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Re: Remember JLA ifind that behavior odd from a professional
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provider i.e getting too personal or talking about hanging out. so if you do the same after only one or two meetings, it's equally out of line.

I just saw the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and now I am thinking maybe I should try to make this girl my gf. I think I might have picked up on some signs, not sure though.  

She's a really cool girl. Here are some of the signs let me know if you think they are significant. First, she told me kissing is OK so we were kissing a lot during the session. Then she let me cum twice and she was like “I don't usually let guys go multiple times but in this case yeah it's alright;)” Do you think she's trying to hint at something? Then she was like asking me what I do and if I go to any of the clubs in my area of Seattle cause she used to live there in that part of town and I think she might have been hinting that she wanted to bump into me downtown sometime or go out with me sometime IDK is my mind just getting carried away here? She seemed kind of like party club girl type you know what I mean? And I told her I wasn't really into that scene. We are kind of different people, but maybe she's feeling like she's ready to settle down? She smiled when I said I wasn't really into that. Maybe she's only ever been around people like that and looking for a change. Maybe i'm unlike any guy she's ever met before?? We were also telling each other about where we were from and she was saying some of her plans for the future. Also, she seemed to enjoy it when we were banging.  

Now my mind is just racing with all these tough questions that I'm not really prepared to answer at this point. What if she wants to keep her job? On the one hand she makes a ton of money, on the other hand I would have to share my beautiful girl with other ppl. ???? Also she seems to enjoy a very expensive lifestyle, not sure I could support her in that way. Maybe she is ready at this point in her life to live more moderately. Maybe she has just been waiting for the right nice guy to come into her life like a knight in armor. Maybe that guy is me??  

Should I just ask her "will you be my gf?" Unless you think I should just text her or call her might be weird though. I could invite her to do something like when I'm not paying her. I have extra tickets to a game I could ask her if she wanted to go with me. Damn! Can you imagine if she said yes?? I'd look like an effing movie star walking in there!!!!  

I feel like this is like gambling and I don't know if I"m a gambler. If I do it I could gain her as a gf but if things go south she might not want me as a client once i express interest like this. I don't know if it's a risk I should take. Every decision we make changes our lives forever. Do you think she was sending some signs my way? What should I do? I really felt a connection here.

You've seen this ahem (hooker) one time, and now you think you're in love? Where do you saps come from? We await that 10/10 review.

-- Modified on 4/11/2013 9:37:36 AM

first of all, how old are you???  

 
No offense but everything that this provider did, was part of being a GFE and the fact you start thinking of her like that, means she did it very well...  

But we know how to flatter men, and we do tell guys things to make them feel special... but the msog being one of those? I am sure she tells all guys that...  

Talking about her life, goals, hobbies? she was just trying to connect and kill time ...  

and gfe providers do kiss..

you are wayyy jumping the gun sweetie, esp if you have only seen her once?????  

In fact, you may scare her off, by coming on so strong, needy, and clingy.  

If you like her, my suggestion is to realize that she will be your GF during your appt, and MAYBE she will  start hanging out OTC, and as you slowly get to know each other, you can feel her out and see if thats even something she is interested in with you....  

Chances are though hun, she just was a very good GFE

thanks for the reply. yeah I'm new at this and yeah this was our first time. you're probably right i guess my mind and heart just get carried away. I"ll just continue normally maybe act a little disinterested so I don't come on too strong

The nice guy with a bit of a asshole streak lol  

Confidence is sexy. Acting like you are in love after the only meeting to a woman is most definitely not sexy!!!! Those guys tend to be push overs, and the yes dear guys...  

most women dont want that! They want a man to excite them, and act like he is the one who can take em or leave em..

GaGambler1247 reads

Oh sorry, I just saw the asshole part and just assumed you were talking about me. Then I saw that other part about being a "nice guy" and realized you must be talking about someone else. My bad. lol

Oh come on, are you really telling the poor guy that you don't find limp dicked, sissy, love struck puppy dogs, sexy? I see the hearts of manginas everywhere breaking as they read your post. Of course most of them don't think that you are talking about them, You are obviously talking about someone else. rofl

Same story...different perspectives

I found where the mangina's are hiding...it's on the newbie board  LOL

Posted By: GaGambler
Oh sorry, I just saw the asshole part and just assumed you were talking about me. Then I saw that other part about being a "nice guy" and realized you must be talking about someone else. My bad. lol

Oh come on, are you really telling the poor guy that you don't find limp dicked, sissy, love struck puppy dogs, sexy? I see the hearts of manginas everywhere breaking as they read your post. Of course most of them don't think that you are talking about them, You are obviously talking about someone else. rofl

submissive men! I just have no respect for a man who lets me walk all over him lol! A push over man just does not seem masculine to me..  

Dont get me wrong, I can be bossy lol  but I need a man to put me in my place, who can take control over me, bossiness and brattyness and all.... lol  

Maybe I have daddy issues because my dad died when I was 7.5 lol and I was always "daddys princess" lol  

He was a total man's man... hunted, sailed, fished, watched sports religiously, spray painted his old ford truck camo, went camping etc..

I love men like that lo

do you think it would be out of line or freak her out if next time we're together i just said something like "btw I've got an extra ticket to the game tonight do you wanna go?" is that coming on too strong? I don't want her to not want to see me as a client so if you think it'd be better i'll just act casual and see if she ever invites me to do something off the clock

earthshined1079 reads

provider i.e getting too personal or talking about hanging out. so if you do the same after only one or two meetings, it's equally out of line.

Posted By: jeanlouisandre
do you think it would be out of line or freak her out if next time we're together i just said something like "btw I've got an extra ticket to the game tonight do you wanna go?" is that coming on too strong? I don't want her to not want to see me as a client so if you think it'd be better i'll just act casual and see if she ever invites me to do something off the clock
I believe it was HiddenHills that gave you the best advice when he stated "My advice, move on, try seeing a few other providers before you repeat".  You may be surprised how quickly those feelings go away after seeing a few other providers who are also "good" at their "job".  If the feelings don't go away then quit the hobby because it is most definitely not for you

for any other provider at any time.  

there would no advantage for any hobbyist over the other.

FIDCUOF1072 reads

SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING THAT BACK-IN-BLACK DID WHEN HE WAS A YOUNG PUPPY

Thinking with the wrong head my man!!!!!!! She sounds like a smart business lady and is playing with you to make more money or to scam you out of some. If she wanted to be your GF money wouldnt have been paid to her for something a couple does for free. Ya she may be beautiful, fun, flirty, a total porn star in bed but isn't all that part of her job never mind being good at her job!!!!!! It still her JOB!!!!!!!

that's why it's called GFE. My advice, move on, try seeing a few other providers before you repeat.
 

Posted By: jeanlouisandre
I just saw the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and now I am thinking maybe I should try to make this girl my gf. I think I might have picked up on some signs, not sure though.  
   
 She's a really cool girl. Here are some of the signs let me know if you think they are significant. First, she told me kissing is OK so we were kissing a lot during the session. Then she let me cum twice and she was like “I don't usually let guys go multiple times but in this case yeah it's alright;)” Do you think she's trying to hint at something? Then she was like asking me what I do and if I go to any of the clubs in my area of Seattle cause she used to live there in that part of town and I think she might have been hinting that she wanted to bump into me downtown sometime or go out with me sometime IDK is my mind just getting carried away here? She seemed kind of like party club girl type you know what I mean? And I told her I wasn't really into that scene. We are kind of different people, but maybe she's feeling like she's ready to settle down? She smiled when I said I wasn't really into that. Maybe she's only ever been around people like that and looking for a change. Maybe i'm unlike any guy she's ever met before?? We were also telling each other about where we were from and she was saying some of her plans for the future. Also, she seemed to enjoy it when we were banging.  
   
 Now my mind is just racing with all these tough questions that I'm not really prepared to answer at this point. What if she wants to keep her job? On the one hand she makes a ton of money, on the other hand I would have to share my beautiful girl with other ppl. ???? Also she seems to enjoy a very expensive lifestyle, not sure I could support her in that way. Maybe she is ready at this point in her life to live more moderately. Maybe she has just been waiting for the right nice guy to come into her life like a knight in armor. Maybe that guy is me??  
   
 Should I just ask her "will you be my gf?" Unless you think I should just text her or call her might be weird though. I could invite her to do something like when I'm not paying her. I have extra tickets to a game I could ask her if she wanted to go with me. Damn! Can you imagine if she said yes?? I'd look like an effing movie star walking in there!!!!  
   
 I feel like this is like gambling and I don't know if I"m a gambler. If I do it I could gain her as a gf but if things go south she might not want me as a client once i express interest like this. I don't know if it's a risk I should take. Every decision we make changes our lives forever. Do you think she was sending some signs my way? What should I do? I really felt a connection here.

GLS985 reads

You can fall in love again and again and again..
Just keep it our secret....

-- Modified on 4/11/2013 10:50:32 AM

Can I get an invite to the nuptials?

Udo didn't want others to share in his happy BBFS moment...maybe you're different?

Phook999933 reads

and she let you pop not once...but twice?  

Wow! Yes, I think it's obvious this girl wants to settle down and date you. You must be that special guy she's been looking for all along.  

Definitely, send her a text asking if she will quit the biz and become your boyfriend.  I'm sure she will love that.  Also, best to start looking at venues for your wedding reception, you need to start planning that at least a year in advance.

top that off with the surge of post-coital hormones (useful to keep maurading dinos from eatting the women & children...  kind of obsolete in the modern world).  
You are new, so I'll be patient.  This belongs on the Newbie board, really.  You are NOT in Love with her.  She is NOT in Love with you.  Clingy customers are potential stalkers & DANGEROUS for a provider.  Most providers will refuse to see you if they think you are getting too attached.  Unscrupilious ones will game you, ask you for money and then break your heart.  GFE IS AN ILLUSION.  We love it but when the door closes between you, she's not your GF.

As a newbie, you need to get control of your feeling or quit the hobby before something bad happens to you.  I will not say that providers & hobbiests never get together because there are a couple of members here where it has...  but it is a stressful complex relationship akin to a minefield.  Many more attempt this only to fail.  Providers sometimes retire from the business for a relationship...  only to reappear months to years later.  

I have gotten to know a couple of providers (not claiming to be a scientific sample) & their real life selfs are nowhere near the GFE personna they provide.

a believer.  This is part of the marketing strategy that providers use to get you to return again and again.  Don't get me wrong, there are certain ladies a see again and again because I enjoy being in their company.  None of them are getting a ring, a loan, or anything else from me.

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