and call again they will know you are serious on seeing them and give you their exact location. Then when you call once you are at the usually cheap motel you'll call again and they will give you the room number.

6:
A more experienced Hobbyist will know when to ask about the donation, meaning providers rate. However as a Newbie you have no experience with this. If they won't tell you when you first called then they probably won't tell you until you are up in the room with them.

7:
Once you arrive at the motel drive around the motel and look for anything suspicious. Anything that makes you a little concerened that looks out of the ordinary or suspicious. If it doesn't feel right then leave. If they call you back and want to give you a hard time apologize and tell them something like you just got a call and have to go back home.

8:
If everything is good after the drive around and you are at the motel and have just called and gotten the room number. Then park in a well lit close to the front and able to exit parking space. Hide any valuables and don't bring anything in the room with you other than only enough money to cover your expenses with her, a bottle of water for you, your cell phone and condoms. Don't bring I.D. a wallet or jewelry or any other valuables. I'm not trying to scare you just be safe.

9:
Knock on the door. Once they open the door it's time to put your big boy pants on and make fast decisions. If you are not happy with the person who opened the door mabe they are way different than the person in the photo and you don't want to have any sexual activity with this person then do not walk into the room. Tell them "I'm sorry I left something in my car and walk don't run away. Then get into your car and leave. If they call then answer and say you are sorry but you got nervous because she wasn't the girl in the photo and you are brand new to this. Be apologetic so they will not continually call because they are upset you wasted their time.

10:
If you like their appearance then walk in. You then say hello and put your water bottle down on the closest place. If the T.V. is on then have the guts to ask if we can turn this off. Othwerwise they will leave it on and it will be a huge distraction for you, and she'll focus on it rather than you. When the T.V. is off ask them "how Are you? Then get close to them and look at them and ask "are we cool?" When you ask that look at them and it is not going to keep you from getting arrested if that is the case but at least you will break the ice and get things going. Spending fifteen minutes because you don't know how to proceed to the sex part will cost you fun time. When you ask "are we cool?' Then get close to them and they will usually want to let you know they are cool and believe it or not put your hand on their shoulder and then move your hand down to their hand and move it towards the outside of your pants where your crotch is and at the same time they are about to touch your pants touch their breast on the outside of their shirt. This is meant as a super fast ice breaker. Remember it's time to step up and break the ice. Otherwise you'll be talking forever and burning precious time.

11:
Once you both know each other are cool then ask politely "how much for the hour?" When they tell you and you feel you are willing to pay that, do not pull out your money yet! Once they tell you the rate first ask "that would be for a full hour?" If you are comfortable with their response then you tell them what you want as far as sex things. The reason being once you pay them and it's time for action they may tell you when you ask them to do something "oh no, I don't do that." Or they might say "oh no, that's extra." So before you pay once they tell you the hour rate.  For example tell them "I like to get oral and I like to fuck." That would be the time if they were not going to they would say no and explain. Then you say "I'm sorry I was really hoping for that. That is a big reason why I came here." If they say no then say "Well I'm sorry things didn't work out." then you leave. If they say they are willing to do that then give them the money. It's best to have a rough idea of how much it's going to be and have that exact amount in your pocket for you to pull out and hand to them. If you pull out a wod of cash it will give them upsell ideas. If you need more money then pull it from another pocket. Don't show them how much you have.

12:
Don't hand it to them just lay the money on the dresser. They may or may not count it. Once the financial part is taken care of ask if it's cool to get comfortable. This is when it's time for both of you to get naked and do your thing. Don't be shy. If you don't ask they won't do. ASK!!

13:
Once you are finished then clean yourself and get dressed and thank them. If they ask for a tip don't feel the pressure of having to give it to them if you don't want to. If you get nervous even though you don't want to give them anymore money and they have seen you have more money and you don't have the guts to not give it to them then hand them a twenty. If they have not seen anymore money on you then tell them what you gave them is all you brought.

14:
Remember regardless of whether you had a good time or bad time always say "thank you." They have your phone number. It's a good idea to get one of those Tracfone's from Walmart and not to use your everyday personal cell phone. That way you can dispose of the phone if any negative issues arise.

It's important for anyone thinking of answering ads on BP for non-reviewd providers to understand that NOTHING written in the "helpful guidelines"  will keep you from getting busted if you walk into a sting.

Not much was left out, from the beginning. Gotta start somewhere, and SOMEone is using BP, right?
I'm certainly not promoting BP but...there are legitimate providers there. Why- that is the best question.  For all of the ads that are rip-offs, there are the real ones with real photos. I'm thinking there may be other stings to walk into apart from  making an arrangement on BP.

Hey Cuddies,

Good stuff!

You pretty much summarized what ALL hobbysts should do, especially from websites such as Backpage.

I especially liked number 11. After experiencing 2 'cash and dash' deals, I keep the "donation" until AFTER the services are rendered. That way I know that the provider will do as advertised. Yes, I do inquire about the services before the session starts just to make sure that both parties are on the same page. I have NEVER shorted any provider when I do it this way.

This should be a permanent post in the Newbie section.

Thanks!

Serpius

Hey JustElle,

Yes, a few good points you brought up.

You are correct that even some well reviewed providers do advertise on Backpage and CityVibe. Why?

Simple answer, there are a LOT of traffic going through Backpage and CityVibe as compared to review only websites including TER.

Even since Craigslist stopped their 'Adult Services' section, many of those people migrated over to Backpage and CityVibe.

The point about that police stings are NOT just confined to Backpage. Recently, there have been 2 busts from a "well known" review site based in Ohio - One in Cleveland and one in Columbus.

Serpius

Backpage is advertised by legitimate providers because it's cheap;  but they are few and far between on that minefield.  The rule still should apply that you verify pictures somehow and don't pull the trigger until you have consistent reviews unless you enjoy being smack in the middle of TOFTT territory with bad outcomes.

If you love that, then dive into BP or something similar with no reviews. Citivibe is a minefield, but the pics are better and more legit providers Indies or Agencies use it.

So what are the chances of LE sting if you are using girls well reviewed on this site or one posting on preferred 411?  Trying to take this slow and cautious.

services and money AFTER they are in the room with a non-reviewd provider is retarded...can you say BUSTED? Paying after? He will be shown the door in the first five minutes. ANY provider worth her salt is not going to let you pay after, nor will she be stupid enough to discuss which services she provides and for what amount. That is bad advice. Even when I was a total newbie, I would not even show a guy my tits without the donation...pay before you pump!

Any guy who insists on paying after is a scumbag who needs another hobby. No provider I know would start any kind of service without the donation unless it was with someone she knew very well, who would not rip her off. The same guys boasting about never ripping gals off are the very ones alerted for doing just that lol. Ironic.

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they can "use" her for anything. Word would get around pretty quick, and her reviews would stop coming. When a sting is set up it is mostly always outcall to an apt. or hotel room, and done within a 24 hour period so they can catch as many clients or hookers as possible before the word spreads. Nothing is 100 percent, so if you are this paranoid it may be a good idea to go the sugar baby route.