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Re: she isnt a good guide
jessicatwl 1387 reads
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Yeah totally she wasn't very friendly but whatever she's got to be careful so I guess I don't blame her. I checked out all the sites and only this one checked out..

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I was wondering if anyone could help me find out more information on becoming a Courtesan-  directories or people that you know of who could help? People I could talk to about it.

WHere ya from ?
Get a site
photos
google " escorts in ( your city state )
Thats where you advertise
have sex-
wa la -
you're an escort -

do lots of research on ter
learn how to screen
contact a reputable escort in you area to possibly mentor you

jessicatwl1943 reads

What is ter? I thought this was it...( total blond moment I know) seriously I don't know.

I took mrfisher's "Hobbying for Dummies" through the mail and it really helped me.  Just don't forget that mrfisher still isn't an attorney, lol.  I love that line mrfisher.

jessicatwl1910 reads

You don't have to be a jerk...no reply would have been better.

Ciara really does have such a document, and if you can get a hold of it, it will really teach you a lot in a short time.

jessicatwl1447 reads

oh, well in that case your forgiven...I'll check it out

You arent doing well already..

What mr fisher meant is ..
MyPHDS in hooking 101

Its on my site -
http://www.buffalocharm.com

jessicatwl1914 reads

Thanks...thats interesting...hooking? Whats that? And you have a PHD in it, I didn't even know you could do that? Thats so cool!

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By the way, biggest ter hobbyist or not if I'm insulted I'm insulted. But in his defense he didn't mean it that way so we're good.

Then you'll be a big world famous author!

Again Jessica, I harbor no hard feelings.  Sometimes my humor is a bit weird.

I think there are some different expectations for those who bill themselves as "courtesons" versus those who bill themselves as escorts.

I'm sure you know the difference, but I will specify it anyway (as I understand the difference someone else can feel free to correct any mistatement I make here).  An escort trades a singular block of time for a set amount, and thus enduth the relationship obligations.  A courteson however, is expected to maintain cordial relations between dates, perhaps act as an email sounding board, maybe take a few phone calls, but largely be more than a hourly diversion for someone.

So, If i were looking at doing this, what I'd do is find myself a good mentor in the businesses - someone who explicity bills herself as a courtesan AND delivers the level of servie you'd like to deliver.

The main question I would ask, specific to the courtesan role and stipulating you are doing all the advertising, screening smart stuff, is "what is my service level obligation and at what point should I pull out of the additional level of service?"  Clearly, if someone hasn't seen you in two years, there wouldn't be any reasonable expectation of you trading lengthy emails.  However, an expectatonn that he show up at your apartment every week is probably excesive as well.  You'll need to find that balance,and a mentor will help you.

I would probably suggest you email a couple of girls who live in different cities and ask if you can ask a few questions.  One of them will probably respond.  You can also probably learn a lot by poking around on their websites.

Hope this was helpful (and it turns out to be accurate)

jessicatwl1372 reads

Thank you sex pirate that helps...I've been looking at a couple of websites and I even contacted one of the girls she gave me some links to check out I was told TER, TBD and ASPD. I thought she would be a good guide considering but she's hesitant to answer e-mails from unknown recipients even though I introduced myself. Anyways thank you!

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Sex Pirate you seem like a smart sweet cookie;)  That was very accurate and kind response.  Do you want to be a courtesan or an escort now that you know the difference Jessica?

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I still like the idea of being a Courtesan. From what I understand you also have to be somewhat educated and refined in conversation and etiquete. I like that. Do you now know of any Courtesans? During my research I found myself somewhat  dissapointed...there were maybe two that I found and even then they didn't seem ligit or quite up to par. I asked them questions and they just brushed me off.

chica3d1542 reads

get "the business side of escorting II" The author gives you a clear explanation and tips on how to become a HDP

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Yes he was kind wasn't he? Thanks again Sexpirate!

I am assuming you are otherwise a provider now and you want to move up to courtesan status. The loosely defined defintion is a VIP escort, who can also a part of the "high class lifestyle" l  You may meet a courtesan, for an example, at a political dinner, not just to meet "wealthy men" for business but actually participate.  Art Show, the Symphony, you get the point?

I know that did not answer your question but I think you got the correct answer om becoming a provider - not a coutesan, I just wanted to clear semantics.  To me your question was like asking becoming a GFE - in which the answer how one feel about her own sexuality rather than advertising as a GFE, like so many do

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Well I initially wanted to get into Courtesaning because I wanted to explore and fulfill some of my sexual fantasies. I like the idea of being a Courtesan because there are so many elements to what it entails. So I'd like to learn more...what to do/ what are the formalities? what do I have to learn? Not to mention that the whole idea of a courtesan just seems naughty and thats a complete turn on.

Aspd has bee crashed for over two months -
Its isnt even there anymore -

Often undergoes years of formal training in the arts, politics, languages,etc.  You'll often find them to be versed in etiquette, manners, and other social niceties.  They are able to circulate in social circles that are often closed to the average person.

Modern day courtesans often hold at least a Bachelor's if not a Graduate degree.  They are well-schooled and well-heeled.  Their relationships with their clients often entail all that sexpirate outlined.

Now, were you looking to be a courtesan, provider/escort or something in between?



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Perfect thats exactly what I'm looking for...I really like the idea of a Courtesan but right now I'm taking the role of a student so I need guidance...I wasn't even sure they still exsisted since there were only a few select websites...well more like two...

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Yeah totally she wasn't very friendly but whatever she's got to be careful so I guess I don't blame her. I checked out all the sites and only this one checked out..

There are still some modern day courtesans, but the ones I have encountered do very little advertising and are pretty much under the radar.

Don't be surprised if you begin doing your thing, an they end up contacting you. In the meantime, there is alot of great people and information to be found here.

However, to maintain a courtesan lifestyle through dating as an escort, you might want to censor men who are merely looking to just get laid, and those types are not always easy to weed out. If you are absolutely stunning, well educated (which many escorts are these days), speak at least two to three languages, have an advanced degree, have artistic knowledge and talent, etc., then you could call yourself a true courtesan. That is, if you are taking on the name "courtesan" by its literal translation and heritage.

I like to think I am a courtesan, because I truly enjoy pampering my guests. However, most of my male friends do not want to go to dinner, to the opera, to the theatre, fly me on a jet or invite me to tea (all things I enjoy and are certainly acceptable to most women). I am courteous, but I cannot see myself pouring tea for 12 other men in a Geisha outfit in those painful shoes. Just kidding! So, I eventually came to the conclusion that because I do not live in New York, Paris or Hollywood, most of my clients/friends will be Incall gentleman looking for a nice massage, intelligent conversation, and sensuality mixed with romance and intrigue.

Yes! I can speak a few languages but not very well these days. However, I have studied martial arts, other artistic venues, have two college degrees and am a well-traveled lady. I certainly would not consider myself to be a socialite. My personality leans toward humor and speaking my peace, although I can be quite classy and know which fork to use in the upper-eschelon parties. Plus, I have also lived overseas. I guess you could say I am an American version of a GFE with a MCF (modern courtesan friend) twist.  

Hugs,
Ciara
Your burger-flippin' classy babe! Just kidding!

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I guess it does depend on where you live huh...I lived overseas too and know some languages but like you it's been a while since I've used any of them...there's alot to learn and I'm not quite sure where to start I  have alot of reserch to do...anyways great to hear from you..nice to meet you!!! Where did you live overseas?

You're welcome, hon!

I lived all over the planet. :)  Okay, well, maybe not Asia, Australia, India or Africa. :)

However, I'm hoping to visit those places. My Spanish and French are pretty bad, but I can still read it and pronounce things properly. However, when they talk too fast, I'm completely lost. My Greek is probably better than the other two languages, but that is rusty too.

Hugs,
Ciara

thats kinda like saying "I wanna be a Dr where do I start"
At the begining of course, it takes training and so on.
For what you are asking, you need to speak several languages, educated, poised, its not a possition you just walk right into.

Learn a bit about the business from the "escort" level. If you have what it takes to be the level of companion you seek, it will develop and naturally lead into such.

These Ladies are few and far between.It doesn't happen over night and it doesn't happen for every gal who heads in that direction.

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