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or your date will not have anytime to rebook with someone else and would/will be justified in charging you a cancellation fee.

The longer notice you give her the less likely it is that she will suffer any loss of revenue due to "your" problems.

As for whether or not you should go on your "date" tonight, only you can answer that question, none of us have the slightest idea of who you are, what makes you tick, and whether the date would improve your mood, or simply exacerbate it. Sorry, and sorry your last several days have sucked, but don't let the poor young lady that you have booked with suffer because of it.

You're 100% right.  Been a bit selfish and not really considering how it would complicate things for her.  If I canceled at this point it wouldn't be fair to her and I know I would feel terrible about it later.  

when I really didn't feel like going out that nite.  

If your current negative vent is just going to translate into not having a good time and possibly being annoyed with everything she does, do her and yourself a favor and wait. I hope she did not go out and book a hotel suite.  

Posted By: Mr.Tennis

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 Here's the story for the most part.  I have a date tonight with a provider from out of town.  The problem is I'm not excited about it.  I have a lot on my mind and I'm totally stressing out over it all.  My recent projects have not gone very well, and I was also informed today that someone else got the job I applied for.  I thought I was a good fit for the position, but they liked someone else I guess  It also doesn't help that I can just be very negative in general at times.  It's basically culminated and left me here worrying about if I should cancel my date or not.    
   
 I mean, usual train of thought says I'm going to share an evening with a beautiful woman.  If that's not a good way to relieve stress than what is?  I also don't do this very often.  It's not very often that I find someone that intrigues me, and I also don't want to indulge too much.  But still, I really should be looking forward to tonight.  Unfortunately I just can't seem to get excited about it with so much bothering me right now.  I don't know what to do.  

Which may be indeed what you need right now in order to cheer up a bit

what you need for awhile to take your mind off those things.. If it were me I'd go for it but that's me...

... I agree that you need to make up your mind quickly so that the lady does not pay for it.

The date may pick up your mood and snap you out of this self pity, or may just make you feel worse.  Look into yourself and really see how will it affect you, then make YOUR decision.  My recommendation, instead of letting a setback get you down, ask yourself, what did I miss?  How did the other person surpass me? How can I improve my presentation for the next time?

for you or anyone experiencing a similar dilemma in the future, Providers can be incredibly sensitive people. I've spent time with gentlemen who felt comfortable enough to tell me about illness in their family, loss of loved ones, career disappointments and just plain loneliness.  A lot of these dear souls walked in feeling depressed. I can guarantee you, they walked out feeling a great deal better.  

This note made my day. You're awesome Desi!!

Elvis is everywhere!

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It is my pleasure. And don't take offense at my name...I chose this handle because I'm a big fan of the Fat (more to love) Elvis. He was a whole lot more fun than the skinny one

Speaking purely from a feminine perspective, he was just SEX on legs! Can't say I have a favorite "Elvis era"(love 'em all), but EGAD!!! That ELVIS UNPLUGGED jam session in the round, destroys me!  

=)

Hope so!  
               Desi-lu

Maybe