Last week I finally decided to take the plunge and get started in the hobby. Received my P411 verification late in the week, and immediately contacted a gorgeous lady that I'd had my eye on, who advertised as being newbie-friendly. She actually responded! I don't know why that surprised me; maybe because I'm so new, I figured I'd make some kind of mistake to screw it up. Over the past week, I read "the manual" and the last 200 or so posts, but I still have a few questions.

it depends on your age.

Thanks for sharing. Early 50s here. My desire seems to ebb-and-flow nowadays. When it peaks, I can finish 3X a day, but when it wanes, I sometimes can't finish at all. Since this is my first visit (and indeed, my first hobby exp), I think I'll approach it like you and just save it. One other prob I seem to be having is "anticipatory anxiety." This is the same feeling I get about a week out from taking a flight. I have a fear of heights, and that fear starts to build about a week ahead of time. Of course, once I'm on the plane, I realize it's not that bad. I have those same butterflies now thinking about the visit. In this case, it's a fear of not performing to the standards of the guys before me; basically embarrassing myself in front of her. Couple of review examples come to mind: one guy "popped" 4X during his encounter, and another one literally broke the bed going at it with her. I hope she's more forgiving with me. ;+)

Yes, It's true that "some" guys can go four times in an hour, but personally I couldn't do that at 18 much less 58, but what I can do now that I couldn't do at 18 is go the entire hour if I want to, but usually I don't want to. Most women (even hookers) don't really like a solid hour of straight intercourse despite what all those letters to Penthouse claim.

Relax and enjoy yourself. I understand it is very exciting to set up an appointment and finally do the deal.  Anticipation can be a fun part of it.
Here's my 2c.

To BigMac: maybe he broke the bed because he's an Olympic caliber cocksman, and maybe he broke the bed because he has the physique of jabba the hut. Then again, maybe the only thing he broke was his monitor, as the end of his nose shot through it while he wrote that. Besides, with all the sex these women have, you think they want every time to be drive-me-through-the-bed sex? if you want to stand out in her memory, you can in other ways like being genuine and making a connection, and whatever other skills you have. A better tac is to forget standing out and be totally present in the moment. Easier said than done sometimes.

Just tell the ladies what they want to know and follow their instructions.      No more.     They don't know you and want no discussions on text or phone.      Their rates are on their web site.         If they say yes they will tell you the rules of the meeting.      Won't give location until your near the location.     Arrive dressed nice, clean and fresh.     They don't negotiate and like a tip if they give good service.      Just relax they will treat you like a king if they have good reviews and you treat them with respect.       When you go to the site act like you belong.     P411 is a big plus.

I just reread my own post and I used "provider" twice, "hooker" once and "lady" once.  That's pretty much within my "normal" range

The fact that she kept her responses brief and to the point doesn't sound to me as though she was uninterested or impolite.  Sure, she could have been more personable but then some might think she sounds phony.  Everyone has their own style and each reader could interpret it differently.
Also, keep in mind that she's very likely using a smartphone or tablet for correspondence.  
I've noticed that both clients and providers tend to keep it simpler and shorter when using such devices rather than a laptop.  

Thanks Debra. It's nice to get a woman's perspective. I still find it odd that she didn't ask for a physical description. How does she know whether the guy at the door is a client or someone trying to sell her cable service? I know it'd be a big coincidence for them to show up at the same time, but imagine if she invited the wrong guy in! No doubt he'd feel it was his lucky day.

Thanks for this, Fearghas. I really liked your advice: "you can [stand out] in other ways, like being genuine and making a connection." Maybe I'm not giving the ladies enough credit; I never thought they cared about making a connection. I figured their attitude was that I'm just another lame jerk who has to pay for physical intimacy. No real respect or desire for any sort of connection, more of a let's-just-get-this-thing-over-with approach. Sure, they say differently in their profiles/ads, but I didn't think that, for them to enjoy it, they might want a connection as much as I do. Yes, I realize all of this is fantasy, but having that connection would make the experience something memorable.

Are you seeing this provider at her home?  Because that's actually a little unusual lol.  

... I'm female you'd think that in my newbie days most providers would have asked just to confirm that i was who I claimed to be. Most don't ask unless they are adverse to certain clientele and want to vet them out early on.

lopaw always steals the hot Asian women from me

What has lopaw told us? She is busty, blond, strip-clubbin' hottie. Is this her, in flagrante delicto?  
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NOTE: Flagrante Delicto is NOT the name of the strip club.

It is funny how a few thousand miles and cultural differences can make difference.

Please bring another hot Asian.  No photo required.  After this post, I'll trust your judgement.

I keep getting a message this site can't be found when I click the link.

It would be pretty awesome if Alicia turned out to be Lopaw.

You are over thinking this way too kuch. Why would you want to text her again and again? Or to have a big back and forth? If chemistry is important to you then tell the provider. If she makes no effort to connect then skip her. You get what you pay for, but you as a hobbyist have the right to be picky or to wait until a girl wows you. Or start out with a half and half provider to get your sea legs. Like massage then full service. Having her take care of you first may help you feel relaxed, plus who doesnt love a great massage from someone youre gonna fuck? I honestly like to associate the date with regular sexual encounters.. Obviously with money in between to set the buffer before emotions. You wouldnt date a woman IRL who you dont connect with so if youre looking for a connection then make that clear.  

I think you're right, Adcsd, about my overthinking it. Maybe my picture of what GFE really means is skewed. Personally, I don't find myself comfortable walking into the apartment/hotel room of a woman that I don't know and immediately ripping her clothes off; I want to get to know her at least a little bit. ;+) I wouldn't do this to a girlfriend of mine either, unless I've known her for a while and she's comfortable with it. (I'm not saying that you or anyone else approaches a provider in this manner. If you do and the provider is fine with it, that's your business. It's just not something I would do.) I think that's the connection you're talking about that I need.

Then the excitement and rush of the event starts taking over and you enjoy the adrenaline rush of the "will I be seen or busted"? and then you get to actually enjoying the sessions with the girl and stop worrying about the build up or your performance. If you're seeing a provider that doesn't make you feel great whether you cum prematurely or can last the entire session (little hint -- that is NOT what they want and you will generally not actually get them off) it's time to look for a better professional playmate to spend your time with.

They are humans just like you and, face it, they have a hard job. Someone the gets that and give them a bit of credit as a human. Just a simple human connection treating them like a normal person and not some sex toy or some cum sack or dirty whore deserving of no respect or consideration will go a long way.  

Arrive at the call point 10 minutes early, to allow for screwups.  Once you have the location, withdraw to a nearby coffee shop timing your return for the time specified.  Sitting outside reading the paper or playing with your phone for long times is conspicious.  
Ask her the location lay out.  If it a hotel, ask where the elevators are so you can confidently walk by the front desk like you belong.  You must walk by like you belong.  Do NOT walk in on the phone with her!  
Some gals leave the door ajar so you don't have to wait, knock & enter.  Knock once, she'll know you are on the way up &  should be ready to open the door & get you out of the hall.    
Don't say more than "Hello" before the door closes behind you.  Especially, don't make a scene or draw attention in the hall.  
Have the donation ready in an unmarked envolupe or held together with a paper clip.  Place it as instructed... on the dresser or bathroom vanity.   She may pick it up or not but it's hers from the time you place it so don't "watch it".    
follow the rules & you'll be fine.
It's ok to be a little nervious...    

Thanks for the advice, harborview, and for the encouragement. Despite my best efforts, my initial encounter didn't quite go according to the plan you outline.. haha. I was late getting to the location, and I certainly didn't know the layout. Didn't even know that I was on the clock while I was late, trying not to get cold feet. Figured the clock didn't start until the door opened. Well... now I know. I had the donation in the proverbial unmarked envelope but for some reason didn't place it in a conspicuous place. That led to an awkward moment. Overall, though, it was a good experience and I learned a lot. Hopefully the next encounter runs a little more smoothly, and I won't feel like a teenager getting his first kiss.

Not always, but usually. Now if a provider is stacking her appointments without a lot of room in between to "freshen up" yes, the clock will begin at whatever time your appointment is scheduled whether you are there or not, but "most" lower volume providers won't start the clock until you get there, as long as you don't abuse their good nature of course.

Just like anyone else on here meeting someone the first time. There is a whole lot going on the inside of anyone I would believe in my opinion. You think of all the unknown factors, anticipation, what you might say first, and etc.