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Re: What does "Very Open Minded" mean?
JustAGal See my TER Reviews 1731 reads
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I would say that very open minded means just what it says.

Provider is open to explore various fantasy scenarios with individual client. Whther or not she will be open mided enough for your particular fetishes depends on you, fetishes and provider.

For example, I am definately open minded enough to cater to Femdom fetish but in no way shape or form am I open minded enough to be dominated.  


Although I would advise not to bring up anything incriminating in initial contact.

Lina

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It is probably the most common term used in advertising provider services after "GFE".  But can anyone tell me what "Very Open Minded" means or is code for?  Or is this just a meaningless common-on used to lure the client?  I welcome replies from both providers and hobbyists.

I would say that very open minded means just what it says.

Provider is open to explore various fantasy scenarios with individual client. Whther or not she will be open mided enough for your particular fetishes depends on you, fetishes and provider.

For example, I am definately open minded enough to cater to Femdom fetish but in no way shape or form am I open minded enough to be dominated.  


Although I would advise not to bring up anything incriminating in initial contact.

Lina

Or at least try to, lol. I've heard about some hilarious requests over the years. They usually come from politicians.

In my opinion it means the lady is willing to try anything within her boundaries.  The key is the last 3 words.  Don't ask a lady to do something she is comfortable with.  It is all about respect.

The term is sufficiently ambiguous that it means nothing in particular as it depends upon the individual advertiser's conception of what she might offer as opposed to women she imagines to be closed-minded.

For the term to mean anything, you have to be right there, in the flesh. And even then, it is very individual and case-by-case. HER idea of open-minded might be the BJ she imagines wives won't deliver; YOUR idea of open-minded might be use of a zero-g sex harness for anal.

(*grin*)

For me, it means that a gentleman doesn't have to be ashamed to ask me about certain acts over confess or ask to partake in his fetishes. Very openmindedness, for me, is the willingness of going beyond the ho-hum acts (if there are such acts). I can see a civvie girl thinking she's openminded by giving a great  BJ, but a provider: I dont't think so.

Funny, I have used that same term in ads before with the good intention of not being very explicit.

I read somewhere else that this term is meaningless to men and it seems self explanatory to use women.  More proof that we are from Venus and you guys are from Mars. LOL.

The way I have it figured, this stuff is very "case by case" anyway. Maybe what I experience during a session has no impact on what others will.

You know us guys -- we use specifically a 9/16 wrench on a particular bolt or it won't work. Just saying "a wrench" is inadequate.

(*chuckle*)

anyways...

I have used that term before and for me personally... it means within my personal boundries.  It does not mean I am ok with everything.  The reasons why I have used that "Open Minded" is because for some reason there are guys out there who think it is ok to talk about what they "get" over the phone etc.  It is my nice way of saying we aren't going to talk about it and don't worry you will be happy... Instead of pointing out how stupid I would even be to speak of what they inquiring about.  I know guys want what they want and not to get ripped off.  I get that but I do not go into details because I have common sense lol and sometimes guys are thinking not with their big head.  

So based on my reasons for saying the same thing, I would be more then likely to believe that it does not mean Everything or Anything.  Just my 2cents.

That is, providers aren't civies. A very important point indeed!

So when a provider says "open minded" it can encompass an awful lot of space.

My general view is that the provider is a sort of health care professional who gets to see me with my clothes off -- so I can feel free to tell her what's on my mind and she'll be relatively non-judgmental about it within very broad limits.

I seem to be fairly vanilla, though -- so I haven't given much thought to the landscape that may be encompassed by "open minded."

I'll have to give it some thought. (*grin*)

I'm not sure what risking disease transmission has to do with open-mindedness.  I think the usual meaning is fetish type play...

"Open minded" could easily mean "I'm open to anything if you offer me enough money". Providers who use that expression in their ads should expect to be asked for BBFS a lot, even if it's not what they had in mind.

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