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Re: Time spent with provider
chessman72 2016 reads
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Newbie here,

Planning on my first independent provider outcall appointment and doing my research and homework. 2 questions: Since this will be my first time using independent provider services what type of personal info will she request from me? My next question is i'd like an appointment with the provider for 3 hours.What's the proper ettiquette if i'm going to spend 3 hours with her at my place?

Thanks!

Crazy Diamond 12 Reviews 1537 reads
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I would not recommend a three hour appointment as a newbie with someone you are meeting for the first time.  Chemistry between you is key, and as a newbie, the first few minutes are likely to be awkward.  I would also keep things to a 90 minute max until you both have established a comfort level.  I also would recommend that you visit her the first time, or at least on neutral ground.

hound_dog69 41 Reviews 1098 reads
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shudaknownbetter 1051 reads
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As a Newbie, I found I wanted 1.5 hours though it gradually shortened to just a single hour for the first meeting.  I would definately suggest seeing a lady that offers incall.  I'd not suggest inviting a stranger into your home for a first meeting.  

3 hours is a long visit...  too long for continuous action.  You'd need food & refreshments for sure.  Keep all beverages sealed until needed (everyone is cautionus about tampering these days).  
You'll need fresh sheets on the bed, clean towels since surely a shower will be on the menu.  I'm presuming that you have no female room-mates...  that's really un-cool.  
skb

curt23 13 Reviews 699 reads
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I also agree 3 hours is too long for a first meeting. 90 minutes should be reasonable even if your nervous and a slow starter. Also many ladies will allow you to extend, so rather then setting up a long time to start see how it goes and extend if needed. In the worst case when extending was not immediately available I arranged to come back later in the day which allowed me recovery time. I absolutely love long dates after I have been with the lady at least once to see how we get on together.

Sinful1 See my TER Reviews 1028 reads
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I often have first timers schedule longer appointments.  Often they are apprehensive and need time to talk and feel comfortable.  I understand the cautions posted by the hobbyists, but everyone is different and some guys need this time.

Do tell the lady its your first time and you want to take it slow. Spend some time talking in the living room until you feel comfortable.  Having wine available to share will relax you both.  Remember the largest sexual organ is the human brain so take as much time as you need to unwind.  Then some kissing would be in order.  Remember how much fun kissing was in highschool and college, it can be just as much fun now.
 
Once you are aroused and ready to move forward invite her to your bedroom.

Depending on how quickly you reach that comfort level you may, or may not, have the opportunity for more than one round.  It helps to remember that its about the journey and not just the destination.

chessman72 533 reads
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Great advice from everyone and all this info is much appreciated.

Actually,i am not the shy type,love to create rapport with anyone and have lot's of experience with women. I have no problems meeting women.

I'm just intensly curious about the provider experience,so i'm doing some studying because it's just good common sense to do one's homework and be socially prepared when entering new experiences.

Regardless of my past experiences i will remember to mention that this is my "first time" to my chosen provider and let things progress naturally as advised.

Thanks all!

TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 522 reads
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For me most newbies to hobbying period and/or hobbying first time with me like around an hr...max 2hrs. You guys with both be trying to feel each other out at the same time so be yourself while following her body language. Money wise on the provider side longer appts more money lol but I recommend an hr to start which gives time for a little more than just small talk, take care of financials and have a little fun. I've had a guy book a 2hr session.... talk for the first hour and we had fun the whole second hr and after that he felt embarrassed for himself he was so nervous but I just said hey this is like almost anything else as far as the more you do it the more you get used to it. I see him pretty regularly, sometimes once a week sometimes once every 2wks. 3hrs makes sense if it's like your 3rd visit or better or something.

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