Just the way it is. Doesn't matter what you think. . As to the statement " I never try to pound"   the ladies have heard it all and seen it all. If a lady says you're dick is to big, nothing much you can do about it. Why not try and see a  real "pse" Check the porn star board, you might have better luck.

Running into this kind of thing often means she's had problems with someone else before.

One large sized guy promises "I'll be gentle" and then isn't.  Next time she decides it isn't worth the chance.  Even if he was gentle, if it was painful I can easily understand the turn down.

Well a lot of the providers I've seen have all said they don't do anal because it hurts too much. What we as hobbists have to understand is that providers see other hobbists through out the day. If a provider lets you "pound" her and she's left in pain, but has 4 other guys to see that same day, her quality of service will go down for the next guys.

A provider has to pace herself through out the day. The stuff you wanna do to a female, sounds like you need to PSE, and kick out some extra cash.

I agree. The ladies make the rules. If they say no, then no means no. As previously mentioned by hiddenhills try pse you might find what you're looking for there.

Seriously though it may be a good idea to elude to your potential date that you run  little big.

But like everyone else has said the lady controls the sessions whether we like to believe it or not and no matter how much $ you spend probably it won't make her do something she is uncomfortable with.  Unlike you I knew I was larger before I started p4p and thought it would be welcomed in this business however like you I have been met with disappoinment in the sense that the ladies that provide are not anymore well equipped to handle a big D or prefer it anymore than the lady you would pick up in a bar.  Personally, I think the ladies get offended sometimes if you have an extremely large tool, because as someone posted earlier it makes their workday more difficult and could affect the number of clients they see the rest of the day or the quality of service. The thing that is even worse is that it is EXTREMELY difficult to discuss this before meeting the lady in person.  My advice would be to mention it when you first show up for an appointment or even show them your package before handing them the donation.

it's strange how modern media makes it look like most women want the big one when dating (just look at most movies or tv shows) yet when faced with a big one they shy away.  having been overly blessed in this area i  too have met providers & civvies that say no to just about anything other than a HJ.  few women want to deal wit a pecker over 9" long.