The rule is to not discuss money on the phone or in texting but recently this is exactly what has been going on from other parties. The providers(who are well reviewed on ter) i am speaking to know i am verified and have references so is this normal to have them throwing numbers and explicit information through phone chat and texting? I understand leaving a trail is never good but i reallly just want to know if its a typical thing to speak with providers about money in this manner when mutually verified/ref'd.
I personally am lose interest in a provider when they start doing this but can change my mind if im being ignorant and silly about this, especially when we both can be trusted as far as reviews/references. I just dont want to be lured in by someone who might have been well reviewed and known in the biz and then turncoat to save her own ass for Le.

To reduce or mitigate criminal prosecution, well reviewed/verified providers or hobbyists have been known to either cooperate with LE or surrender their identities to LE.  Another possibility in texting is that a Significant Other could have learned the provider/hobbyist's dirty little secret and may be doing some research.

beyond a rate for a given amount of her time? That's neither unusual nor particularly risky in and of itself. If she's pushing you to discuss amounts of cash in exchange for various services, then I'd be very concerned.

so it's hard to determine exactly what sequence of event you are refering to.

My rule is NEVER talk about money. However once you have a relationship things can be more relaxed to a degree.

"well reviewed and known in the biz and then turncoat to save her own ass for Le."  -- that's just paranoid fear-mongering. Do you listen to Rush Limbaugh alot?


HH

Your advice about never talking about money is right on, but you are off base when you claim that it is paranoid fear-mongering to be suspicious of providers.  Although hobbyists (including myself) often fall in love/like/lust with providers, the reverse is very rare.  To the ladies this is just a business - as one provider on this board crudely, but accurately, said: "f*cks for bucks."  If it is advantageous for lady to betray a hobbyist to LE or the media, she will do so.

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"well reviewed and known in the biz and then turncoat to save her own ass for Le."  -- that's just paranoid fear-mongering. Do you listen to Rush Limbaugh alot?
HH

Eventually you will have to discuss the provider's rate, otherwise, how will you know how much to bring with you for your friendly chat session?

So yes, once they have cleared your background check, I would not be overly surprised if they said something along the following: "Jane would like $$$ consideration for her time, if you prefer more time than that, she would be willing to see you for $$$."  All perfectly innocent, you are, after all, hiring the personal services of a woman who will keep you company.  If anything else happens, well, boys and girls will be boys and girls, eh?

Now, if they start getting explicit, I would say something like "Thank you, I was not looking for those kinds of services, I really only wanted someone to keep my company at dinner.  Good bye." (That way the LE's recorders get you seemingly wanting only a dinner date, not looking for extra-curicular activities.)

My thoughts.