The other day I attempted to contact a few providers via phone #. They were all pretty well reviewed and I was interested in getting in touch with them. Out of the seven I called only one answered her phone. I'm pretty new at this whole thing and I'd love to get some help.

Is there some sort of calling system that I need to be aware of? Should I be calling these ladies twice in a row? Should I be leaving a message? Is there a good time of day in which I should be calling? What am I doing wrong?

want to meet, a line about me (age, job), and my references.

If I don't hear back I move on.

tc

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The ladies are not sitting by the phone waiting for our calls.  They have lives of their own which they schedule around their profession.  If they are in a session I hope they would have their phone set to silent & not pick up. (You'd expect the same.)  So they most likely will not be available to immediately take your call.

Plan on leaving a message but be prepared with this same info if she picks up.  Use their stage name.  State you want an appointment & suggest a date / time frame.  Give enough of your information.  Give your phone number & tell her it's ok to return your call (and when  ie before 5 or ??)  Many will not return a call without an ok.
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If you can plan enough in advance it is always best to send an email first.  Your email should include all information requested by the providers contact section of her website.

When you call introduce yourself as someone who has sent the required information by email and say something nice about why you want to see her.  If it is a message leave the time and date you want to see her and when it is OK to call.

Combining email with phone really provides a higher level of comfort to the lady that you are not a freak.  

If she does not answer do not keep calling back or you will quickly be put on the do not see list.  Be patient.

Most of the providers that I'm looking forward to seeing don't have websites but they do have ads on Backpage. Should I send an e-mail through that site?

I know a lot of ladies (myself included) who will never answer their phone unless they expect your call.

It explicitly stated on my site that I prefer to be contacted via e mail.

Some even won't publish their number anywhere.

Lina

Personally, if a girl doesn't have a website..sorry I would move on..shows she is not very serious about what she offers.

#2...do some searching on ter to see if she has reviews...less than 5...move on unless you want to take the chance..

#3..if you really want to take the chance, reply to her ad.. MAKE sure you say at least your first name.  I can't stand responding to an email when I don't even know the person's first name... Be very polite in your email.  NEVER discuss rates/donations or anything of a sexual nature...give her a compliment on her photos...tell her what drew you to her (again nothing sexual)...tell her you would like her to contact you and tell you how to get screened..

If she doesn't screen...run the other way...

Hope this helps...

I answer the phone as often as I can but do have a regular job and school. When I can't answer the phone, I prefer that you leave a message, your name, where you saw my ad and a general idea of a day and time you would like an appointment. It is also necessary for you to let me know if it is okay to call back and what time frame you will be able to answer the phone. I do not call back unless you leave an okay.

I have had the same prolems with providers returning calls or e-mails. I contacted two providers that never alled me back. I agree with other posts on the board that you should move on if you don't get a response in a day or two.

Don't take it too personally that they didn't call you back. Some girls simply don't deal with newbies and others can be a bit paranoid about you if you didn't give some information on your message. The providers have every right to be picky and as cautious as they want. Just think about all the risks they take being providers.
You could be LE or even just a really bad guy who will treat them like crap. They take a big chance anytime they see someone new.

You'll find someone who is willing to take a chance on you sooner or later (like I finally did). Just remember to treat her with the respect she deserves. Maybe you will end up getting "White Listed" on this board and that will go a long way when you want to try a different provider.


In hindsight, I'm glad those two providers didn't call me back because I don't do this often and would have missed out meeting the gorgeous girl I saw this morning.

finding multiple reviews from established reviewers is a big red flag.  New guys should only see well-reviewed providers, PERIOD.

MakenzieRae hit this one right on the dot!

Remember... every provider starts off with NO reviews. But until your well informed I'd stick with the well reviewed providers.

Good Luck