One lovely provider I want to visit requires two references. Can anyone give me an idea what kind of reference this means? Will the one referring me be called by a woman?  What will my referrer know about what I am up to after the call?  Any clarification would be appreciated. Thanks

This is the safest way of a provider making sure she is safe.

If you have seen other providers, call or write to them and ask them if they would mind giving a reference to another provider.  If they are OK with that, then send her their emails, etc. so she can call them and check you out.

If you have no references yet, then give lots of personal information to the provider or consider joining a screening site such as Room Service or similar organization.

The way i do things is if your a TER member and have seen a provider thats on TER, all i have to do is check with her to see if your legit..if you've seen other girls from other sites, i require at least 2 references AND their websites, to check with them about your meeting..
If you truly want to see a provider the more references you give the faster your checked out!
Jay

as a reference and find out how she wants it done. Each lady has a different way of doing it. We too are busy doing lifes many chores so it has to fit into our schedule. Some use e-mail others will call the other provider.

Kisses Haley

This is kind of tricky.  I need references to get a provider.  I need providers to get references.  

I actually do have references, but they're all from Mexico.  So far two ladies I've contacted spoke briefly to me, took my references, then never got back in touch.  Does it seem less legit for some reason to have Mexican references?  The providers themselves don't have a direct means of contact, however, I do provide numbers to their agencies and I contact the agencies beforehand to get permission and refresh their memories of my prior patronage.

Alas, I'm becoming disheartened.

If your already using an agency to begin with that shouldn't be a problem. There are some recognizable agencies listed on TER that do whitelist their clients and give references. Do some research in your area on this subject. Just search the TER data base for reviews.

Kisses Haley