I'm new to this space, but I'm curious about our ladies. In fact, I'd like to know what being a "lady" entails. Does it involve your being nice, i.e., "ladylike" even when your skin is crawling with revulsion at coming in physical contact with a lesser human being who might be differently pigmented? Or do you draw a line in advance which protects you from that awful fate?

I ask because I got turned down by one of our ladies, and she was quite explicit about her reasons for doing so. It had to with "race," as she saw it, but she was right up a tree on some details. Her pictures are attractive, but... this ugly issue had to raise its head (no pun intended).

Maybe the profiles should be more specific as to these personal preferences. Save us all some time and heartache.

That's terrible!  I have seen some ads from other providers on other sites that mention limitations to race, age, and even profession.  Personally, I felt that those ads gave you a glimpse of the type of negative and nit-picky attitude you will encounter in person.  I understand that providers and hobbyist come in all shapes and sizes, and sometimes it may not work out, for whatever reason... but at least give it a chance!  And if things don't work out, please give the other person the respect they deserve.  Plus, setting such huge limits will only limit yourself some meeting some really wonderful people!

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The thing is, everybody is entitled to their own preference, and they are not always going to come with a neon sign about it.  If you are concerned your race may be an issue, when you contact a lady, you can say briefly describe yourself like for example, "I'm 45, ____ (insert your race), 6', medium built, etc." and she can make her own decision.

Judging by someones skin tone is ignorant, but unfortunately there are some very racist people out there. But the ones who don't see men of different races can say it in a nice way.

We use to have an older woman who simple said she was seeking professional white men. It always bothered me, but now that I think about it, she could have been a lot more rude. Which I have seen as well.

As far as the word "ladies" it should only be used when it applies. Much like the word woman. In a lot of my posts, I use the word female when the other terms do not apply.

Sorry that you had to go through that, just move on and forget about her. I'm sure that there are plenty of women who would love to see you

Women will see only who they want to see. It's a drag to be turned down for an appointment but it is also simple reality. It has nothing to do with being a "lady" or "ladylike"....

people are going to see who they want, but there are certain guidelines for being a "lady". The OP made it sound like this female was rude to him. Sorry but I was raised not to be rude to people who are not deserving of it.
I personally went through a time that I did not see East Indian men, for the simple fact that I was getting a lot of them in a short period of time who would try bartering and who were quite rude. But I wasn't rude to them, I simple said that I was unavailable. I didn't see the point to being nasty to someone that I didn't know.

business woman have a right to be selective with your clients.  By "being busy" politely, you should not offend anyone.