Hi Goody,
You have just learned why TER exists. Very many of us arrived at TER after similar experiences.

Unfortunately you will need to do some homework.  First, I suggest you read the newbie manual (link at the top of this board).  Then read back several pages on this board until there are no topics you've not read.  Then read a bit on the other boards just to get orientated. Also notice the drop down menue to the left for your local "regional" board.  All of this is FREE.

Then you will need to read some reviews.  For this you will need VIP.  Just because there is a review does not mean it is good or bad and anyway, others opinions may have differant values than your own.  I've seen ads on other venues that say "TER reviewed" and they are bt they must not figure on anyone reading them because I'd never call after seeing how the experience was described.
It is suggested that newbies see well reviewed providers...  that is ladies with several good reviews by hobbiests who themselves have several reviews to their credit.  
These experiences are highly personal and one might find instances where a pairing does not click...  a less than normal review results...  but say one per page of reviews is no reason to avoid the lady, especially if the review shows an honest effort.  
Personally, I look for consistancy of reviews, not necessarily the highest abstract number.  I feel that wide swings may mean the lady may not connect easily... or it may depend on her mood... face it, I'm no young stud anymore!

Unfortunately GFE is only a vague description...  that you will feel like you've been with a GF.  Unfortunately, there is too much variation for this to be consideredd more than an ad term.  

A good provider does not B&S, upsell, or other scams & you get the full hour of companionship regardless of the number of pops.  

So this should start you off.
Happy Hobbying,
skb

First, congrats on recognizing your shortcomings. Yes, TER reviews, from WELL ESTABLISHED, hobbyists are an integral part of selecting the right lady.

Now with respect to your query on GFE, no one can really define what it is, what it entails. If you ask 10 hobbyists, you will get 10 different answers. Some guys consider a GFE to be a lady who likes to kiss. Others consider a lady to be a GFE if she provides a bareback blow jobs. Others will look at the ladies persona, attitude and approach; does she make the hobbyist feel really good about himself. Still others will consider a lady to be a GFE if she allows you to stay well past your appointment time w/ no indication that she wants you to leave. No rules. We all have an image in mind of what we would consider a GFE provider to be. My GFE may not be yours. The best thing to do is read the reviews carefully. If you are happy with the services the ladies provide and you get good an understanding about her attitude and how she handles and respects her clients, then she prob. will be a great choice for you. Do not worry about trying to define whether she is or is not a GFE. Instead, look at the totality of what she offers and make your decision accordingly.

Again, the reviews will help you with your second query. Technically, you are paying the ladies for their time. As such, most ladies will allow you to stay the full hour. If you are able to pop more than once in the hour, generally the ladies are happy for you and will oblige. However, there are some ladies who have a "one pop" rule. Their business, their choice. You will learn this by reading the reviews. There is no substitute for doing your homework.

what does her reviews say. If you are a newbie, you should absolutely stay away from any unreviewed provider. The guys who have been around for a while may ocassionally TOFT, but they usually know how to sniff out a fake.
GFE means different things to different folks. The only way to know what you are getting is to do your homework and read reviews.

I just reviewed a provider that had a 1x limit. But she stayed for the hour and was a good date. Read a providers reviews her profile when deciding whether she is right for you. The term GFE means different things to different hobbyists.