One little breech and the game is up.

I'd also be a bit wary of seeing a provider who does not exercise caution in her affairs.

Swim:  Great to see you still here.

I recently got the urge to visit a provider and began doing my research. I found a provider I would really like to see. So I did my research. She has many excellent reviews. I researched on many different boards, not one bad review anywhere. What was strange is I found a post of hers on one of those boards and to my surprise it contained her real name. Don't know what that was all about. Well out of curiosity I googled that name figuring there wouldn't be any info but I was wrong. Info all over the place. Looks like she is married. All the info seems to match up, it is really weird. I still want to contact her to make an appointment, but I am a little freaked out. I would never release what I have found to anyone after all we all need to be safe. I just feel a little weird about her being married (I wonder if the husband knows?) and also possibly messing up and accidentally saying her real name. What would you guys do, would you still contact her and make an appointment to see her? I really feel bad about finding this info, but it was right there in the open, but like I stated before I will take it to my grave.

then you should not see her. However, there is nothing unusual about a provider being married or having an SO. Many of them do. Some of them that do, their SO knows what they do. Some of them, the SO does not know. It is not your concern and none of your business, but if it bothers you, do not see her. If it doesn't bother you (even though you already said it did) and you want to see her, then make an appointment. Call her by her provider name. Do not mention anythng about her real name or any of the information you found. She will think you are a stalker. Do not mentin the SO. Have a good time.

If it was me, I would probably send her an anonymous email telling her about her real name being on a site, and that her real info is now searchable, and that maybe she shoud do something about it, if there is a way she could pull the information. People could use that to hurt her. It is dangerous and she should know about it. However that is dangerous territory because if you tell her, even for her own good, that will scare her, and you will seem like a stalker. Even an anonymous email will probably freak her out, but she does need to know.

You know you are not going to tell anyone about what you discovered, but if you found it, someone else could also.  I'm not sure how I would handle it, but from the tone of your post, I think you would feel very uncomfortable seeing her for a provider date.  In light of that, I'd say, don't schedule her.  

However, I do think you owe it to her, for her safety's sake, to let her know what you found out.  Someone else might not be as concerned as you are with her private information.  Whether you choose to tell her anonymously or not is up to you.  If I was a provider and my info was available to the public, I'd want to know about it.

Swim

Swim, glad to see you are still here and haven't fled since the moderator shakeup.  Hope you continue to post here regularly.

Admin asked me to be a host for this board.  Not sure what I'm spsd to do, but I will continue to offer help and advice to those who need or ask for it.

Swim

Nice to know TER is still capable of making an intelligent decision. Perhaps there is hope.

Thanks for the advice guys. I still really want to make an appointment to see her though. Her reviews are just too good. She is well reviewed on this board and many others. You guys are right though she really should know about. I am just not sure about how to inform her. Obviously it needs to be anonymous. I am really surprised she posted that info on the board.She must not have been thinking at the time? She seems like a really intelligent person. Like I said I still want to see her. I do want her to know her info is out there. I just really don't want her to know I found it. I never expected too find any info on the google search...I was shocked when I did and surprised she slipped up like that. What should I do.

You forget you know her real name unless she tells you to call her something different.  Some ladies do indeed use their real first.  Many of us know the given names of providers...  I'd rather not know, actually.  Because now I have an obligation to protect her information.  
Just play the game by the book.  

skb

asked you to be the "hostess"?

Glad to see this has worked out well...for you as well as the future (and past) newbies that you have so masterfully helped out

BTW..do you still have rights to fly on the TER corporate jet?

I wouldn't want to see you if you are that freaked out - the session will not go well as you will be worrying about all this extra baggage. On the other hand, you would be doing her a service to somehow let her know what you found - most likely she doesn't know. We need to maintain our levels of separation between our personal lives and our provider lives for safety reasons.

As for the married part, that should be the least of your concerns. I mean this in the nicest way ~ this is not The Dating Game ~ it is p4p. In her provider facade she is there to provide for you as if you are the only person that matters to her ~ her real life is inconsequential during that appointment.

Good luck

Have fun and play safe!

Unfortunately, we mods no longer have corporate jet access.  Guess since they are no longer "paying" us, we don't deserve that perk any more.  Thus far, I don't know what exactly is expected of me.  I will continue to offer what assistance I can, I just no longer have to approve posts, admin is doing that.

Swim

Now that I have thought about it, it really doesn't bother me that she is married..I am married myself. I was more so worried about possibly slipping up and using her real name. Other than that I am ok with everything else. I would really like to tell her her info is out there. Actually she put the info it in her post. She was trying to do a good thing but I don't think she thought it through. I would like her to know that her real info is discoverable, but i would like to do it anonymously. How should I go about doing that?

Hi,

I was researching you for a possible date and found what may be your real information.

-insert link here-

Be assured that I would do nothing to disrupt your life.

Please respond so that I know this email reached you instead of spam.

When / if she responds, close the account.

You need to make the subject line catch her attention so she opens the mail.  I'd probably send it as a request for an extended date and appologise for the deception, but she needed the information.

Should I use one of those anonymous e-mail sites or just set up another google or yahoo account with no real personal information?

Seems to me that if you use google or yahoo with no personal information then it is anonymous.

i had a client clue ME in that my facebook was linked to my googled number. Omg! i am such a total nerd in real life, and in rpoviding but people reading my facebook good lord. I was so embarrased. I took the facebook down asap. which was a good thing any how sonce i was starting to document everything i was doing and it was like really nerdy of me. Like every recipe i maek and the alterations i make to it. OMG, what a dork. And to think potential clients coulda been seein all that . I was grateful the guy brought it to my attention!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!    definetly tell her!!!!!!!!!! she defiently i am sure will want to take action to make it not so thatl come up! tell her!