I didn't think it would give me an account if I put a female name so I put a male one.  But I am a female.  I am not a provider (or hobbyist) but I read about this site from a snippet of a book about the #1 escort of New York and just couldn't resist taking a step into the inner sanctum.  

I think what I was hoping to learn is what makes men call you back and makes them seek you out.  I would like to hear from both men and women (if anyone wants to respond).  I am hoping to learn this to just to be a more fun date I guess.  I am fun but I guess more like what makes men come back for more (but not just sex).  What are their *hearts* (not penises) seeking?

I kinda don't have a clue.  And don't seem to keep em coming back more than for a few months.  I can tell I am missing something.

Heather

Gentlemen can be themselves with us would be my answer. They come to us because they don't get what they desire at home, They come to us sometimes just to talk or be held in silence, they come to us with a No Strings state of mind and the envelope. There are a million reasons why a Hobbyist comes to us, but the answers you seek are not going to be gotten by a Provider darlin, This is a fantasy world, and you live in reality don't you? I don't think the answers you seek are here, i wish you luck in your search though.
Jay

It's about NSA sex.  One of the things that keeps men coming back to a good escort is the fact that he can enjoy himself with a beautiful lady for an hour or two and then leave with no questions asked.

You want guys to keep coming back, in other words, make a commitment to you.  Escorts want regular customers who pay, enjoy the time and leave.

Relationships are difficult, you know that already.  Imagine how much harder it will be if you try to do and act any way other than what comes naturally.

Eventually someone will get you just as you are and you will get them.  That is the key.  If you are here looking for relationship advice you are in the wrong place.  We are here for exactly the opposite reason...NOT to have relationships.

We treat one another with warmth and kindness and mostly respect.  We enjoy each other and what we have to offer (and it is more than sex).  But that is it.  Yes sometimes we have friendships and very very rarely, real romance happens.  But that is not why we are here.

See the Erotic Hiighway at the left of the screen?  Click it and ask the Love Goddess she is wise and powerful and not behind any curtain, so pay attention to what she says.

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Women are nuturers by definition, so here's what you have to feed:

First, our egos.  Gals do that all the time on here by fliriting with us on these boards.  I just love it.

Second, our sex needs.  No need for further comment there.

Third, our stomachs.  I personally cook for myself, but I'd love to have someone cook for me once in a while.

Lastly, there is the intellect, the final frontier.  If you get the first three and this one settled you're in baby!  This is not just academic knowledge by the way; an ability to perform arts, social graces, fashion, human concerns and similar attributes all weave a strong bond to the right man.

This is truly not the best place to pick up dating tips, but if something we do or say here helps, then all the better.

By the way, women can become TER members whether providers, clients or just curious bystanders like yourself.  Every so often we see a woman join up just to say hi.

a review.  Granted, it will only be one guy's opinion, but it's a start.

Really, it's the only way to truly research your concerns.  I won't even charge you.

Something is NOT kosher about this poster, and my antennae went up when I read it last night. I said nothing then, because I didn't want to be nasty to a newbie. Since then, I've had a few PMs asking my thoughts about this thread, and everyone I've discussed it with thinks "something is rotten in Denmark"!  I agree.

Don't stop being a lady. Quit worryin! You'll be back on your knees in no time!

Men seek out women here on TER because they will get exactly what they want with no BS from them.   There will be no complaints about the mortgage, the car not working properly, etc. etc.

OTOH men come here and seek out women from the Escort world for quickie short term "encounters", not long term relationships.

But as has been suggested, perhaps meeting a few of the men here on TER might actually help you.  

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i don't buy this post either something about it just does not ring true, some major deception going on , on some level

the work done by Alison Armstrong. A google search will bring up her site. I've heard her many times and she seems to have a gift for imparting to ladies what makes many of us males the way we are. You can't go wrong reading what she writes.

this is a great deal different from dating. In the real world, most of what we call a usual date here, would not move so fast. It has a great deal to do with getting what you want and not having to do so much to get there.
Why they seek us out? Many reasons...They may not be looking for a commitment, they quite often are already commited or too busy in their lives for the complications that come with a deeper relationship.
We are all adults here and theres no need for guilt, or over extended expectations on either side, it is what it is and til next time, our paths are seperate.
We are non judgemental, or overbearing, and mostly we are fun. It's a way to some degree to step out of your life, take a breather and just enjoy yourself.
So I have to agree, what you are asking, is not really something that can be answered here.
A bit of advice that I can give you though, that works here or anywhere really, is to just be yourself. I am the same fun chick here that I am in my little world.

Nicole

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I think it is a misconception that sex workers have a magical power, where they can attract men in supernatural ways.  We are normal women, when it comes down to it.

People say that stuff to me about how I must have extraordinary skills to have men persuing me so often.  It's not a magic skill.  IT'S CALLED "BEING FEMALE."  If you have pussy and tits, men will want you.  Or, if you have lipstick and a wig, men will want you.  I know the "super sexual skills" stuff is intended to be a compliment, but it's still hooey.  In reality, sex workers are selling the psychological/interpersonal/sexual/physical/emotional faculties that ALMOST ALL WOMEN HAVE, including you, Heather.

I have ever read on these boards.  So succinct, and so, so true. Captures the very essence of us guys in very few words (shows how truly simple we are).  Thank you, sweetheart - I loved it.

What is the old saying "I have the pussy, I make the rules"