Re: Remember, you are not required or obligated...........

I just had to refuse a possible date. Too bad, but i do not wish to compromise my safety. It was about screening info. I politely stated that it looked like we were not a match and wished him all the best, simple and sweet. DO NOT compromise your safety. I trust my instincts and there are too many nice gents with NO problem providing references etc...Just not worth it. As far as sending emails and then no contact, remember that us gals spend an enormous amount of time corresponding and reg delete emails for discretion, i would reccomend a reminder email with any pertinent info, i know it helps me Kisses, Belle.

This is an excellent question. And can go one of two ways (in my experience).

The first, you can do what others have suggested and gently say you feel an incompatibility or some such and hope he gets it and does not pursue this polite refusal.

My experience with this tactic is a) it works and all is good OR b) the gent wants to know WHY? This can become difficult because those that ask why, rarely can handle the truth and it then becomes a nightmare and eventually leads to the blocking of that individuals email addy.

What do I do...say I am unavailable OR that I feel we are incompatible. Any return email that asks why is deleted and then blocked. I gave up on telling the truth after a marathon almost argument with one heavy hitter on my local board, I finally had to tell him that the email exchange was enough to put me off. He would not take no for an answer and that led me to believe that he probably wouldn't take no for an answer when  alone with me.