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Re: questions about emails or texts to providers
hound_dog69 41 Reviews 544 reads
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You seem to know not to ask about rates, unless they don't have them posted.

Definitely do not mix rate questions with ANY service related questions, no matter how obscure. Generally "service" questions will get you on her do not call list.

I think your problem may be simple.

In your second text, DO NOT ask where her location is. If her location is not clear from her ads, etc. then it is appropriate to ask her general area (i.e. "downtown Boston", or better, suggest areas that work for you and ask if you can work out a mutual location.

Related to the above, you're moving it along too fast. If you think she's a good fit for you, rates, general location, etc. Ask what info she needs from you (if it isn't listed on her web site) for screening.

If she does not screen, run. Once you're screened, then finalize a date, general area (DFW airport hotel district), time and duration. Depending on how far out the appointment is, re-confirm AT LEAST the day before.

The day of your meeting, contact her again and ask her to send you a more specific location. Let her know when you need the info so that you can get from wherever you'll be to wherever you need to go. Let her know if you'll be unavailable to reply.

When you get to the rendezvous location, one last contact to get her exact location.

I am fair new to this. Just had my second encounter. Looking around on this board, it seems to me that lot of fellas here believe email and text is easier than phone call when it comes to contact a provider. But my situation is the total opposite one.

My two experiences are both arranged over the phone. And before that I have written emails and texts to several providers already, but none of them has borne any fruit.

Most of time my emails or texts  have been ignored, no responses at all. There is a few times I did get responses, and when I was so happy then tried to setup detail of time and place to meet, the providers just disappeared, no responses again.

Did I do something wrong? have to say my emails and texts are the exact transcripts of my phone calls. But for phone calls, till now as long as providers picked up, we always have nice conversations, no matter whether they lead to a deal or not.

BTW, here is a typical email or text I will send to a provider:
XXX saw you ads on XXX, really interested, wonder if you have time to arrange an in-call at sometime? And by the way what is your rate?(if they don't post rate on their ads)

And for times I did get responses back, that they comfirmed they were able to arrange it. I sent the follow and got no responses again:
Great, deal! let's set the time. And where is your incall locations?

Really what have I done wrong?

What ive learned so far, its not good to communicate with providers who arent verified. If you called from an Ad that had no rate, you should have been able to find it from her links or here on TER.
Now if she did have a rate posted somewhere that is somewhat easy to find, and you are emailing her asking about what her rates are, then maybe she refused to answer you for the reason that you didnt do the research.
I called a provider once and she refused to continue talking to me when i told her i hadnt visited her site.

You seem to know not to ask about rates, unless they don't have them posted.

Definitely do not mix rate questions with ANY service related questions, no matter how obscure. Generally "service" questions will get you on her do not call list.

I think your problem may be simple.

In your second text, DO NOT ask where her location is. If her location is not clear from her ads, etc. then it is appropriate to ask her general area (i.e. "downtown Boston", or better, suggest areas that work for you and ask if you can work out a mutual location.

Related to the above, you're moving it along too fast. If you think she's a good fit for you, rates, general location, etc. Ask what info she needs from you (if it isn't listed on her web site) for screening.

If she does not screen, run. Once you're screened, then finalize a date, general area (DFW airport hotel district), time and duration. Depending on how far out the appointment is, re-confirm AT LEAST the day before.

The day of your meeting, contact her again and ask her to send you a more specific location. Let her know when you need the info so that you can get from wherever you'll be to wherever you need to go. Let her know if you'll be unavailable to reply.

When you get to the rendezvous location, one last contact to get her exact location.

Especially if you are new.

Take the time to tell her a little about yourself.  Basics:  age, what you enjoy (totally non sexual, things like type of music, etc.).  She has essentially nothing about you.  Part of what you need to do is give her a reason to be comfortable with you.  When you become more than a two-line e-mail and become a person on the other end of the computer you will start getting more replies.

Thanks a lot for all the useful advices. I got it now. Will try to put more info into the email next time and do more research, not asking for rate. Gosh, Hope I can go a hot date soon.

OK so it is nice that all the guys are here helping you :) But it would have been niceif a provider answered you ..
They probably do not want to come off bitchy but personally.. I prefer honestly to little bo peep so :)

Ok to be honest



Do not ask me where my location is , maybe a basic area like this:

Whar area are you in? I am in Eastern XX county.

Do not ask me how much it is ,that info is clearly posted on my site .

Do not ask me if I am greek friendly it is in my reviews both in the stories of the gents as well as up top on my profile .

DO not book me personally as well as 3 other girls unless you plan on bringing them with you ....

Do not call me , email me for schedule info and then i will let you know when I am available as well as when is a good time to call me.

Do read carefully, if the reviews say 2 call system that means you speak on the phone with the lady exactly 2 times.Both the day of one about an hr before one as you arrive in the area and then i guide you to me no location discloser before that .Sorry.

Also to be honest your worrying about her schedule is a reflection of how you feel after having sex not her. If you are wiped out that is great she did her job .if she is wiped out as well then you may have booked a guy..Girls well we are different:) We do not need to rise to the occassion and if she is a good provider knows her own limits , you are worried about a professionasl seeing others.Need I say more??? Good luck to you .Kendall

Thanks Kendall. A provider's input is always needed for balance. Nothing butch there. Just succinct ;-)

I would like to acknowledge the OP as he did seem to know to not ask about rates - you had to read carefully - and as he implied, there are some ads which do not state rates.

Probably the best thing to do is move on if no rates are listed anywhere. Along those lines... some ladies sites are not very friendly and you have to work to find info. I usually avoid those too. I believe the site reflects the provider.

hound_dog69 you are right. Sometimes it is better to move on, lots of great providers are out there. Should't hang on one tree.

Hi, Kendall,
Thank you!! it is great you can offer the thoughts on the provider's side. I really appreciate. Now a clear pic of what is appropriate is presented.
Thanks!

In that statement you're also missing the other important point that was brought up: do not ask for the in-call location in the way you are bringing it up! Any implication that you are asking about the specific location of the incall in the first or second email will likely lead to no response.

You can inquire about general area. That is appropriate as, in areas like mine, driving time will vary wildly based on area and that effects when I'd be able to schedule. Even this I do in a way that explains what I'm asking and why I need to know so the lady doesn't misunderstand my intentions.

Pay attention to what her ad says. All my ads say no Texts but I still receive texts, I do not respond to those. All my ads include rates but I still get ask about rates,  again, I don't respond to those unless they are asking about a multi hour session that I did not list on my rates. If you include anything about a seexual act, I do not respond.
If you are just responding to ads without checking to see if she has reviews and a website, you may run into some trouble there.
Good Luck, stick to well reviewed ladies and you should have no problem.

Thank you for the suggestion. I will try be discreet and do my research next time.

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