Hello all,

If you're read what the requirements are for reviews, they state that the content is more than what you are comfortable with.  There is no getting around that fact.  

... asking new clients if they intend to write a review.  And if so, you'll explain your position and ask them to adhere to it.  Some may not respect your wishes and some may choose to not write a review under those conditions.  

From your website, I can't even tell what city you in.

...a detailed and vey adult type of review is not only expected but required here on TER. There are other review sites out there that may not require such strident requirements, but alas they are not TER.  

My first reviews were rejected for not including enough "dirty details."      If a review is accepted for publication on TER it will have all the stuff you don't want it to have.

The problem is that the last time I ate the cake, it was gone. YMMV though!  

Luckily the people I've seen have been perfect gentlemen, so I'm not concerned with them being discreet; I'm more concerned with if it would hit new potentials the wrong way, or if it was in line with TER's policies.

Haha - yes, you've rightly noticed my attention to detail (or purposeful lack thereof)! I am located in the NJ/NY area.

I'm so sad to hear that - TER seems like a fantastic website, but I would have hoped the emphasis would have been placed on safety rather than lurid details.

Hmm. I wonder if that's because of the rating you gave - if for example you have a 10 star but the required services weren't mentioned. Anyone have experience with this?

Oh Julian - you are hilarious!  

Thankfully I've built up quite a customer base already without reviews, but I know personally that I instantly feel more comfortable when someone who inquires has reviewed numerous people on TER, and I'd like to be able to give people booking me the same comfort.

Please read up on TER guidelines for posting, reviewing , etc. before giving advice on the Newbie Board.  

Here is the pertinent part I think is of concern based on what I'm trying to achieve:

Hey there, do you work for TER? If so perhaps you could shed some light on the situation?

You would not be able to login anymore and use the boards. You could still read the threads, but not be able to post on them.
If you are already talking about being delisted, I would suggest this is not the appropriate forum for you.  
On a side note, I couldn't find your rate. Is your website complete Lynnnore? You are very pretty!

Thank you! 😊 Yes, my site is complete - I save discussing rates for email due to the need for discretion. I typically post my rates/location and other pertinent information directly in ads. Hopefully it isn't against rules to post this here, as I'm still learning my way around, but to answer your question - I charge $300 an hour.

Hey there,

The problem is, as I see it, you are making it much more difficult for that to ever occur. Not listing your rate, making me email you for it, not allowing reviews or having reviews without much detail would be disqualifying for me.  
You are also placing yourself at a major disadvantage with other ladies, who make the selection process go much smoother and quicker.  
Of course you have to conduct your business in a way that makes you feel comfortable, but it does not sound like a recipe for success from a financial perspective for you, but that is none of my business how you handle your affairs. Just thought all opinions should be factored in to your decision making process. Best of luck to you Lynnore!

I appreciate your thoughts, thank you! All feedback is welcome. You're right that I'm not making it easy - my hope is that only those who are seriously interested will inquire. I will however probably make it a tad easier by trying out allowing reviews and placing contact info (email/phone) on my page.  

request that another review not be written at the present time. Some providers only want 1 review per month.

...I've just been around a while and know what their guidelines are. I can tell you a few things and you'll have to decide how to proceed. If you choose to have a no review policy and TER is aware of it they will delist you from the site. They don't want you getting the free advertising and exposure TER gives when you won't participate in their purpose for existing.

Added my phone number and email to the header, and put my location and beginning rates in the footer. Hopefully the rates aren't too discreet.

Yes, I have heard of this as well. The review culture is difficult to navigate - you can never know if potential clients will love or dislike the amount of reviews a provider has. I suppose, as with everything, all you can do is be yourself and hope for the best!

With the way my site is set up, I can't currently add rates to the header. I'm debating giving them their own section, perhaps in a few days when I can make sure my twitter won't accidentally give my site away to my contacts as it decided to do today! That made for some lovely conversations and unexpected love letters 😂

I think it is possible to achieve what you are looking for in a review. On the other hand you state you have built a great client base without reviews and this should not be concerning then.  

I've done very well so far - using BP. For reasons I'm sure many of us can attest to, not the least of which is having my photos and ad copy scraped to a billion escort malls, I'd like to focus less on BP and more on other avenues - hence my desire to start using TER.

Reality check:

If that happens the post will not go up or if it does someone can submit a problem report and it will be removed to be edited
TER is good about allowing editingfor things like someone being too descriptive of a location but not very accommodating to someone that asked to say change the nitty gritty details

Thanks for your thoughts. In return, let me provide some of my own.
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One would think that a very important element of keeping both parties safe and happy is addressing whether the person you are seeing is real, safe, sane, and not LE. That is the element of a tryst that I hope to allay concerns over, and that alone is certainly worth paying for.
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As a side note: In a profession where sexual acts are illegal, why anyone - clients included - would want to paint a sordid picture of their crimes or the crimes of others is beyond me. We are all here because we are risk takers to some degree, but prudent risk takers don't paint the odds against them.
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That said, I do appreciate the reality check which is why I posted. It is impossible to fully control other's perceptions of you or what they will write - this is true of all social media and a wise perspective - but we can help guide it. I think I'm going to take my chances.  My marketing targets gentlemen who specifically enjoy the thrill of the unknown as well as discretion, so I'm not concerned about the gentlemen I see - I was more curious to know how it would be perceived by the community at large as well as by TER itself. I think reviews that leave a bit of mystery will attract those who wish to pursue mystery. Whether or not reviews will make it through the approval process is certainly a concern; I suppose I'll have to hope that the first reviewing gentlemen I see are patient and will work with me. I hope to leave them so sated by our time together that this token of their appreciation will be worth their while

As you can plainly see, I have zero reviews to my credit and I don't write reviews for many of the reasons you suggest. That said, the rules are the rules and where TER is concerned there is no middle ground. The ladies don't get to approve what kind of reviews are written about them here, and neither do the guys. TER is the ultimate arbiter where it comes to which reviews will be published and which ones will be rejected.

My first experiences in the hobby were 20 years ago, before online review boards existed. Back then, the quality providers tended to work for agencies, while others worked in brothels, massage parlors, or on the street. Booking a provider was always a crapshoot. Maybe she would be pretty, or physically fit, or nice, or at least skilled, but there was no way to know in advance. Everything was an upsell, and nobody kissed. Regardless of how long I booked, the appointment ended as soon as I popped, and seconds were never offered without another upsell.

There are also customers who have a variety of concerns that tend to be addressed in reviews that don't necessarily involve explicit details. Some guys really dislike seeing providers with tattoos or piercings. Some can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke. I personally take issue with unreliable providers. That was a big problem before reviews... providers were always running late, and sometimes hours late because they would postpone confirmed appointments in order to squeeze in some last-minute callers. The better providers would at least call to say that they were running late. Thanks to reviews, it's easier to avoid these problems.

Reviews will never be admissible as evidence in a criminal case.  First they are classic "hearsay." And many reviews are fake, so unless the author testifies in person there is no way to verify the validity -- and since any such person is testifying in court, there is no need to bring in the review itself -- which is still excluded for being hearsay.  

I 100% agree with you on all of these points - accountability is important!

Given your significant experience on TER, I appreciate your insight on this. Looks like I have a decision to make

I do agree with you about services being important; I wish there was a more private way to answer those questions, but alas, there is none.  
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I find it such a difficult predicament that if one wants to use the internet but stay UTR, BackPage is really the only option, but it's the riskiest because no one screens. As soon as you want to advertise elsewhere for safety, all the details come out, leaving an internet trail you can never erase. It's really picking your poison. I almost prefer staying under the radar, but it appears I have a decision to make.
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Have I mentioned that I can't wait to save up enough to visit a country where all of this is decriminalized?
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Re: being a control freak, definitely not. I don't want to go into my background publicly, but let's just say I'm used to going viral - often inadvertently - and have managed to do so several times over ever since I started using the internet. I have a knack for it it seems. I'm used to people saying things that are entirely out of my control - I'm just not usually concerned about whether or not those things are legal.
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Thank you for appreciating the quotes I used, as well as my pictures - I did everything (the pictures, my site, the writing) myself and it's nice to have my expression of this side of myself appreciated

Excellent, thank you! Once I realized that pics get scraped, I started watermarking them. I (rather naively in hindsight) didn't realize that BP ads get scraped into oblivion or I probably would have never posted there to begin with.

Now I'm not an expert on this, but I think realistically, if a lawyer were to mention in front of a jury that there are 20 reviews all stating that the person in question has exchanged sexual favors for money during examination - that jury is going to form an opinion before your lawyer can even object to it.
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More importantly, and what is likely a bigger issue, is that cops who might otherwise be lenient with you assuming this is your first offense are less likely to be so when they see you have a significant documented history. It also paints a bigger target on you: take down a provider with 20 reviews, and she could potentially flip and give information on those reviewers to avoid prosecution. And the day cops decide to subpoena records... I do not want to be the guy that wrote a bunch of reviews on here. Men truly have more to risk by participating in this behavior for short term gain.
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Personally, I think it would be better if TER allowed reviewers to specify either price or activity, but not both. This way it would be legal, and once a provider has enough reviews, you could still get the overall picture. But hey, what do I know? 😜

Blurting out inadmissible stuff in front of a jury would be grounds for a mistrial due to the potential for prejudicing them.  

Many TER reviews I read aren't explicit at all.  I also don't write "explicit" reviews myself.  There's enough detail to tell potential clients what they need to know about the provider and enough detail to justify the score I gave, but that's it. I read several non-explicit reviews just today. Maybe they don't all get through, but a lot of them do.  It can be done. Thus I don't agree that living with explicit reviews or having a no-review policy are the only realistic options.